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Quiz: How Self Aware Are You? It Can Predict How Your Life Would Be Like

Quiz: How Self Aware Are You? It Can Predict How Your Life Would Be Like

Self awareness is described as the conscious knowledge of our character, desires, emotions, and motives. When we are self aware, we are able to improve our relationships across the span of our lives, improve the ability to achieve our dreams, and have an overall happier life.

The Road to Self Awareness

Like most people, it took me quite a while to really come to my own self awareness. Through out my teens and twenties, I was existing as I thought I was supposed to. I avoided really knowing myself and loving who I was as I was. I couldn’t explain how I felt most of the time and often felt “stuck” with my life as it was happening. By the time I hit my 30’s, I could feel a real need for change. By my later 30’s I took the bull by it’s horns and started making big changes in my life and seeking out therapy to help me achieve my own self awareness. By my 40’s I began living my life completely aware of me, what I wanted, how I felt, and what motivated me. It doesn’t mean that my existence is 100% perfect and always happy. But my overall attitude about life has changed drastically. I have better friendships, romantic and familial relationships, and I am working the job of my dreams.

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Master Your Life

Ever since I learned how to be more self aware, I have begun sharing that journey with others. I would love to see everyone mastering their life on their terms and feeling fulfilled. Self awareness is the first step to take to mastering your life. When you are aware of yourself and who you are, you are able to understand where your thoughts and emotions are taking you. This is an important step towards changing your attitude, changing how you are working relationships and achieving your dreams, and the perception of happiness.

Take The Quiz!

To help you understand yourself a bit better, answer these questions to see where you are with self-awareness. Answer them as honestly as possible to get the most out of it! Now grab yourself a piece of paper and let’s see where you are.

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Mark down the points according to this:

Not at all (1 pt), Rarely (2 pt), Sometimes (3pt), Often (4 pt), Very often (5 pt)

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  1. I can recognize my emotions as I feel them.
  2. I use active listening skills when someone speaks to me.
  3. I lose my temper when I feel frustrated.
  4. I struggle to build rapport with others.
  5. People have told me that I am a good listener.
  6. I find it difficult to read others’ emotions.
  7. I know how to calm myself down when I feel upset or anxious.
  8. I set long term goals and assess them on a regular basis.
  9. I enjoy organizing groups.
  10. I ask people for feedback on what I do well and how I can improve.
  11. I find it hard to focus on things on a long term basis.
  12. I don’t enjoy my work.
  13. I find it difficult to move on when I am frustrated or upset.
  14. I know my strengths and weaknesses.
  15. I avoid conflict and negotiations.

Tally up your scores from each question. Be mindful that the scoring changes for some of the questions! Read below in your category to see where you are with self-awareness.

15-34 Points – You need to work on your self-awareness. You may find yourself overwhelmed by your emotions, especially in difficult or stressful situations. This could cause you to avoid all conflict, struggle to calm down when upset, and see yourself struggling with relationships.

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35-55 Points – Your self-awareness is okay. You may still be overwhelmed by your emotions and at times avoid conflict. But you don’t avoid all conflict! You have a few close good relationships but others are harder for you to work at.

56-75 Points – You have an excellent sense of self-awareness! You have wonderful relationships and may find people seeking you out for your advice to help them with problems. You also find yourself being able to work towards goals and feel fulfilled when you are able to reach them.

If you are low on the points, there is no need to worry! You can always improve your self-awareness by seeking out a therapist to work on coping skills and the ability to observe your emotions and what is taking place in that moment. Even if you are high on self-awareness, it doesn’t hurt to check in with yourself on occasion to make sure you aren’t getting lost in the mix.

I hope that you were able to think about your own self-awareness and make some healthy goals to improve your situation so that you can live the life you have always wanted!

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Last Updated on October 14, 2020

Psychologists Say It’s Really Possible To Change Our Personality

Psychologists Say It’s Really Possible To Change Our Personality

Do you feel that you can become a better person, but your personality is hindering you from doing so?

