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Working in These 100 Companies Can Make You Feel Like Winning the Lottery

Working in These 100 Companies Can Make You Feel Like Winning the Lottery

Has it happened to you; the job you loved the most was at a company that was really proactive towards it employees and gave you creative freedom as well flexible timings, even if it didn’t pay as well as your current job, that ironically is making you miserable? That’s because very often the jobs we enjoy the most is in one of the best companies to work for – the kind that really cares for its employees and believes that the way forward is through good human resource management.

One Way to Ensure You Land a Job You Will Enjoy

While we are not advising you quit your job this very instance, the next time you are on a job hunt, it would be a good idea to look for positions in companies known to be the best companies to work for – though what makes a company good for you is a completely individual choice.[1] For young mothers it might be an onsite crèche or playschool, or even extended maternity benefits; for some it may be that the company has a very open non-discrimination policies and yet for some it may be the health food cafeteria and onsite gym.

The Best Companies to Work for: the Top 100 List

So taking cue from various business magazines Top 100 list, here are the Top 100 Best Companies To Work For, in the US – for these are the companies who believe that happy employees make for productive companies [2]. We list out the companies as well as the reasons as to what makes them so great to work for, in alphabetic order…

1. Accenture

Industry: Professional Services

USP: Flexible scheduling and endless learning opportunities while working on cutting edge projects make Accenture one of the best companies to work for.

2. Activision Blizzard

Industry: Media

USP: Want to be 100% nerd? This gaming and entertainment company lets you geek out in employee affinity groups, which include fencing, brew mastery, skateboarding or even juggling, clay modeling, and more. Fun, geek style!

3. Acuity

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: Join this Company if you want a 45-foot climbing wall and a jeans-friendly dress policy at office, plus a sense of purpose and giving.

4. Adobe Systems

Industry: Information Technology

USP: Employees at this software company praise the interesting work and its passion for arts and creativity.

5. Aflac

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: A family feeling is how the employees describe the workplace with a strong, positive culture…

6. Allianz Life Insurance Company of North America

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: This financial services company has employee appreciation month with awards ceremonies and chair massages and annual perks like pet insurance, on-site childcare, and discounts on furniture.

7. Alston & Bird

Industry: Professional Services

USP: 15 paid hours a year for community service and mock courtroom training, make this law firm a fun and collaborative workplace.

8. American Express

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: 100 days paid parental leave (and up to 140 days for birth moms) and a chance to work for a respected brand makes employees feel that their jobs are a higher calling.

9. American Fidelity Insurance

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: Pension plans, cushy 401(k) contributions, and bonuses for everyone as well as an on-site car wash, prescriptions at the medical clinic, and a personal trainer at the office gym. Need more?

10. ARI

Industry: Professional Services

USP: Employee training is a high point considering in 2016 this company reimbursed some $1.4 million in tuition along with ample opportunities for growth and promotion.

11. Atlantic Health Systems

Industry: Healthcare

USP: In this New Jersey–based hospital system company, employees get up to $5,000 in annual tuition reimbursements, and courses are even offered on-site.

12. AT&T

Industry: Telecommunications

USP: When this telecom giant underwent changes, it retrained its workers without any big layoffs and filled more than 40% of its open positions with internal hiring.

13. Autodesk

Industry: Information Technology

USP: To encourage creative thinking, employees who have new patents granted are given bonuses of up to $2,000.

14. Baker Donelson

Industry: Professional Services

USP: Perks include bonuses when the firm has a good year (and not just for attorneys), plus free parking (or full reimbursements for public transportation) as well as a goodwill atmosphere.

15. Baird

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: Looking for one of the best companies to work for? Well, Baird has a “no asshole” policy and is open enough that two-thirds of employees are shareholders, making everyone feel like equal contributors and receivers as well.

16. Baptist Health South Florida

Industry: Health Care

USP: Zero co-pays for in-network doctor visits, a fund for staff in times of need, and employee celebrations make this hospital one of the best companies to work for.

