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Who Says All Introverts Hate Socializing? Here’s The Truth About Introvert And Extrovert

Who Says All Introverts Hate Socializing? Here’s The Truth About Introvert And Extrovert

You think you may know the difference between introverts and extroverts – the common misconception is that introverts are shy and don’t like to socialize, and that extroverts are outgoing and love to be in the spotlight. But actually, there is much more to it when you scrape the surface. These two personality types are different in how they recharge their batteries and how they respond to stimuli from the environment.

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    For example, being at a party, surrounded by noise and people, or taking up a challenging hobby pumps extroverts with energy. On the other hand, introverts don’t actually shy away from social gatherings, but to recharge, they need some time alone. While extroverts would stay all night at a party and feel energized, introverts would come to the party, enjoy for a while, but after some time, they would feel the need to go home and be with their thoughts.

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    Extroverts and introverts differ in how they react to stimuli

    A research conducted by Michael Cohen and a team of scientists required introverts and extroverts to perform a gambling task, and the extroverts’ response when the gamble they took paid off was much stronger.[1] Thus, it comes as no surprise that they just love adventure and novelty, and it is all due to a genetic difference in our brains. This research indicated that introverts and extroverts process rewards in a different way, and it all has to do with our dopamine system.

    Carl Jung was the one who popularized the terms “introvert” and “extrovert”, but in the 1960s Hans Eysenck proposed that the differences in behavior of these two personality types exist due to differences in brain psychology.[2] Furthermore, he stated that introverts and extroverts have different levels of arousal – extroverts have lower levels of arousal thus they seek excitement to raise that level, while introverts are stimulated more easily so they try to keep excitement at a minimum and consequently keep arousal at the minimum.

    Moreover, these personality types also differ in how they process stimuli. As research suggests, extroverts have faster processing brains, as the pathway of stimuli is much shorter than in introverts’ brains, as this diagram suggests.[3]

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      It’s all about the dopamine, which makes extroverts want to seek additional stimuli

      Extroverts’ need to seek additional stimuli, which results in constantly seeking new hobbies and interests and cherishing the unfamiliar, may be the result of their genetic code which controls the dopamine function that forces them to look for new experiences.[4] Moreover, extroverts are more likely to seek out situations that will provide them with reward because of their dopamine system.[5]

      On the other hand, introverts prefer acetylcholine, which is another neurotransmitter. Acetylcholine also creates that pleasant feeling, but it’s related to introspection. For that reason, introverts don’t need to seek external stimuli to feel good. That is why extroverts might come off as easily distracted by new things, while introverts seem more focused.

      Introverts vs extroverts: how they react in certain situations

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        It’s weekend, and time to go out, but it was a tiring week. What would extroverts do? They would definitely call some friends and go out. What would introverts do? They would rather stay at home and catch up on their reading or favorite show.

        You need to make plans for the next week. What would extroverts do? They would probably think “Why do I need to make plans? I’ll just wait and see how things unfold, and see what I would like to do.” And introverts? They would definitely have to think before deciding something and make some plans in advance.

        There is a business meeting and you have a great idea. What would extroverts do? They would definitely speak their mind and pitch their idea without thinking twice. And introverts? They would stay quiet, and speak only if someone asks for their opinion.

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        You need to move to a different place. How would extroverts feel? “Great, something new, I can’t wait to move!” And introverts? It would feel as a torture for them, as they struggle to accept changes.

        It is not possible to say that extroverts are better than introverts or vice versa. Every personality type has its good sides and bad sides, and every person should take the time to really understand and accept themselves.

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        Last Updated on August 6, 2020

        6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

        6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

        We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

        “Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

        Are we speaking the same language?

        My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

        When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

        Am I being lazy?

        When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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        Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

        Early in the relationship:

        “Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

        When the relationship is established:

        “Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

        It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

        Have I actually got anything to say?

        When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

        A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

        When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

        Am I painting an accurate picture?

        One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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        How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

        Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

        What words am I using?

        It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

        Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

        Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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        Is the map really the territory?

        Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

        A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

        I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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