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The Common Quality Successful People Have: High Self Awareness

The Common Quality Successful People Have: High Self Awareness

Highly successful people in business and in other facets of their lives have many qualities. All of the qualities they possess, such as diligence, dedication, attention to detail, and many others mesh together to make an individual with a lot of potential.

The most common characteristic that successful people [1] have is self-awareness. Self-awareness is having insight of one’s inner-most characteristics, such as beliefs, emotions, strengths, and weaknesses. Individuals who are self-aware not only have the ability perceive their own thoughts and feelings, but have the ability to “read” others and the way they are recognized and perceived by them.

In the business world, self-awareness is even more crucial. Gary Vaynerchuk[2], American serial entrepreneur and New York Times bestselling author, believes that self-awareness is your most important attribute. He advised entrepreneurs to “Accept your shortcomings, and strive to become more conscious of who you really are.

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Self-awareness is about “Knowing Thyself”. Here are some ways you can boost your self-awareness for future success!

Meditate to focus on your innermost mind

Taking a short period of time for yourself to connect with your mind can work wonders for your mental health and to improve your self-awareness [3]. Meditation gives you the opportunity to think of nothing and focus on your innermost mind and body. Practicing meditation daily increases your self-awareness by connecting your physical being with your mental being and helps you better understand your own personality.

Don’t ignore your mental chatter

Meditation and mindfulness seem to go hand in hand. According to Tim Ferriss [4], who had interviewed over 200 successful people including Tony Robbins, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jamie Foxx, Peter Thiel, and Maria Popova, concluded that around 80% of them had “some form of guided mindfulness practice [5].

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Being mindful takes practice, but before you know it, you realize you are doing it every second of every day. We all have that inner voice in our minds, and when we get very busy and even stressed, that mental “chatter” sometimes gets ignored. With mindfulness, you adjust your thinking to include listening to the mental voice in your mind. Mindfulness not only makes you more self-aware; it also helps you identify and embrace your all-knowing intuition.

Always stay focused, even if it’s just a small thing

You can increase your self-awareness by remaining focused [6] on the task at hand, while speaking with others, and all throughout your day. In order to keep your focus, it is important to eat well, drink plenty of water, exercise a bit each day, and get plenty of rest. The ability to remain focused for long periods of time will help you be prosperous in your daily endeavors. The mind depends on you to nourish it, and if nourished it will work for you to help your success each day and in the long term.

Embrace your emotions. You don’t have to be happy all the time

This is very important for self-awareness and for your overall success. Oftentimes, our emotions can get the best of us. It is very easy to speak out before thinking, to give a non-verbal expression too quickly, or to have another type of negative reaction before letting something process.

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Success is what you make of it, and in order to always be on your toes and exhibit professionalism, be aware of your triggers. Self-awareness allows you know understand your innermost being, and to know how to keep your emotions in check when something is about to occur. Learning to trust your emotions will help you succeed in all areas of your life.

Boosting self-awareness happens with a little practice and patience. Before you know it, you will know yourself more than anyone, and you will be more cognizant of others toward you. This characteristic will help you go farther in your professional life than you have ever imagined.

Knowing yourself is important, but being you is even more important. After all, what is the point of knowing yourself but you still try to live someone else’s life?

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Finally, let us be reminded by Steve Jobs once again: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

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Last Updated on May 7, 2019

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

Work in any competitive field long enough, and you’re bound to run into a wolf in sheep’s clothing. It’s a powerful image. A shepherd watches over his flock to protect them from harm. He’d chase away any predator that tried to make its way into the flock. A clever wolf wearing the skin of a sheep as a disguise can sneak by the vigilant shepherd and get into the herd undetected.

The story isn’t just a colorful description–it’s a warning to all of us to beware the wolf in sheep’s clothing. They may seem innocent, but they have ulterior motives. They’ll use different tactics to camouflage their intentions.

The person who is kind to you, but undercuts you when you aren’t around is a wolf in disguise. A wolf in sheep’s clothing might pick your brain for ideas and then pass them off as their own to get a promotion. They’re always looking out for themselves at the expense of everyone around them.