17. Bright Horizons Family Solutions

Industry: Training & Education

USP: The employees feel they are shaping children’s future which is rewarding enough and then the company also offers workers a 50% discount at Bright Horizons centers.

18. Build-A-Bear Workshop

Industry: Retail

USP: So work here feels like an awesome adventure and employees feel as if they sell happiness!

19. Burns & McDonnell

Industry: Building Services

USP: It’s a 100%-employee-owned engineering, architecture, and construction firm that exemplifies teamwork…

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20. Cadence

Industry: Electronics

USP: With more than 40% employees having stayed on for 40 years or more, this semiconductor technology company regularly conducts analyses to ensure that women employees are getting paid fairly; rewarding employees solely on what they deliver.

21. Camden Property Trust

Industry: Real Estate

USP: Employees claim this to be one company that welcomes you and your ideas with open arms and you can also get up to $4,500 year for your kids in paid college costs!

22. Capital One

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: Free Wi-Fi and coffee apart, staffers are encouraged to break out of the mold and think innovatively when it comes to baking and financial services.

23. CarMax

Industry: Retail

USP: All new hires are assigned mentors when they start which makes for a nurturing work environment in which employees can naturally excel.

24. Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta

Industry: Health Care

USP: A children’s hospital that has creates a fun and positive environment for its employees so that that they always do their best to keep kids health and safe.

25. CHG Healthcare Services

Industry: Professional Services

USP: To make its employees (medical staff on hire) happy, healthy, and satisfied, the company offers health assessments, a free on-site health clinic and even pet insurance.

26. Cisco

Industry: Information Technology

USP: So winners of its hackathon receive $25,000 in prize money (and $25,000 in seed money) and employees logged 227,213 volunteer hours just for the freedom to innovate.

27. Cooley

Industry: Professional Services, Law

USP: Want to wear jeans to a law firm? Welcome to Cooley, where there is not hierarchy per se either.

28. Credit Acceptance

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: The company motto of this auto-lender is that everyone is values and there is flexible scheduling and growth opportunities that prove it.

29. David Weekley Homes

Industry: Real Estate & Construction

USP: A welcoming, team-centric culture, this company conducts interviews with job candidates’ families to answer all the questions you might have.

30. Deloitte

Industry: Professional Services

USP: Employees have 42 paid days off on average per year, and there’s a sabbatical program to make all the staff feel very wanted and rewarded indeed.

31. Delta Airlines

Industry: Transportation

USP: Generous flight privileges and healthy profit-sharing, is all part of the company’s caring family spirit.

32. Edward Jones

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: So this investment firm is the place to be if you are looking for job security since more than 30% of hiring happens internally. The reasons why 3,000 of its employees have been there more than two decades!

33. Encompass Home Health & Hospice

Industry: Health Care

USP: A company with a compassionate culture and a very approachable CEO who truly cares.

34. EY

Industry: Professional Services

USP: Never before has a firm offered such flexible schedules, such that all its employees rave about being able to enjoy life’s little things freely and even get 16 weeks parental leave!

35. FedEx

Industry: Transportation

USP: Hard work is consistently reflected in raises, bonuses, and promotions and other great benefits as well for part-timers too.

36. First American Financial Corporation

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: 1,100 team members of this financial company have participated in 36 breast-cancer races and helped raise more than $217,000 for research and treatment of the disease last year. Oh and employees can purchase company stock at a 15% discount.

37. Four Seasons Hotels & Resorts

Industry: Hospitality

USP: Employees are proud of stellar customer service and every employee gets to stay at Four Seasons hotels on vacation for free with 50% off on food as well.

38. Genentech

Industry: Biotechnology & Pharmaceuticals

USP: If pharmaceutical is your cup of tea, Genentech is the place to be. The employees claim to work in a casual intensity vibe, and making drugs for life-threatening illnesses in a fun way is their mission.

