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Should I Get Back with My Ex? Check These Signs

Should I Get Back with My Ex? Check These Signs

If you have ever broken up with someone you love, then you probably understand how tough the period after the breakup can be. First you have to deal with the inner pain that comes with missing your partner and the things you do together. When that increases to a certain point, you can start having doubts about your break up, more so if you were the one who initiated it. Was that the right decision to make or was I being too rash? Am I better off? And maybe even, should I get back with my ex?

For those that do want to see whether getting back together with your ex is a good idea, there is some good news. You can predict your chances of getting back with your ex fairly accurately by looking out for signs that you and your partner still stand a good chance together. Here is a list of those 8 factors to consider:

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The reason for your breakup

Why did the two of you break up? How serious was the cause of your breakup? People break up for all kinds of reasons, some more serious than others. There are some reasons that are easy to forgive, like a missed date, or something petty, and if your breakup was caused by something minor, then you have a good chance if you gave it another go. But, there are also reasons that might be way too serious to overcome – the law calls them irreconcilable differences. With these you’d probably best forget it and move on.

How long the two of you have been apart

Time heals many things, and while a breakup might seem like the end of the world, down the line it might look like the most natural thing in the world. So the longer the two of you have been apart, the lower your chances of getting back together becomes.

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How things ended between you

Did you break up through a text? Did the two of you sit down and decide that it was the best thing for both of you? Or was it a messy breakup full of insults and aggression?! The manner in which the two of you brought matters to a close will significantly affect your chances of getting back together. Generally speaking, the more amicably you ended things between you, the better your chances of getting back together.

Your actions after the breakup

Some people are affected deeply by the things their ex partners do after they break up – sometimes even more so than before the break up. Things like committing to a new relationship, even for a brief stint, could ruin the chances of ever getting back together. So could the actions following the breakup; was there any regretful behaviour whilst emotions were running high?

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How deeply the two of you were involved

How deeply had you reached into each other’s lives? The more deeply the two of you were involved, the more likely it is that it will work if you get back together. For instance, partners who share a child or children are more than twice as likely to get back together after a breakup compared to childless couples.

Emotional attachment

How do you feel when the two of you are close together? Do you still feel the urge to touch each other ever so lightly? If there is still an emotional flame that burns between you, then you might still have a good chance.

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Whether you are able to forgive each other

If you are able to have a frank discussion and forgive each other whole heartedly, then this is a very positive step towards getting the two of you getting back together.

Breaking up is never easy, even if you were the person to initiate the ending of the relationship. A period of adjustment is inevitable, especially if you had been together for a long time. That can sometimes hurt… really badly! Don’t put pressure on yourself to get back into the dating pool and move on faster than you feel comfortable, everyone is different. Take it one day at a time, and face the future, whether it’s with your ex or without.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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