Are you one of those people who is making a conscious effort to change, but no matter how hard you try, you remain a prisoner of your personality traits?

Don’t lose hope – it is indeed possible to change your personality!

Personality Crisis

According to the widely accepted model of personality with over 50 years worth of research and study, there are five dimensions of our personality, known as the “Big Five:”

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  • Extraversion: People with high levels of this personality dimension are much more outgoing and tend to be more comfortable in social situations compared to others.
  • Agreeableness: Your level in this dimension determines whether you are more cooperative with other people or competitive (even to the point of being manipulative) with other people.
  • Conscientiousness: Thoughtful people who have high levels of this trait dimension are much more detail-oriented and driven.
  • Neuroticism: Moodiness and the propensity for sadness are associated with people who possess excessive amounts of this personality dimension.
  • Openness: Imaginative and insightful people are very receptive to change and new experiences, whereas those who are not are much more stubborn and reluctant to try out new things.

These personality dimensions are further shaped by our genetics and our upbringing, the latter of which also involves our living environment and culture. These factors ultimately help shape your personality as you grow up, some of which could lead to personality disorders.

However, your personality is never fully set in stone. In fact, it is not uncommon for adults to tweak their personalities as they prepare themselves for new challenges and life situations. For example, stubborn partners will find themselves making an effort to become more cooperative with their loved ones if they want their relationship to work. While these instances may not necessarily lead to positive results, it is evidence enough that changing your personality is not impossible.

The question that begs to be asked is this:

How Much Effort Are People Willing to Put in to Make That Change?

According to a recent study at the University of Illinois, only 13% of respondents were satisfied with their personalities – most of them wanted to change for the better. However, instead of encouraging these people to get help from experts or take courses, R. Chris Fraley and Nathan Hudson conducted different tests instead to see if the respondents can quantify their personalities to make the necessary changes. The results of the test were published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, which you can view here.

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The first experiment involved an introductory psychology class, who were educated about the Big Five personality dimensions and asked to grade their personalities by filling out a rating form. They were then asked if they wanted something to change in their personality over the 16-week period of this study. To do this, they needed to find a way to change their undesirable personality traits using goals and metrics to track their progress.

Among the 135 participants, half joined the “change plan” condition, in which they were given writing assignments over the same period to assess the changes they need to make for their personalities. Every week, they were also required to complete additional writing assignments to evaluate their progress further. The other half were not asked to write – instead, they were placed in a controlled setting and were provided feedback about their development.

The second experiment involved roughly the same number of participants. The only variable that Fraley and Hudson changed is that, instead of focusing on personality traits, they targeted daily behavior related to the traits that defined their personalities.

The result of both experiments demonstrates the capacity for people to make breakthroughs with their personalities. Participants were able to make strides by getting better scores on personality traits that they wanted to improve. However, the comprehensive change plans only had a modest impact on the actual changes in personality. Also, the 16-week period for the study was not enough for the participants to make the drastic changes one might expect.

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Steps to a Better You

Now that you are aware that you can still change your personality, below are some proactive steps that you can take so you can make the change as early as possible.

1. Do not let “labels” define you

You are not a shy and timid person. Nor are you a cold and callous one. You are simply a person full of potential to change and become a better version of yourself every day. You can be anything, as long as you put your mind to it.

2. Do good deeds

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Getting rid of a terrible personality can start with doing something good. A study published in Motivation and Emotion suggests that engaging in acts of kindness allows you to overcome anxiety. Letting the focus from yourself shift to others leads to more opportunities for social engagement.

3. Just wait

If you cannot force change, then let it come to you. According to a study conducted at the University of Manchester and the London School of Economics, change that naturally takes place is not out of the question. The more you undergo transformative experiences in life as you grow older, the more chances that changes in your personality take place.

At the end of the day, change is inevitable. As mentioned above, our personalities are shaped by our experiences in life. By exposing ourselves to positive experiences that we can live by and keeping an open mind for our own identities, there is no doubt that change for the better is indeed possible.

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