39. Goldman Sachs:

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: You do well, you are rewarded in this meritocratic investment banking firm. Hard work is always rewarded.

40. Google

Industry: Information Technology

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USP: So other than the free lux perks like free haircuts, food and even laundry; Google also actually listens to its employees and changed its maternity policies as well is a staunch supporter of transgender workers and has made its workplace “safe and inclusive” for all.

41. Hilcorp

Industry: Manufacturing and Production

USP: An annual bonuses average of 36% is awesome enough, but Hilcorp can give you a 60% bump as well, where decision-making is pushed to the frontlines.

42. Hilton

Industry: Hospitality

USP: Hilton gets many awards for in turn awarding employees with endless opportunities for advancement; and now they pay for employees’ GEDs as well.

43. Hyatt

Industry: Hospitality

USP: Hyatt is another hospitality chain willing to give back to its employees with amazing benefits like free on-site dry cleaning and complimentary or discounted hotel stays…

44. Hyland

Industry: Information Technology

USP: Along with a Montessori preschool on-site for employees’ kids, the CEO of this software developer initiates spontaneous work breaks, which can mean anything from cornhole tournaments to dodge ball competitions!

45. Ikea Holding U.S.

Industry: Retail

USP: Employees are made to feel valued for the contributions they make and to promote equality; each location has a diversity and inclusion ambassador as well.

46. Intuit

Industry: Information Technology

USP: How about on-site gyms that remain open 24/7 and bikes in case you want to commute on them? Plus a CEO who works with you in times of more work…

47. JM Family Enterprises

Industry: Manufacturing & Production

USP: This diversified automotive company considers its best assets to be its employees and so offers them a pension plan, 12% profit sharing, lux perks like free haircuts, and discounts on cars.

48. Kimley-Horn

Industry: Professional Services

USP: New? Well the CM will take you out for lunch and the company has plenty opportunities for growth and support plus it matches 401(k) contributions by 200%, for up to 4% of pay.

49. Kimpton Hotels & Restaurants

Industry: Hospitality

USP: A diverse culture, flexible schedules, lack of hierarchy, and a promote-from-within culture plus pet-friendly sites and a $50 a night hotel room for all employees – one great company to work with.

50. KPMG

Industry: Professional Services

USP: Employees call this place an awesome place to launch a career since it offers staffers more than 50 hours of training a year, and almost 15000 employees have official mentors.

51. Marriot International

Industry: Hospitality

USP: A multi¬national hospitality company with 58% of front line and middle managers being women, and 36% being minorities – Marriot gives unlimited opportunities for growth….

52. Mars

Industry: Manufacturing & Production

USP: What could be sweeter than working at a chocolate factory? The company’s “Five Principles”: quality, responsibility, mutuality, efficiency, and freedom.

53. Methodist Le Bonheur Healthcare

Industry: Health Care

USP: A not-for-profit hospital system that treats employees like they make a difference and is caring-oriented, within and out.

54. Mayo Clinic

Industry: Health Care

USP: A place to work that is more a place of hope plus perks like ice cream parties add to a positive and healing environment.

55. Nationwide

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: It gives workers extra paid time off for donating blood at the permanent on-site Red Cross center and an optional payroll deduction for the past three years has collected and paid $162,000 to staff in times of need.

56. Navy Federal Credit Union

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: Making a difference in the lives of millions of special people who served the country is what makes employees here happy, as does the honesty and fairness policy of the management.

57. Nordstrom

Industry: Retail

USP: Employees at the retail mainstay are empowered to run their own business and staffers call this the most supportive company ever.

58. Novo Nordisk

Industry: Biotechnology and Pharmaceuticals

USP: A culture that’s where the management team is focused on the physical and emotional well-being of people who work there makes this one of the best companies to work for.

