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All Successful People Have a Self Actualized Mindset. Do You Have It?

All Successful People Have a Self Actualized Mindset. Do You Have It?

Do you want to know what’s holding you back? Unlike conventional wisdom, it’s got nothing to do with how much money you have, a lack of education, or a limited social network. Of course, these are all factors which contribute to your overall success, but the one factor that will make or break you all comes down to a belief in yourself.

Unfortunately, with the amount of external pressure a person receives in this day and age, a person’s beliefs are no longer his or her own. With an abundance of information and influence coming from parents, peers, partners, television, internet, billboards and social media, it is hard to find space to make up your own mind these days.

Signs you need to switch to a self-actualized mindset

The ability to remove yourself from these channels of influence and control your own mind and emotions means adopting a self-actualized mindset.

People who do not have the ability to self-actualize usually demonstrate the following traits:

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• An inability to make up their own mind

• Indecisiveness

• Anxiety and emotional stress

• Fear of taking risks and new challenges

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• Self-criticism

Characteristics of a Self-Actualized Mindset

Self-actualization is a process of moving away from these symptoms and heightening your sense of self-awareness, but not in a way where you overly and unjustifiably become negative on yourself. Rather, self-actualization involves looking at oneself in the mirror and being critical in a way that positively leads to pragmatic changes.

A self-actualized person tends to:

• Reach his or her own conclusions without external influences

• Recognize their own fears, but faces those challenges regardless

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• Self-critique themselves for personal improvements

• Experiences minimal anxiety and stress

Adopt the self-actualized mindset

Adopting a self-actualized does not happen overnight. Although there are a few simple steps you can follow to allow your mind become more independent and naturally become self-actualized.

Face the man in the mirror

The first mistake many people make is that they compare their progress to those around them. This leads to a sense of failure and unnecessary stress. Self-actualization, as the name implies, starts with the self and that means you need to start looking into the mirror and trying to improve that person looking back at you. This includes becoming a better version of you today than you were yesterday. If you can start doing that, you are well on your way to becoming self-actualized.

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Go from being self-critical to being self-analytical

People who do not have a self-actualized mindset tend to be overly critical. A good test is to ask yourself how often you use superlatives in your self-talk. For example, have you ever caught yourself saying something like “I ALWAYS forget to take the trash out, I am SO forgetful.” The reality is most of us have spoken like this in one way or another, and it is damaging to our mindset. Self-actualized individuals have a holistic approach to criticism and that means accepting their strengths and weaknesses. They can then find a way to improve their weaknesses pragmatically while taking advantage of their strengths.

Understand that you are your own boss

It’s tough to eradicate external influences, but if you have performed step 2 correctly, you are well on your way to understanding you have control over your own mindset. You know what you want, where you need to improve, and you know what you need to do in order to reach your goals. Forget what other people say and focus on you.

Never be satisfied with current success

Self-actualization is about accepting that life is about getting better every day. Self-actualized individuals are not superheroes. Rather, they are people who accept their challenges, but face them anyway knowing they will grow as an individual. Self-actualization does not mean winning one victory and being content with that. It means moving onto the next thing and using the momentum from your victory to keep growing. Only then will you achieve a self-actualized mindset.

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Last Updated on February 1, 2019

How to Increase Your Self Awareness to Be Much More Successful

How to Increase Your Self Awareness to Be Much More Successful

Self awareness can be defined as having a clear understanding of your personality, including your beliefs, emotions, motivation, strengths and weaknesses.

A 2010 study by Green Peak Partners and Cornell’s School of Industrial and Labor Relations found that self awareness is a key and common characteristic of successful leaders. [1]

And research[2] by the Driehaus College of Business at De Paul University has also demonstrated that high self awareness leads to improved team performance.

Self Awareness Makes You Improve Much Faster Than the Others

“If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me.” – Ralicoph Waldo Emerson

Self awareness allows us to understand who we are, and how others see us. From this, we can determine how similar or different we are to other people.

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Individuals with high self awareness tend to live happier and more fulfilling lives. That’s because being self aware brings several powerful benefits, including:

  • Finding and expressing your authentic self.
  • Being proactive, instead of reactive.
  • Enjoying positive and harmonious interpersonal relationships.
  • Having deeper thoughts.
  • Revealing your true purpose.

One secret behind the magic of self awareness, is the fact that being self aware allows you to see your weaknesses. Once you know what they are, you can then act accordingly to fix them (where possible).

As an example, think back to a time when you achieved a major success in your life. Your confidence jumped off the scale, and suddenly, everything in your life began to look rosy. However, success was fleeting, and before long you were not only back where you started – but had lost your initial faith and confidence too.

Instead of seeing this as bad luck or personal failure, the better response would be to analyze exactly what happened.

What caused your success? What caused your failure? And what could you have done differently?

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By answering these questions, you’ll gain insight into your decision making and personality traits. Most importantly, you’ll be able to discover where you went wrong, and how you could avoid this next time around. This is how self awareness becomes a crucial partner in reaching your dreams and goals.

How to Increase Your Self Awareness

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom.” – Lao-Tze

Okay, you’ve now seen some of the ways that self awareness can boost your success in life. (And we’ve only scratched the surface of potential benefits.)

It’s now time to reveal several tips and techniques that will increase your self awareness.

Take a psychometric test: You’ll understand more about yourself

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Psychometric tests are ideal for raising your self awareness. The tests force you to think deeply about yourself, and how your react to different situations. Self reflection = Self awareness. Try this free, 100-question psychometric test offered by the University of Cambridge.

Keep a personal journal: It can reduce anxiety and depression at the same time

Writing a daily journal can be a great tool for increasing your self awareness. If your writing is honest and open, you’ll quickly discover things about yourself that you’d never previously realised. You’ll also begin to see how habits create your conditions. For self awareness purposes, your daily journal should (at the very least) list your biggest failures and greatest successes of the day. Science supports the effectiveness of journalism, with a recent Psychotherapy Research study[3] showing that writing a daily journal reduced anxiety and depression.

Learn to meditate: To clear your thoughts

If you’ve never tried meditating before, then you should definitely consider trying it, if you want to boost your self awareness. Meditation can help you to delve below the incessant chatter of your conscious mind, and instead, let you tap into the depths of your subconscious mind. As well as boosting your well-being and health, meditation can clear your thoughts, and help you to become more creative.[4]

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How to get started? There are plenty of books and videos that can teach you the basics of meditation. Alternatively, you’ll be sure to find mediation classes in your local area.

Ask for feedback: You’ll be amazed

Choose a close family member or friend who knows you well. Ask then to give you an honest appraisal of your actions, beliefs and motivations. You’ll be amazed (and possibly shocked!) at what you hear. In fact, it’s likely that you’ll gain a completely new perspective on yourself. Use this new knowledge to make positive changes that could increase your effectiveness and success in life.

Through boosting your self awareness, you’ll begin to see new, exciting opportunities for growth and success. You’ll also learn how others see you. This will help your interpersonal relationships – as well as your ability to read others.

Self awareness can help you predict the success of others. It can also help you predict your own success.

So, choose to follow in the footsteps of the highly-successful, and start developing your self awareness today.

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