Wearing a Disguise Has Its Advantages

People don’t go out of their way to manipulate others unless they’re getting something out of it. Hiding their intentions gives wolves the chance to manipulate other people to advance their own agenda. They know that what they’re trying to do wouldn’t be popular, or it might cause struggle if they presented themselves honestly.

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    They’ll be able to do what they want with less interference if they put on an act. By the time people figure out their true motives, the wolf has what it wants.

    Signs That Someone Is a Wolf in Disguise

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        1. They live to take power instead of empowering others. A wolf uses people as stepping stones to get the things that they want. They don’t care what happens to anyone else.[1] A wolf at work might make you look bad during a presentation to make themselves look amazing in front of the boss.
        2. Wolves seem sweet on the outside, but they’ll show you their teeth. If wolves revealed their true identity, people wouldn’t associate with them. They develop a friendly or kind persona, but they can’t keep up the act 24/7. Eventually, they’ll reveal their aggressive tendencies. A wealthy person who likes to break the law may make sizable charitable donations to convince people that they are kind and thoughtful. These donations largely keep them out of trouble, but if someone calls them out, they destroy that person’s reputation to stifle the criticism.
        3. They manipulate through emotions to get what they want. Wolves know that they can get ahead by appealing to your emotions. They find out what you want and need, and they give you just enough to keep you quiet and compliant. Imagine that your boss is a wolf in sheep’s clothing, and you want to ask for a vacation. She might try to play on your guilt and feelings of insecurity to get you to skip vacation or take fewer days off.
        4. A wolf will charm you first. Wolves are experts at manipulating the people around them. They appear interested in whatever you’re doing, and you’ll get the impression that they care. After they get you where they want you, they do just enough to keep you on the hook. This is the coworker who may start out being your friend, but they end up dumping responsibility onto you. When they see that you are growing frustrated, they’ll surprise you with something to charm you some more. Then, they’ll continue to do whatever they want.
        5. Their stories are full of holes.  Calling a wolf out is the surest way to make them squirm. When this person tries to come up with a story, it won’t make much sense because they are improvising.[2] The classic example of this is the significant other that you suspect has cheated on you. When you ask them why they came home so late, they’ll either become upset with you, or they’ll make up a weak explanation.

        How to Spot a Wolf

          Know What’s Real So You Can Spot the Phony

          Do some homework so that you have as much of the story as possible before you work with them. Research how they respond in certain situations, or give them hypothetical problems to see how they respond.

          A job applicant might tell you that she’s always positive and thinks of herself as a team-player. That’s what every employer wants to hear. During the interview you ask applicants to work in groups to solve a problem to see how they handle the situation. The applicant “positive team-player” is bossy and negative. You’ve spotted the wolf.

          A wolf will tell you something that ultimately benefits them. Gather evidence that proves or disproves their position, and see what happens. Chances are, when you choose the side that supports their agenda, they’ll act like your best friend. If you disagree, they’ll become aggressive.

          Spotting a potential wolf–especially if you are one of the sheep–can present you with some challenges. If your gut tells you that a wolf is lurking among all the other sheep, pay attention, and make sure you take the next step.

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          Ask Questions, the More the Better

          There’s nothing wrong with asking questions to uncover the truth. The safety of everyone in your group is at risk. Since wolves often make up stories, you may be able to call them out when their tales lack details.

          When they state an opinion, ask “Why do you think that?” or “How do you know it’s like that?” They’ll have trouble coming up with enough information to pull off the lie.

          Since wolves are always pretending to be something they aren’t, they don’t usually have a clearly thought-out reason for what they say. In a debate, they won’t understand the root of an issue.

          They may also tell you what they think you want to hear, but when pressed for more information, they won’t have anything to add. Their knowledge is superficial. No matter how much you try to encourage discussion, they will not be able to carry on a conversation about the subject.

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          Wolves Are Everywhere

          As much as we want to believe that everyone has the best intentions, it isn’t always the case. Some people only do things to benefit themselves, and they don’t care who they hurt in the process.

          Wolves in sheep’s clothing can be found in almost every setting. You can’t get rid of them, but if you can spot them, you can avoid falling into their traps.

          Reference

          [1] Association of Biblical Counselors: Three Ways to Spot a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing
          [2] Power of Positivity: Beware of a wolf in sheep’s clothing

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