59. Nugget Market

Industry: Retail

USP: So everyone gets paid health premiums, even the part-timers and a 4% 401 (k) match! Sounds good? The atmosphere is even greater…

60. NuStar Energy

Industry: Transportation

USP: Employees get generous benefits, perks like free gym memberships, and an average of 24 hours per year in paid volunteer time along with staff celebrations to mark most holidays.

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61. Nvidia

Industry: Information Technology

USP: Big dreams for artificial intelligence are backed by strong ethics and integrity, and the stock tripled in 2016 as well.

62. Ohio Health

Industry: Health Care

USP: Staff award nights and paid shopping trips for workers’ 20th anniversaries makes employees feel valued and appreciated.

63. Orrick, Herrington & Sutcliffe

Industry: Professional Services

USP: So this is a law firm that believes that work/life balance is paramount and managers bend over backward to ensure work gets done without getting in the way of home life!

64. PCL Constructions

Industry: Real Estate & Construction

USP: 90% of employees here own shares and this employee-ownership model gives everyone a sense of belonging. Oh and the dividends are awesome too.

65. Perkins Coei

Industry: Professional Services

USP: Sabbaticals and extra paid time off for long-timers along a culture of mutual respect make this law firm a great place to work for sure.

66. Pinnacle Financial Partners

Industry: Financial Services and Insurance

USP: All employees get restricted stock and annual cash incentives so retiring from this company is a lark, as is the yearly 35 paid days off…

67. Plante & Moran

Industry: Professional Services

USP: New hires receive miniature golden rulers when they start the job to show that caring for others is the cornerstone of this accounting firm’s culture.

68. Protivity

Industry: Professional Services

USP: Everyone gets a peer adviser, a career adviser, and an executive adviser so that each employee can reach his or her best.

69. Publix Super Markets

Industry: Retail

USP: One of the largest employee-owned companies in the US, this company offers great retirement benefits in the form of stock ownership and heft bonuses. Employees really stick around here, with many being over the age of 90!

70. PwC

Industry: Professional Services

USP: So PwC is famous for offering countless opportunities for growth, travel, and leadership and they have also pioneered a student loan pay-down benefit, in which employees can get $1,200 a year toward their loans.

71. Quicken Loans

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: So who says money is boring. Here employees ride hoverboards around the colorful HQ which also has a basketball court with a view to downtown Detroit.

72. QuikTrip

Industry: Retail

USP: A low staff turnover, healthy profit-sharing bonuses, job counseling and tuition reimbursement makes everyone feel important at this convenience-store operator.

73. Rackspace

Industry: Information Technology

USP: This cloud-¬services company has relaxed ¬atmosphere with freedom of individual expression.

74. REI

Industry: Retail

USP: An outdoorsy outfitter, this company truly believes in what it sells, and 70% of its profits go back to staff and community causes. Employees get gear discounts and paid sabbaticals after 15 years.

75. Regeneron Pharmaceuticals

Industry: Biotechnology and Pharmaceuticals

USP: For those who truly want to help, this biotech firm offers dedication, purpose, impact and world-leading science and has four FDA-approved drugs.

76. Roche Diagnostics

Industry: Biotechnology and Pharmaceuticals

USP: Outstanding benefits, perks like an on-site summer camp for staffers’ kids, and a wonderful” work/life balance, makes an average tenure here an impressive 10½ years.

77. Salesforce

Industry: Information Technology

USP: Want to work with a company who gives? This one gives a week off to its employees each year to volunteer in a company with an “Ohana” (family) culture.

78. SAP America

Industry: Information Technology

USP: This dynamic” software company is one big community where each employee is willing to lend another a helping hand….

79. SAS

Industry: Information Technology

One company that tries to care for its employees by offering childcare, dry cleaning, haircuts, and a pharmacy on-site, plus flexible scheduling too.

