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How Not to Let Negative Thoughts Trump the Positive Vibes

How Not to Let Negative Thoughts Trump the Positive Vibes

Have you ever had one of those positive moments in life spoiled by a negative thought? Or maybe your life is constantly being clouded by these negative thoughts and its creating anxiety, stress and low mood.

If so, stick with me. I’m going to teach you a solution. Something that embraces biology and psychology, something you might not have thought of, something that has already helped hundreds of people dispel negative thoughts.

I’m going to teach you the unique equation that you can start using right now to stop these negative thoughts from suppressing your life. Stay with me, it might change your life forever.

It’s annoying to have a wonderful moment ruined by a negative thought.

You know when you’re having a good time and you’re completely in the moment. Not necessarily a life changing moment, but just good positive vibes.

Then that negative thought creeps into your mind and says ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’.

These negative thoughts are something I call ‘Positive Emotion Suppressors’. Why? Because they suppress so many aspects of life, take a look…

Out with friends… ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’.

Spending the day with your child… ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’

Having a good day at work… ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’.

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Having a meal with your family… ‘I’m not going let you have this moment’

It takes the moment away. Your heart sinks and you have that rush of adrenalin and you’re suddenly not in the moment anymore. Instead you’re stuck in spiral of negative thoughts.

So, I’m going to teach the fool proof equation to stopping this and it’s probably not what you’re expecting.

This information is so valuable as it is the bridge between you enjoying these moments and breaking free from Positive Emotion Suppressors. When you think about it, that’s what life actually is… Being in the moment. When you’re not in the moment and focusing on negative thoughts, you’re not really living your life. This leaves you open to things like depression, anxiety and stress.

Before everything else, know where your negative thoughts come from.

When I say negative thought, I don’t just mean something negative that pops in your head for a few seconds. I’m talking about an uncontrollable obsessive negative thought that clouds everything and stops you taking in the moment.

This is created by 2 factors. It’s not just about psychology, but biology as well.

Let me explain…

Factor 1: A ‘Negative Hormone Harmony’

This might sound complicated and sciencey. So let’s keep it simple. Imagine you have a bucket in your body. This bucket’s for stress hormones. If this bucket is too full, it starts to effect how well your body and mind function. It effects how well feel-good neurotransmitters work like serotonin (these are chemical messengers responsible for positive mood and emotion), this makes you more likely to obsess over negative thoughts and makes it harder to feel positive emotions.

Factor 2: ‘Negative Automatic Thought Response’

This is when a negative thought pops in your head and your automatic response is to not be able to rationalise it out. This means the thought stays and continues to be a problem, creating a negative cycle.

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So there you have it. When your body is biologically set to think negatively and your automatic thoughts are negative, you have a problem. Therefore allowing Positive Emotion Suppressors to take over. It’s harder to feel positive emotions.

But, now you know the issue, you just need to know how to reverse it.

So this is the equation I’ve been talking about…

Positive Lifestyle Triggers + Positive Mindset Triggers = Decreased Negative Thoughts

So how does this equation work?

Well there are 2 parts to it…

Part 1: Create a ‘Positive Hormone Harmony’ with ‘Positive Lifestyle Triggers’

You probably have a big question—What’s a ‘Positive Lifestyle Trigger’?

Good question. Let’s get to it…

This is a small lifestyle change that results in reduced stress hormones and an improved Hormone Harmony. Therefore reducing the chance of you having negative thoughts, before you have them.

Here are 2 you can try…

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Spend 10-20 minutes doing ‘Flexible Exercise’ each day.

This is different from traditional exercise, which can actually increase stress hormones. Instead Flexible Exercise is designed in a way that allows the body to easily adapt to the stress of exercise, therefore reducing stress hormones in the body. Try doing 10 minutes of Flexible Exercise as soon as you get up every day. Learn how to perform these flexible exercise workout. [1]

There is such thing called ‘negative food’ that you should avoid eating.

These are foods that trigger high levels of stress hormones in the body. This Lifestyle Trigger is very effective, as it’s very simple. Just cut these foods from your diet and get the benefit. Start by cutting out processed foods and meals with a high glycemic load. Here is more about where these foods are hidden.

These lifestyle triggers help to adjust your Hormone Harmony, so biologically, you’re less likely to have negative thoughts.

Part 2: Creating an ‘Optimal Mindset’ with ‘Positive Mindset Triggers’

Positive Mindset Triggers are to break the pattern of automatically thinking negatively if a negative thought pops in your head.

Here are 2 you can try…

Be mindful and stay away from any negative thoughts.

There are many techniques and approaches to Mindfulness, but they all help you to be in the moment and help to distract from your Negative Thought Cycles.[2]

Give yourself positive self talks to clear your mind.

This helps you rationalise your thoughts. You could start by simply writing down some positive phrases that give you a positive outlook. Then say them to yourself when the negative thoughts come into your head.[3]

Start trying this equation to bring more positive emotions to your life.

So there you have it.

Use Lifestyle Triggers to improve your Hormone Harmony to decrease the chance of negative thoughts happening.

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Use Positive Mindset Triggers to improve the way you deal with the negative thought if it does happen.

And that’s how the equation works.

If this has made sense to you, don’t just ignore it, give it a go. You’re probably experiencing some ‘Motivational Energy’, this is how I explain that light bulb moment when something makes sense and you get a burst of motivation. But this motivation doesn’t last long. So what’s important is what you do right now to commit your self.

