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How Not to Let Negative Thoughts Trump the Positive Vibes

How Not to Let Negative Thoughts Trump the Positive Vibes

Have you ever had one of those positive moments in life spoiled by a negative thought? Or maybe your life is constantly being clouded by these negative thoughts and its creating anxiety, stress and low mood.

If so, stick with me. I’m going to teach you a solution. Something that embraces biology and psychology, something you might not have thought of, something that has already helped hundreds of people dispel negative thoughts.

I’m going to teach you the unique equation that you can start using right now to stop these negative thoughts from suppressing your life. Stay with me, it might change your life forever.

It’s annoying to have a wonderful moment ruined by a negative thought.

You know when you’re having a good time and you’re completely in the moment. Not necessarily a life changing moment, but just good positive vibes.

Then that negative thought creeps into your mind and says ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’.

These negative thoughts are something I call ‘Positive Emotion Suppressors’. Why? Because they suppress so many aspects of life, take a look…

Out with friends… ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’.

Spending the day with your child… ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’

Having a good day at work… ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’.

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Having a meal with your family… ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’

It takes the moment away. Your heart sinks and you have that rush of adrenalin and you’re suddenly not in the moment anymore. Instead you’re stuck in spiral of negative thoughts.

So, I’m going to teach the fool proof equation to stopping this and it’s probably not what you’re expecting.

This information is so valuable as it is the bridge between you enjoying these moments and breaking free from Positive Emotion Suppressors. When you think about it, that’s what life actually is… Being in the moment. When you’re not in the moment and focusing on negative thoughts, you’re not really living your life. This leaves you open to things like depression, anxiety and stress.

Before everything else, know where your negative thoughts come from.

When I say negative thought, I don’t just mean something negative that pops in your head for a few seconds. I’m talking about an uncontrollable obsessive negative thought that clouds everything and stops you taking in the moment.

This is created by 2 factors. It’s not just about psychology, but biology as well.

Let me explain…

Factor 1: A ‘Negative Hormone Harmony’

This might sound complicated and sciencey. So let’s keep it simple. Imagine you have a bucket in your body. This bucket’s for stress hormones. If this bucket is too full, it starts to effect how well your body and mind function. It effects how well feel-good neurotransmitters work like serotonin (these are chemical messengers responsible for positive mood and emotion), this makes you more likely to obsess over negative thoughts and makes it harder to feel positive emotions.

Factor 2: ‘Negative Automatic Thought Response’

This is when a negative thought pops in your head and your automatic response is to not be able to rationalise it out. This means the thought stays and continues to be a problem, creating a negative cycle.

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So there you have it. When your body is biologically set to think negatively and your automatic thoughts are negative, you have a problem. Therefore allowing Positive Emotion Suppressors to take over. It’s harder to feel positive emotions.

But, now you know the issue, you just need to know how to reverse it.

So this is the equation I’ve been talking about…

Positive Lifestyle Triggers + Positive Mindset Triggers = Decreased Negative Thoughts

So how does this equation work?

Well there are 2 parts to it…

Part 1: Create a ‘Positive Hormone Harmony’ with ‘Positive Lifestyle Triggers’

You probably have a big question—What’s a ‘Positive Lifestyle Trigger’?

Good question. Let’s get to it…

This is a small lifestyle change that results in reduced stress hormones and an improved Hormone Harmony. Therefore reducing the chance of you having negative thoughts, before you have them.

Here are 2 you can try…

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Spend 10-20 minutes doing ‘Flexible Exercise’ each day.

This is different from traditional exercise, which can actually increase stress hormones. Instead Flexible Exercise is designed in a way that allows the body to easily adapt to the stress of exercise, therefore reducing stress hormones in the body. Try doing 10 minutes of Flexible Exercise as soon as you get up every day. Learn how to perform these flexible exercise workout. [1]

There is such thing called ‘negative food’ that you should avoid eating.

These are foods that trigger high levels of stress hormones in the body. This Lifestyle Trigger is very effective, as it’s very simple. Just cut these foods from your diet and get the benefit. Start by cutting out processed foods and meals with a high glycemic load. Here is more about where these foods are hidden.

These lifestyle triggers help to adjust your Hormone Harmony, so biologically, you’re less likely to have negative thoughts.

Part 2: Creating an ‘Optimal Mindset’ with ‘Positive Mindset Triggers’

Positive Mindset Triggers are to break the pattern of automatically thinking negatively if a negative thought pops in your head.

Here are 2 you can try…

Be mindful and stay away from any negative thoughts.

There are many techniques and approaches to Mindfulness, but they all help you to be in the moment and help to distract from your Negative Thought Cycles.[2]

Give yourself positive self talks to clear your mind.

This helps you rationalise your thoughts. You could start by simply writing down some positive phrases that give you a positive outlook. Then say them to yourself when the negative thoughts come into your head.[3]

Start trying this equation to bring more positive emotions to your life.

So there you have it.

Use Lifestyle Triggers to improve your Hormone Harmony to decrease the chance of negative thoughts happening.

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Use Positive Mindset Triggers to improve the way you deal with the negative thought if it does happen.

And that’s how the equation works.

If this has made sense to you, don’t just ignore it, give it a go. You’re probably experiencing some ‘Motivational Energy’, this is how I explain that light bulb moment when something makes sense and you get a burst of motivation. But this motivation doesn’t last long. So what’s important is what you do right now to commit your self.

So have a think. Jot down in your diary how you could fit some Lifestyle Triggers and Positive Mind set Triggers in your daily routine.[4]

It takes time to get rid of negativity, but it’ll worth it.