80. Scripps Health

Industry: Healthcare

USP: The biggest USP of this company is perhaps CEO Chris Van Gorder who is setting the bar high for integrity, respect, and mutual accountability, and answers emails within 12 hours.

81. Sheetz

Industry: Retail

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USP: A high-energy and quirky work environment is the signature of this convenience-store chain, and in 2016 the management announced a $15 million raise for store employees.

82. Slalom

Industry: Professional Services

USP: A sabbatical program for all employees as well a very principled and honest work atmosphere makes this management consultancy one of the best companies to work for.

83. St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital

Industry: Health Care

USP: The job is meaningful enough and the genuine leadership also provided an uplifting atmosphere.

84. Stryker

Industry: Manufacturing & Production

Stryker is a medical device maker and is looking for people who are amazingly talented to change patients’ lives, with ample rewards.

85. Southern Ohio Medical Centre

Industry: Health Care

USP: With 40% of internal hires and tuition reimbursements averaging more than $7,000, this company sure knows how to rewards its performers.

86. TD Industries

Industry: Construction and Real Estate

USP: An employee-owned construction company where the management apparently treats its entire employee well so much so that after five years, employees get their faces in¬cluded among the ¬nearly 1,000 staff portraits of in the HQ lobby.

87. TEK Systems

Industry: Professional Services

USP: The Company shows its thanks by sending flowers to the parents and spouses of top performers and on the company’s 30th anniversary, it gave employees $250 for each year they had been at the company.

88. Texas Health Resources

Industry: Health Care

USP: The Company actually lives by its motto of individuals caring for individuals together as the management is as transparent as it can be, and the staff as genuine as they can be.

89. The Boston Consulting Group

Industry: Professional Services

USP: If you are looking for a consultancy to work at, look no further for this company offers unmatched growth, $5 co-pays and emphasizes self-care for its employees including telecommuting, on site fitness centers and sabbaticals.

90. The Cheesecake Factory

Industry: Hospitality

USP: Nothing cheesy here, where the leaders are supportive, the management warmhearted and everyone remains motivated.

91. The Container Store

Industry: Retail

USP: Higher hourly wages and respected given to those who work good are what makes this specialty retailer one of the best companies to work for.

92. Ultimate Software

Industry: Information Technology

USP: Probably one of the best companies to work for techies, you get wonderful benefits, supportive management, an amazing work environment and restricted stock units on your first day.

93. USAA

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

USP: So this is definitely one of the best companies to work for, with an 8% 401(k) match, six weeks of vacation, and flexible scheduling!

94. Veterans United Home Loans

Industry: Financial Services & Insurance

US’s largest dedicated VA lender has a community minded culture, with more than 90% of the staff giving away 1% of their paychecks.

95. VMware

Industry: Information Technology

USP: 40 hours of paid volunteer time and all new birth or adoptive parents (including dads) became eligible for 90 days of paid leave! Indeed one of the best companies to work for.

96. Wegmans Food Market

Industry: Retail

USP: The great thing about the company is that the employees get flexible schedules, plenty promotions and tiny but meaningful things like free birthday cakes and hot chocolate in winters!

97. Whole Foods Market

Industry: Retail

USP: The Company pays its staffers in stores fairly and rewards them with gain sharing, bonuses and treats everyone with respect.

98. W.L. Gore and Associates

Indsutry: Manufacturing & Production

USP: A promote-from-within culture makes Gore-Tex fabrics, medical devices, and more keeps its employee happy, as will skills and training which the company sponsors.

99. Workday

Industry: Information Technology

USP: This financial management and HR tech company provides seamless people management (even at Walmart) and grants $500 to the cause in a “workmates” name if they volunteer for 25 hours.

100. World Wide Technology

Industry: Information Technology

USP: This systems integrator provides supply-chain technology to 45% of Fortune 500 companies and employees love the perks as well, like on-site medical care, treadmill desk stations, and the occasional free massage.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2019

How to Develop Mental Toughness And Stay Strong

How to Develop Mental Toughness And Stay Strong

Are you the kind of person who wants to achieve massive success in your life? Do you have the mental toughness to make that happen?