So have a think. Jot down in your diary how you could fit some Lifestyle Triggers and Positive Mind set Triggers in your daily routine.[4]

It takes time to get rid of negativity, but it’ll worth it.

It’s very important to reduce Positive Emotion Suppressors as it let’s you experience life free from negativity. It’s important for your mental health. It can help relieve or prevent things like depression, anxiety and stress. When you don’t allow any negativity to enter your life, you’ll brighten up and live a healthier life.

Take it one step at a time, and start from the smallest things in life. You can do it!

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Last Updated on May 7, 2019

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

Work in any competitive field long enough, and you’re bound to run into a wolf in sheep’s clothing. It’s a powerful image. A shepherd watches over his flock to protect them from harm. He’d chase away any predator that tried to make its way into the flock. A clever wolf wearing the skin of a sheep as a disguise can sneak by the vigilant shepherd and get into the herd undetected.

The story isn’t just a colorful description–it’s a warning to all of us to beware the wolf in sheep’s clothing. They may seem innocent, but they have ulterior motives. They’ll use different tactics to camouflage their intentions.

The person who is kind to you, but undercuts you when you aren’t around is a wolf in disguise. A wolf in sheep’s clothing might pick your brain for ideas and then pass them off as their own to get a promotion. They’re always looking out for themselves at the expense of everyone around them.

Wearing a Disguise Has Its Advantages

People don’t go out of their way to manipulate others unless they’re getting something out of it. Hiding their intentions gives wolves the chance to manipulate other people to advance their own agenda. They know that what they’re trying to do wouldn’t be popular, or it might cause struggle if they presented themselves honestly.

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    They’ll be able to do what they want with less interference if they put on an act. By the time people figure out their true motives, the wolf has what it wants.

    Signs That Someone Is a Wolf in Disguise

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        1. They live to take power instead of empowering others. A wolf uses people as stepping stones to get the things that they want. They don’t care what happens to anyone else.[1] A wolf at work might make you look bad during a presentation to make themselves look amazing in front of the boss.
        2. Wolves seem sweet on the outside, but they’ll show you their teeth. If wolves revealed their true identity, people wouldn’t associate with them. They develop a friendly or kind persona, but they can’t keep up the act 24/7. Eventually, they’ll reveal their aggressive tendencies. A wealthy person who likes to break the law may make sizable charitable donations to convince people that they are kind and thoughtful. These donations largely keep them out of trouble, but if someone calls them out, they destroy that person’s reputation to stifle the criticism.
        3. They manipulate through emotions to get what they want. Wolves know that they can get ahead by appealing to your emotions. They find out what you want and need, and they give you just enough to keep you quiet and compliant. Imagine that your boss is a wolf in sheep’s clothing, and you want to ask for a vacation. She might try to play on your guilt and feelings of insecurity to get you to skip vacation or take fewer days off.
        4. A wolf will charm you first. Wolves are experts at manipulating the people around them. They appear interested in whatever you’re doing, and you’ll get the impression that they care. After they get you where they want you, they do just enough to keep you on the hook. This is the coworker who may start out being your friend, but they end up dumping responsibility onto you. When they see that you are growing frustrated, they’ll surprise you with something to charm you some more. Then, they’ll continue to do whatever they want.
        5. Their stories are full of holes.  Calling a wolf out is the surest way to make them squirm. When this person tries to come up with a story, it won’t make much sense because they are improvising.[2] The classic example of this is the significant other that you suspect has cheated on you. When you ask them why they came home so late, they’ll either become upset with you, or they’ll make up a weak explanation.

        How to Spot a Wolf

          Know What’s Real So You Can Spot the Phony

          Do some homework so that you have as much of the story as possible before you work with them. Research how they respond in certain situations, or give them hypothetical problems to see how they respond.

          A job applicant might tell you that she’s always positive and thinks of herself as a team-player. That’s what every employer wants to hear. During the interview you ask applicants to work in groups to solve a problem to see how they handle the situation. The applicant “positive team-player” is bossy and negative. You’ve spotted the wolf.

          A wolf will tell you something that ultimately benefits them. Gather evidence that proves or disproves their position, and see what happens. Chances are, when you choose the side that supports their agenda, they’ll act like your best friend. If you disagree, they’ll become aggressive.

          Spotting a potential wolf–especially if you are one of the sheep–can present you with some challenges. If your gut tells you that a wolf is lurking among all the other sheep, pay attention, and make sure you take the next step.

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          Ask Questions, the More the Better

          There’s nothing wrong with asking questions to uncover the truth. The safety of everyone in your group is at risk. Since wolves often make up stories, you may be able to call them out when their tales lack details.

          When they state an opinion, ask “Why do you think that?” or “How do you know it’s like that?” They’ll have trouble coming up with enough information to pull off the lie.

          Since wolves are always pretending to be something they aren’t, they don’t usually have a clearly thought-out reason for what they say. In a debate, they won’t understand the root of an issue.

          They may also tell you what they think you want to hear, but when pressed for more information, they won’t have anything to add. Their knowledge is superficial. No matter how much you try to encourage discussion, they will not be able to carry on a conversation about the subject.

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          Wolves Are Everywhere

          As much as we want to believe that everyone has the best intentions, it isn’t always the case. Some people only do things to benefit themselves, and they don’t care who they hurt in the process.

          Wolves in sheep’s clothing can be found in almost every setting. You can’t get rid of them, but if you can spot them, you can avoid falling into their traps.

          Reference

          [1] Association of Biblical Counselors: Three Ways to Spot a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing
          [2] Power of Positivity: Beware of a wolf in sheep’s clothing

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