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If You Only Focus on What You Say, You Don’t Really Understand What Communication Is

If You Only Focus on What You Say, You Don’t Really Understand What Communication Is

Communication is the backbone of human civilization. Without it, the world would become bizarre. Since the ancient times, communication has been playing a key role in deciding the fate of humans.

Today, communication is vital especially in the corporate culture, workplaces and various industries etc.

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An effective communication directly relates to how well you have conveyed or received a message from other people. Success of every individual relates to his/her ability to effectively communicate both verbally and non-verbally.

Verbal communication helps clarification.

Verbal communication involves words, signal, spoken and written languages. Conversations with your friends, colleagues, seniors at college, office or in a meeting, reading newspaper in the morning or watching morning news or texting via mobile are all different kinds of verbal communications.

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Verbal communication is required when it comes to providing information to others. In verbal communication, the most important aspect is clarification. Clarification helps in resolving issues when someone’s words and actions are misconstrued. So verbal communication assists in clarifying misunderstanding and provides missing information.

Non-verbal communication is an integral part of verbal communication.

Non-verbal communication involves body language, hand gestures, eye contact and tone that help to convey a verbal message.[1]

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A person standing relaxed with an open stance and friendly tone appears more approachable than a rigid person. A person who makes eye contact with another person while having a conversation demonstrates that they’re focused and undiverted. While a firm handshake or a warm hug can indicate friendliness; a timid handshake or a loose pat on the back can imply shyness. All these different types of non-verbal gestures shape people’s impression on others quickly.

How can I enhance both verbal and non-verbal communication?

To improve verbal communication, one needs to be a good listener because it indicates that you are paying attention to the speaker.[2] No one likes to talk with people who only care about expressing their own views without listening to others. In order to be a successful communicator, practice active listening.

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To improve non-verbal communication, pay attention to the posture, stance, hand gestures, pitch and tone of voice while having a conversation. Your body gestures tell it all and directly affect your involvement in the conversation.

You can further improve your communication by following these aspects:

  1. Friendliness: It’s very important to be nice and polite in every conversation, be it at work or at home.
  2. Confidence: Confidence makes people believe in what you are saying.
  3. Empathy: Even though you don’t agree with others at some points, it is important to respect and understand others’ point of view.
  4. Open-Mindedness: Good communicators always engage in conversations with an open mind.
  5. Respect: Conveying respect to others will encourage others to communicate with you.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

The Power of Ritual: Conquer Procrastination, Time Wasters and Laziness

The Power of Ritual: Conquer Procrastination, Time Wasters and Laziness

Life is wasted in the in-between times. The time between when your alarm first rings and when you finally decide to get out of bed. The time between when you sit at your desk and when productive work begins. The time between making a decision and doing something about it.

Slowly, your day is whittled away from all the unused in-between moments. Eventually, time wasters, laziness, and procrastination get the better of you.

The solution to reclaim these lost middle moments is by creating rituals. Every culture on earth uses rituals to transfer information and encode behaviors that are deemed important. Personal rituals can help you build a better pattern for handling everything from how you wake up to how you work.

Unfortunately, when most people see rituals, they see pointless superstitions. Indeed, many rituals are based on a primitive understanding of the world. But by building personal rituals, you get to encode the behaviors you feel are important and cut out the wasted middle moments.

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Program Your Own Algorithms

Another way of viewing rituals is by seeing them as computer algorithms. An algorithm is a set of instructions that is repeated to get a result.

Some algorithms are highly efficient, sorting or searching millions of pieces of data in a few seconds. Other algorithms are bulky and awkward, taking hours to do the same task.

By forming rituals, you are building algorithms for your behavior. Take the delayed and painful pattern of waking up, debating whether to sleep in for another two minutes, hitting the snooze button, repeat until almost late for work. This could be reprogrammed to get out of bed immediately, without debating your decision.

How to Form a Ritual

I’ve set up personal rituals for myself for handling e-mail, waking up each morning, writing articles, and reading books. Far from making me inflexible, these rituals give me a useful default pattern that works best 99% of the time. Whenever my current ritual won’t work, I’m always free to stop using it.

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Forming a ritual isn’t too difficult, and the same principles for changing habits apply:

  1. Write out your sequence of behavior. I suggest starting with a simple ritual of only 3-4 steps maximum. Wait until you’ve established a ritual before you try to add new steps.
  2. Commit to following your ritual for thirty days. This step will take the idea and condition it into your nervous system as a habit.
  3. Define a clear trigger. When does your ritual start? A ritual to wake up is easy—the sound of your alarm clock will work. As for what triggers you to go to the gym, read a book or answer e-mail—you’ll have to decide.
  4. Tweak the Pattern. Your algorithm probably won’t be perfectly efficient the first time. Making a few tweaks after the first 30-day trial can make your ritual more useful.

Ways to Use a Ritual

Based on the above ideas, here are some ways you could implement your own rituals:

1. Waking Up

Set up a morning ritual for when you wake up and the next few things you do immediately afterward. To combat the grogginess after immediately waking up, my solution is to do a few pushups right after getting out of bed. After that, I sneak in ninety minutes of reading before getting ready for morning classes.

2. Web Usage

How often do you answer e-mail, look at Google Reader, or check Facebook each day? I found by taking all my daily internet needs and compressing them into one, highly-efficient ritual, I was able to cut off 75% of my web time without losing any communication.

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3. Reading

How much time do you get to read books? If your library isn’t as large as you’d like, you might want to consider the rituals you use for reading. Programming a few steps to trigger yourself to read instead of watching television or during a break in your day can chew through dozens of books each year.

4. Friendliness

Rituals can also help with communication. Set up a ritual of starting a conversation when you have opportunities to meet people.

5. Working

One of the hardest barriers when overcoming procrastination is building up a concentrated flow. Building those steps into a ritual can allow you to quickly start working or continue working after an interruption.

6. Going to the gym

If exercising is a struggle, encoding a ritual can remove a lot of the difficulty. Set up a quick ritual for going to exercise right after work or when you wake up.

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7. Exercise

Even within your workouts, you can have rituals. Spacing the time between runs or reps with a certain number of breaths can remove the guesswork. Forming a ritual of doing certain exercises in a particular order can save time.

8. Sleeping

Form a calming ritual in the last 30-60 minutes of your day before you go to bed. This will help slow yourself down and make falling asleep much easier. Especially if you plan to get up full of energy in the morning, it will help if you remove insomnia.

8. Weekly Reviews

The weekly review is a big part of the GTD system. By making a simple ritual checklist for my weekly review, I can get the most out of this exercise in less time. Originally, I did holistic reviews where I wrote my thoughts on the week and progress as a whole. Now, I narrow my focus toward specific plans, ideas, and measurements.

Final Thoughts

We all want to be productive. But time wasters, procrastination, and laziness sometimes get the better of us. If you’re facing such difficulties, don’t be afraid to make use of these rituals to help you conquer them.

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