I think we can all agree that no matter your ambitions, achieving success can be difficult; and over time, the daily grind can take a toll on your physical, mental, and emotional energy.

Achievers and high performers from all walks of life face ups and downs along the path to success—they face failure, burnout, discouragement, fatigue, self-limiting beliefs, stress, and so much more.

How do some people continually strive towards their personal goals year after year while others give up on them? How do those people stay strong and persevere when there is so much stacked against them?

Studies now show that mental strength is a critical key to success. If you haven’t read Angela Duckworth’s book Grit, you should. In it, she shows that “the secret to outstanding achievement is not talent but a special blend of passion and persistence she calls ‘grit.’” In other words, mental toughness plays a significant role when it comes to achieving goals.

Sometimes, our goals wear us down and leave us feeling exhausted. Other times, our goals get difficult, and success seems impossible, so we lose hope, become discouraged, and want to quit.

At its core, mental toughness is simply the ability to stick to something when the going gets tough. People with high levels of mental toughness can push beyond these obstacles and forge a path towards success while those with lower levels of mental toughness may abandon their dreams.

Want to know the good news?

No matter who you are, what you’ve been told, or what you currently believe, you can develop the mental toughness you need to be successful.

All you need to do is learn to develop a positive mindset, focus on your why, and utilize the people around you for support.

1. Develop a Positive Mindset

If you’re going to increase your mental toughness, the first thing you have to do is focus on building a strong, positive mindset.

According to the Cleveland Clinic, the average person has 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 95% of those thoughts repeat each day and, on average, 80% of repeated ideas are negative.[1]

That’s roughly 45,600 negative thoughts per day!

Carrying around these negative thoughts is like going on a hike in the mountains with a backpack full of rocks. The hike is hard enough on its own, but having extra junk weighing you down is a recipe for failure.

Sometimes, building mental toughness isn’t as much about building new strength as it is about saving your strength for the right tasks. Wouldn’t it be easier to dump the rocks out of the backpack instead of trying to get strong enough to carry the extra weight?

Absolutely!

But how can we learn to spot those 45,600 negative thoughts and get rid of them? How can we empty our metaphorical backpack?

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Well, it gets a whole lot easier if you know what you’re looking for. Some of the most prominent types of negative thoughts are self-limiting beliefs, all-or-nothing thinking, and dwelling.

Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs

It’s pretty hard to be mentally tough when you’re constantly beating yourself up. Self-limiting beliefs are any beliefs that hold you back in some way. Here are some examples:

“I’m not smart enough to…”

“I don’t have enough experience to…”

“I’ve tried that before, and it didn’t go well, so I must just be bad at…”

When we allow these self-limiting beliefs to flood our minds, negative self-talk runs rampant, and we crowd out our ability to think positively. We’re effectively working against ourselves.

If you want to keep your mind strong on your path to success, you have to overcome the self-limiting beliefs that are holding you back by realizing one key truth: self-limiting beliefs are thoughts, not facts.

When you recognize a self-limiting belief cropping up in your mind, quickly silence it by telling yourself that it’s not true and then back that up with some positive affirmations:

  • “I am smart enough; I may just need to do some more research first.”
  • “I may not have as much experience as someone else, but that’s not going to stop me from trying. I have enough experience to get started. I’ll figure the rest out on the way.”
  • “Just because I failed at this last time doesn’t mean I’m going to fail this time. My past does not dictate my future.”

Get Rid of the All-or-Nothing Thinking

Another form of negative thinking that could be preventing you from building mental toughness is all-or-nothing thinking.

All-or-nothing thinking is the concept of thinking in extremes. You are either a success or a failure. Your performance was totally good or totally awful. If you’re not perfect, then you’re a failure.

But this isn’t true!

