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30 Beautiful Ways to Say I Love You to the One You Care

30 Beautiful Ways to Say I Love You to the One You Care

Did you know that in ancient cultures, May was the month that many celebrated love and getting married? It’s an old May Day tradition, from Germany, that included the Maypole Dance for eligible young women. So it’s no coincidence that we are talking about love in a month that was originally all about love!

Speak Those Magic Words!

Saying “I love you” for the first time can be one of the most scariest endeavors in a person’s life. It’s a vulnerable moment and you aren’t quite sure if the person you love feels the same way. While we don’t always get the same validation, we certainly want it! When to say I love you is often the other hurdle to overcome. Not everyone wants to have a cliche movie moment standing in the rain declaring love after a little argument. And yet, some people do want a very dramatic way of saying those three little words.

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Avoid the Autopilot

Some of you out there may have already said it but now it feels like you are on autopilot. My sweetheart and I tell each other every morning and every evening we love each other. While it’s comforting, it can also easily lose it’s meaning without expressing it in other ways. It is important to express it in more than just words because our actions show more about how we truly feel for someone.

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Remember, Not All Love Needs to Be Romantic

Let’s also acknowledge that not all love is romantic in nature. We have familial love for our children, parents, and extended family. We have platonic love for our friends and even close acquaintances. We may say “I love you” to a lot of people in the course of our lifetime, all of which enjoy hearing those words but can benefit from various forms of expression as well. I am going to provide a few ways to express love to different types of relationships. I challenge you to try them over the next 30 days and see how it affects your relationships and your every day life!

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Express love to your partner (or your friends and family!)

  1. Create a music playlist of love songs for them to listen to when you are away.
  2. Create a power point on why you love them.
  3. Cook one of their favorite dishes.
  4. Dance together, even if you don’t know how!
  5. Plan a romantic getaway for the weekend and surprise them.
  6. Give them a hug and then hold tight and prolong it.
  7. Picnic at the park at sunset so you can watch it together.
  8. Kiss them and kiss them often.
  9. Talk about that first time you met and why you were so attracted to them.
  10. Save cards, event tickets, and dried flowers.
  11. Write them love letters. Leave them where they can find them or mail them.
  12. Take selfies often!
  13. When they do something sweet, make you laugh, or just talk about something they are passionate about, remind them that it’s why you love them.
  14. Buy them a cup of their favorite coffee or tea.
  15. When they do something special, remind them that it’s why you are together.
  16. Bring them ice cream when they are sad.
  17. Call them up and just ask them what’s going on in their lives.
  18. Have a “friends date” once a month.
  19. Be available when they are having a hard time.
  20. Be available when they are experiencing immense joy.
  21. Buy them that book they haven’t bought for themselves.
  22. Throw them a birthday party.
  23. Send them a card in the mail letting them know they are special, for no reason!
  24. When they talk about something personal, listen first. Don’t hurry to offer advice.
  25. Leave a random note on the car windshield that says “I appreciate you”.
  26. Take them to a movie that you know they love and you would never see on your own.
  27. Go to networking events with them. Let them know their success matters!
  28. When tragedy strikes, hold one another.
  29. When joy occurs, laugh and smile with one another.
  30. Tell them why you appreciate them.

There are so many ways to express love without sticking to the three magical words. What is your favorite way to express love?

Featured photo credit: Stocksnap via stocksnap.io

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Last Updated on October 14, 2020

Psychologists Say It’s Really Possible To Change Our Personality

Psychologists Say It’s Really Possible To Change Our Personality

Do you feel that you can become a better person, but your personality is hindering you from doing so?

Are you one of those people who is making a conscious effort to change, but no matter how hard you try, you remain a prisoner of your personality traits?

Don’t lose hope – it is indeed possible to change your personality!

Personality Crisis

According to the widely accepted model of personality with over 50 years worth of research and study, there are five dimensions of our personality, known as the “Big Five:”

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  • Extraversion: People with high levels of this personality dimension are much more outgoing and tend to be more comfortable in social situations compared to others.
  • Agreeableness: Your level in this dimension determines whether you are more cooperative with other people or competitive (even to the point of being manipulative) with other people.
  • Conscientiousness: Thoughtful people who have high levels of this trait dimension are much more detail-oriented and driven.
  • Neuroticism: Moodiness and the propensity for sadness are associated with people who possess excessive amounts of this personality dimension.
  • Openness: Imaginative and insightful people are very receptive to change and new experiences, whereas those who are not are much more stubborn and reluctant to try out new things.

These personality dimensions are further shaped by our genetics and our upbringing, the latter of which also involves our living environment and culture. These factors ultimately help shape your personality as you grow up, some of which could lead to personality disorders.

However, your personality is never fully set in stone. In fact, it is not uncommon for adults to tweak their personalities as they prepare themselves for new challenges and life situations. For example, stubborn partners will find themselves making an effort to become more cooperative with their loved ones if they want their relationship to work. While these instances may not necessarily lead to positive results, it is evidence enough that changing your personality is not impossible.

The question that begs to be asked is this:

How Much Effort Are People Willing to Put in to Make That Change?

According to a recent study at the University of Illinois, only 13% of respondents were satisfied with their personalities – most of them wanted to change for the better. However, instead of encouraging these people to get help from experts or take courses, R. Chris Fraley and Nathan Hudson conducted different tests instead to see if the respondents can quantify their personalities to make the necessary changes. The results of the test were published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, which you can view here.

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The first experiment involved an introductory psychology class, who were educated about the Big Five personality dimensions and asked to grade their personalities by filling out a rating form. They were then asked if they wanted something to change in their personality over the 16-week period of this study. To do this, they needed to find a way to change their undesirable personality traits using goals and metrics to track their progress.

Among the 135 participants, half joined the “change plan” condition, in which they were given writing assignments over the same period to assess the changes they need to make for their personalities. Every week, they were also required to complete additional writing assignments to evaluate their progress further. The other half were not asked to write – instead, they were placed in a controlled setting and were provided feedback about their development.

The second experiment involved roughly the same number of participants. The only variable that Fraley and Hudson changed is that, instead of focusing on personality traits, they targeted daily behavior related to the traits that defined their personalities.

The result of both experiments demonstrates the capacity for people to make breakthroughs with their personalities. Participants were able to make strides by getting better scores on personality traits that they wanted to improve. However, the comprehensive change plans only had a modest impact on the actual changes in personality. Also, the 16-week period for the study was not enough for the participants to make the drastic changes one might expect.

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Steps to a Better You

Now that you are aware that you can still change your personality, below are some proactive steps that you can take so you can make the change as early as possible.

1. Do not let “labels” define you

You are not a shy and timid person. Nor are you a cold and callous one. You are simply a person full of potential to change and become a better version of yourself every day. You can be anything, as long as you put your mind to it.

2. Do good deeds

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Getting rid of a terrible personality can start with doing something good. A study published in Motivation and Emotion suggests that engaging in acts of kindness allows you to overcome anxiety. Letting the focus from yourself shift to others leads to more opportunities for social engagement.

3. Just wait

If you cannot force change, then let it come to you. According to a study conducted at the University of Manchester and the London School of Economics, change that naturally takes place is not out of the question. The more you undergo transformative experiences in life as you grow older, the more chances that changes in your personality take place.

At the end of the day, change is inevitable. As mentioned above, our personalities are shaped by our experiences in life. By exposing ourselves to positive experiences that we can live by and keeping an open mind for our own identities, there is no doubt that change for the better is indeed possible.

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