It’s very important to reduce Positive Emotion Suppressors as it let’s you experience life free from negativity. It’s important for your mental health. It can help relieve or prevent things like depression, anxiety and stress. When you don’t allow any negativity to enter your life, you’ll brighten up and live a healthier life.

Take it one step at a time, and start from the smallest things in life. You can do it!

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Last Updated on February 19, 2019

Why a Life Without Pain Is the Guarantee to True Suffering

Why a Life Without Pain Is the Guarantee to True Suffering

No one wants to suffer. As a general rule, people like to avoid hurt and pain as much as possible. As a species, humans want a painless existence so much that scientists make a living trying to create it.

People can now choose “pain-free” labor for babies, and remedies to cure back pain, headaches, body-pains and even mental pains are a dime a dozen. Beyond medicine, we also work hard to experience little pain even when it comes to loss; often times we believe a breakup won’t hurt as much if we are the ones to call it off.

But would a world without pain truly be painless? It’s unlikely. In fact, it would probably be painful exactly for that reason.

If people never experienced hurt, they wouldn’t know what it was. On the surface level, that seems like a blessing, but think for a moment: if we didn’t know pain, how would we know peace? If you don’t know you’ve hurt or been hurt, how would you know that you need to heal? Imagine someone only knowing they have an incurable cancer at the final stage because no obvious symptoms have appeared at early stages.

Without the feeling of pain, people won’t be aware of dangerous situations—what should or shouldn’t do for survival.

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Pain Is Our Guardian

Pain serves to protect human beings from harmful actions. It’s the same reason parents teach babies that fire equals hot, and that hot equals hurt. Should the baby still place its hand in a fire or on a stove, the intense pain remains so memorable, that the child is certain never to repeat that action.

In the same way, pain within human bodies can serve as a warning that something is not right. Because you know what it is to feel “well,” you know what it is to feel poorly.[1]

Along with serving as a teacher of what not to do, pain also teaches you what you are made of in terms of what you can handle as an individual.

While the cliche, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is a tired term, it’s used excessively for a reason: it’s true. Pain helps you learn to cope with life’s inevitable difficulties and sadnesses— to develop the grit it takes to push past hardships and carry on.

Whether it’s a shattering pain, like the loss of a loved one or a debilitating accident, pain affects everyone differently. But it still affects everyone. Take a breakup as an example, anyone who has experienced it knows it can hurt to the point of feeling physical. Especially the first breakup. At a young age, it feels like the loss of the only love you’ll ever know. As you grow and learn, you realize you’re more resilient with every ended relationship.

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No Pain, No Happiness

You only know happiness when you have known pain. While the idea of constant happiness sounds nice, there is little chance it would be. Without the comparison to happiness, there’s no reason to be grateful for it. That is to say, without ever knowing sadness or pain, you would have no reason to be grateful for happiness.

In reality, there is always something missing, or something unpleasant, but it is only through those realizations that you know to be grateful when you feel you have it all. Read more about why happiness and pain have to exist together: Chasing Happiness Won’t Make You Happy

In a somewhat counter-intuitive finding, researchers found one of the things that brings about the most happiness is challenge. When people are tested, they experience a greater sense of accomplishment and happiness when they are successful. It is largely for this reason that low-income individuals can often feel happier than those who have a sense of wealth.[2]

This is a great thing to remember the next time you feel you would be happier if you just had a little more cash.

Avoiding Pain Leads to More Suffering

Pain is inevitable, embrace it positively. Anyone who strives to have a painless life is striving for perfectionism; and perfectionism guarantees sadness because nothing will ever be perfect.

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This isn’t a bleak outlook, but rather a truthful one. The messy moments in life tend to create the best memories and gratitude. Pain often serves as a reminder of lessons learned, much like physical scars on the body.

Pain will always be painful, but it’s the hurt feelings that help wiser decisions be made.

Allow Room for the Inevitable

Learning how to tolerate pain, especially the emotional kind, is a valuable lesson.

Accepting and feeling pain makes you human. There is no weakness in that. Weakness only comes when you try to blame your own pain on someone else, expecting the blame to alleviate your hurting. There’s a saying,

“Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die.”

Think back to the last time you were really angry with someone. Maybe you were hurt because you got laid off from a job. You felt angry and that anger caused so much pain that you could feel it in a physical way. Being angry and blaming your ex boss for that pain didn’t affect him or her in any way; you’re the only one who lost sleep over it.

The healthier thing to do in a situation like that is acknowledge your pain and the anger along with it. Accept it and explore it in an introspective way. How can you learn and grow? What is at the root of that pain? Are you truly hurting and angry about being laid off, or is the pain more a correlation to you feeling like you failed?

While uncomfortable, exploring your pain is a way to raise your self-awareness. By understanding more about yourself, you know how to deal with similar situations in the future. You can never expect to be numb to difficult situations, but you will learn to better prepare financially for the loss of a job and be grateful for an income since you now know nothing is promised (no matter how much you work or how deserving you may feel).

Pain Hurts, but Numbness Would Be Worse

Pain does not feel good, but the bad feeling of it will help you learn and grow. It makes the sweet moments in life even sweeter and the gratitude more sincere.

To have a happier and more successful life, you don’t learn from success or accomplishment, but through pain and failures. For it is in those moments that you learn how to do better in the future or at least cope a little more easily.

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You are the strong person you are today because of the hardships this life has presented to you. While you may have felt out of control when those hard times came, the one thing you will always have control over is how you choose to react to things. The next time you hurt or you’re angry or sad, acknowledge it and allow yourself to ruminate in it. Then take a deep breath and start learning from that pain. You’ve got this!

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Reference

[1] University of Calgary: Why is Pain Important?
[2] Greater Good Magazine: The Importance of Pain

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