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57 Things to Do to Make You Let Go More Easily

57 Things to Do to Make You Let Go More Easily

Going through a breakup is never easy and trying to move on can sometimes feel almost impossible. It’s hard to not look up their social media accounts and overanalyze what you see. It definitely makes it harder and can put you into a depressive state if you end up seeing something you really didn’t want to see.

Splitting up with your partner will certainly alter your day-to-day life which can send you into a downward tailspin. If you really want to move on and get your life back, here are some things you can do to get you on the right track.

  1. Hit the gym on a regular basis
  2. Take a hike
  3. Go out with your girlfriends
  4. Take a trip
  5. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions you’re feeling
  6. Do things out of your comfort zone
  7. Dive into a really good book
  8. Know that forgiveness is a big part of moving forward
  9. Take a new class (guitar, painting, etc)
  10. Take a trip to a museum
  11. Throw your energy into your passion
  12. Go out dancing
  13. Learn a new language
  14. Explore new sports to play
  15. Start practicing a healthier lifestyle
  16. Start writing in a journal
  17. Write down the things you’re thankful for
  18. Dive into home projects
  19. Watch some of your favorite movies
  20. Try out those new recipes you’ve been pinning on Pinterest
  21. Get a facial
  22. Get a massage
  23. Remove any reminders of your ex
  24. Learn to meditate
  25. Try out yoga
  26. Spend more time with family
  27. Create a vision board
  28. Book a vacation months out
  29. Distance yourself from their friends
  30. Have a “treat yourself” day
  31. Catch up on some of that sleep you’ve been missing
  32. Volunteer your time at an animal shelter
  33. Babysit for family and/or neighbors
  34. Move your furniture around your place
  35. Clean out and organize your closet
  36. Consider seeing a therapist
  37. Volunteer at a women’s shelter
  38. Go away for the weekend
  39. Paint your nails
  40. Work on self-love
  41. Spend a lot of time outside
  42. Consider going on a date or two
  43. Work on forgiving yourself
  44. Recognize and replace fearful thoughts
  45. Seek closure
  46. Meet new people
  47. Realize there is someone out there for you
  48. Make peace with the past
  49. Don’t try to be friends with your ex
  50. Reflect on what didn’t work in the relationship
  51. Don’t rush into another relationship too quickly
  52. Focus on the present
  53. Focus only on what can be changed
  54. Only think about today
  55. Accept the truth and be thankful for the experience
  56. Distance yourself for awhile
  57. Take responsibility for your part

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Last Updated on April 1, 2019

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy

When we talk about happiness, we often think about staying happy all the time – every single day, every single minute with zero negativity. Many try to pursue this constant state of “happiness” as their ultimate goal, and avoid anything that may take it away from them.

But, what is the meaning of this type of “happiness”?

It’s a lot like your favorite food. The more often you have it isn’t always better. On the contrary, when you only have a chance to eat it sparingly, that’s when you really savor every bite. So is it the food itself that makes you happy, or is it how valuable it is to you when you are eating it?

Always remember that only by experiencing sadness do we understand what it is to be happy.

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Don’t Assume Others Are Always Happy

Most people see those who have seemingly perfect lives and assume they are happy all the time. Since childhood, we are conditioned to chase the idea of “happily-ever-after” that we see in fairytales. On social media, everyone tends to share only the best looking aspects of their lives. So, it’s very easy to have a distorted view of what “happiness” is around us.

In reality, there is always something missing, something lacking, or something unpleasant.

No one has a perfect life. Even the most glamorous celebrities or the richest billionaires have their own set of challenges and problems.

When we feel negative, we’re only focusing on a small fluctuating curve. As CEO of Lifehack, I’ve had to deal with countless problems, and some of them felt like real setbacks at the time. During those moments, it really seemed like these problems would be the life or death of my company and my life goals. But, I got through them; and, weeks, months and eventually years passed with many more ups and downs.

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You need to keep your sights on the extended curve.  Looking back now, a lot of those “really big” problems at the time now seem like only small blips in a long line of experiences. Recalling them in my mind now makes me smile!

Stop Trying to Be Happy–Just Be

It’s natural to want to be happy as often as possible.

So what can we do?

First, throw away the belief that a perfect life means happiness. Personally, I would be miserable if everything was perfect. It’s through experiencing the pains of lifelong challenges that drives us to care for others when they are experiencing similar trials. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t be able to empathize. If life was perfect, you wouldn’t grow.

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To be truly happy, stop chasing permanent happiness.

It sounds like a paradox. But, what I mean is to accept that there will be ups and downs throughout life. Gracefully understand that happiness is a fluctuation of positive and negative events.

Understand the importance of gratitude. Instead of focusing on the unpleasant moment, flash back your memory to when you didn’t have something. I like to think about my career, for example. When I didn’t have a career I was passionate about, I felt lost and demotivated. I felt like everyone was figuring out their lives but me. But, when I found my purpose and started Lifehack, I was deeply happy, even before I realized I would be successful! This memory keeps me going when I hit tough spots. It takes the darkness to make us grateful for the light.

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What it all comes down to is this: your life will be filled with beautiful, happy and incredible moments–happy tears and joyous shouts and funny stories. But, your life will also be filled with rain and storms that never seem like they will pass while you’re going through them.

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But, whether your face is warmed by the sunshine, or your heart is dampened by the rain, know that it’s all part of the ebb and flow of life.

Treasure the happy moments and power through the sad ones. Don’t try to avoid “sad” or “negative” experiences, and blindly chase being “happy”. In the end you will achieve a true level of contentment in your life, based on meaningful experiences and achievements. Being able to create growth and meaning out of both positive and negative events — that is the true meaning of “happiness”.

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