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All Successful People Have a Self Actualized Mindset. Do You Have It?

All Successful People Have a Self Actualized Mindset. Do You Have It?

Do you want to know what’s holding you back? Unlike conventional wisdom, it’s got nothing to do with how much money you have, a lack of education, or a limited social network. Of course, these are all factors which contribute to your overall success, but the one factor that will make or break you all comes down to a belief in yourself.

Unfortunately, with the amount of external pressure a person receives in this day and age, a person’s beliefs are no longer his or her own. With an abundance of information and influence coming from parents, peers, partners, television, internet, billboards and social media, it is hard to find space to make up your own mind these days.

Signs you need to switch to a self-actualized mindset

The ability to remove yourself from these channels of influence and control your own mind and emotions means adopting a self-actualized mindset.

People who do not have the ability to self-actualize usually demonstrate the following traits:

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• An inability to make up their own mind

• Indecisiveness

• Anxiety and emotional stress

• Fear of taking risks and new challenges

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• Self-criticism

Characteristics of a Self-Actualized Mindset

Self-actualization is a process of moving away from these symptoms and heightening your sense of self-awareness, but not in a way where you overly and unjustifiably become negative on yourself. Rather, self-actualization involves looking at oneself in the mirror and being critical in a way that positively leads to pragmatic changes.

A self-actualized person tends to:

• Reach his or her own conclusions without external influences

• Recognize their own fears, but faces those challenges regardless

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• Self-critique themselves for personal improvements

• Experiences minimal anxiety and stress

Adopt the self-actualized mindset

Adopting a self-actualized does not happen overnight. Although there are a few simple steps you can follow to allow your mind become more independent and naturally become self-actualized.

Face the man in the mirror

The first mistake many people make is that they compare their progress to those around them. This leads to a sense of failure and unnecessary stress. Self-actualization, as the name implies, starts with the self and that means you need to start looking into the mirror and trying to improve that person looking back at you. This includes becoming a better version of you today than you were yesterday. If you can start doing that, you are well on your way to becoming self-actualized.

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Go from being self-critical to being self-analytical

People who do not have a self-actualized mindset tend to be overly critical. A good test is to ask yourself how often you use superlatives in your self-talk. For example, have you ever caught yourself saying something like “I ALWAYS forget to take the trash out, I am SO forgetful.” The reality is most of us have spoken like this in one way or another, and it is damaging to our mindset. Self-actualized individuals have a holistic approach to criticism and that means accepting their strengths and weaknesses. They can then find a way to improve their weaknesses pragmatically while taking advantage of their strengths.

Understand that you are your own boss

It’s tough to eradicate external influences, but if you have performed step 2 correctly, you are well on your way to understanding you have control over your own mindset. You know what you want, where you need to improve, and you know what you need to do in order to reach your goals. Forget what other people say and focus on you.

Never be satisfied with current success

Self-actualization is about accepting that life is about getting better every day. Self-actualized individuals are not superheroes. Rather, they are people who accept their challenges, but face them anyway knowing they will grow as an individual. Self-actualization does not mean winning one victory and being content with that. It means moving onto the next thing and using the momentum from your victory to keep growing. Only then will you achieve a self-actualized mindset.

Featured photo credit: Kingsley Huang via flickr.com

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Last Updated on April 1, 2019

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

When we talk about happiness, we often think about staying happy all the time – every single day, every single minute with zero negativity. Many try to pursue this constant state of “happiness” as their ultimate goal, and avoid anything that may take it away from them.

But, what is the meaning of this type of “happiness”?

It’s a lot like your favorite food. The more often you have it isn’t always better. On the contrary, when you only have a chance to eat it sparingly, that’s when you really savor every bite. So is it the food itself that makes you happy, or is it how valuable it is to you when you are eating it?

Always remember that only by experiencing sadness do we understand what it is to be happy.

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Video Summary

Don’t Assume Others Are Always Happy

Most people see those who have seemingly perfect lives and assume they are happy all the time. Since childhood, we are conditioned to chase the idea of “happily-ever-after” that we see in fairytales. On social media, everyone tends to share only the best looking aspects of their lives. So, it’s very easy to have a distorted view of what “happiness” is around us.

In reality, there is always something missing, something lacking, or something unpleasant.

No one has a perfect life. Even the most glamorous celebrities or the richest billionaires have their own set of challenges and problems.

When we feel negative, we’re only focusing on a small fluctuating curve. As CEO of Lifehack, I’ve had to deal with countless problems, and some of them felt like real setbacks at the time. During those moments, it really seemed like these problems would be the life or death of my company and my life goals. But, I got through them; and, weeks, months and eventually years passed with many more ups and downs.

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You need to keep your sights on the extended curve.  Looking back now, a lot of those “really big” problems at the time now seem like only small blips in a long line of experiences. Recalling them in my mind now makes me smile!

Stop Trying to Be Happy–Just Be

It’s natural to want to be happy as often as possible.

So what can we do?

First, throw away the belief that a perfect life means happiness. Personally, I would be miserable if everything was perfect. It’s through experiencing the pains of lifelong challenges that drives us to care for others when they are experiencing similar trials. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t be able to empathize. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t grow.

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To be truly happy, stop chasing permanent happiness.

It sounds like a paradox. But, what I mean is to accept that there will be ups and downs throughout life. Gracefully understand that happiness is a fluctuation of positive and negative events.

Understand the importance of gratitude. Instead of focusing on the unpleasant moment, flash back your memory to when you didn’t have something. I like to think about my career, for example. When I didn’t have a career I was passionate about, I felt lost and demotivated. I felt like everyone was figuring out their lives but me. But, when I found my purpose and started Lifehack, I was deeply happy, even before I realized I would be successful! This memory keeps me going when I hit tough spots. It takes the darkness to make us grateful for the light.

Happiness and Sadness Exist Together

What it all comes down to is this: your life will be filled with beautiful, happy and incredible moments–happy tears and joyous shouts and funny stories. But, your life will also be filled with rain and storms that never seem like they will pass while you’re going through them.

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But, whether your face is warmed by the sunshine, or your heart is dampened by the rain, know that it’s all part of the ebb and flow of life.

Treasure the happy moments and power through the sad ones. Don’t try to avoid “sad” or “negative” experiences, and blindly chase being “happy”. In the end you will achieve a true level of contentment in your life, based on meaningful experiences and achievements. Being able to create growth and meaning out of both positive and negative events — that is the true meaning of “happiness”.

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