If you’re trying to lose 30 pounds and only lost 28, isn’t that still better than not losing any weight at all? I’d say so!

If you allow all-or-nothing thinking to rule your mind, you’ll be on cloud nine when you succeed, but you’ll beat yourself up when you “fail.” Acknowledging the shades of gray in between will allow you to see success more often and it will help you celebrate your smaller wins.

When you recognize an all-or-nothing thought, remember to look for the positive in the situation. What did you gain by trying? What would you have missed out on had you not tried? Could you do better if you were to try again?

Ditch the Dwelling

Self-Limiting Beliefs and All-or-Nothing Thinking can lead to a bad case of dwelling on the negative. If you want to build some mental toughness and keep your mind strong, you have to ditch the dwelling.

Every day, bad things happen to each of us, and while there’s nothing we can do to prevent that, we can control how we react to these situations.

When we dwell on our misfortunes, we waste massive amounts of energy that we could be using to achieve our goals. When this happens, we’re more likely to quit altogether.

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But that doesn’t mean you’re not mentally tough; it just means you’re misusing your energy.

The next time something bad happens, it’s important to allow yourself to feel the disappointment and frustration, but work on reducing the amount of time you dwell on the situation.

Easier said than done, right? Try these:

  1. Call a friend or mentor and talk it through with them. Get some outside perspective on your situation.
  2. Time block your dwelling by allowing yourself to dwell for no more than one hour.
  3. Then, tell yourself to move on, that you’re human, and you’re allowed to make mistakes or experience setbacks.
  4. If all else fails, find a good way to distract yourself until you can calm down and reexamine things with a clear mind.

The faster you can focus on the positives and move past the problem, the quicker you can get back to achieving success in your life.

Be Patient about the Process

No matter which negative thoughts tend to run around your mind, working to replace them with positive thoughts can take time.

Learning to spot self-limiting beliefs, all-or-nothing thinking, or dwelling is one thing, but learning to quiet those thoughts is another thing entirely.

If at first you don’t succeed, don’t fret. Instead, take a deep breath and try again. As you work towards improving your mindfulness and your mental toughness, remember that you’re going to get better with time.

To make things a little easier, it helps to connect with your purpose.

2. Connect with Your Purpose

One of the most critical elements to building mental toughness and keeping a strong and focused mind is having a strong ‘why’ for everything you want to do.

If you set out to achieve a huge goal that you don’t have a ‘why’ for, you’re going to find yourself distracted, discouraged, or disengaged as soon as you experience your first setback.

Think about the last time you were working on a goal or resolution and things weren’t going well, maybe you even wanted to quit. Perhaps you thought you didn’t have enough willpower. Maybe you told yourself that you didn’t have enough discipline.

Here’s the truth: you just didn’t have a strong enough why.

Simon Sinek has been spreading his message “Start with Why” across the globe.[2] In short, he says that:

“Your ‘why’ is the purpose, cause or belief that inspires you.”

One of the biggest drains on your mental energy is pursuing a goal or a task that you don’t have a ‘why’ for. This is when we tend to look for external motivation or question our willpower, but those aren’t the issues.

Often, we set goals because we like the idea of the goal, not the reality of the goal. Without connecting to our why, we can’t intrinsically motivate ourselves to achieve our most challenging goals.

Find Intrinsic Motivation

Intrinsic motivation is our innate desire to do something and it comes when we work towards something that satisfies ourselves above all else—not our parents or our bosses or our teachers.

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Let’s say you think you want to quit smoking because you know it’s bad for you, but you really enjoy smoking. If you don’t truly want to quit smoking, it’s going to be nearly impossible, regardless of your willpower or mental toughness.

But if you want to quit smoking because you just had a baby, and you don’t want your baby growing up around smoke, then that ‘why’ is going to give you intrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivation is far more powerful than sheer stubborn willpower, and it’s far easier to maintain over the long haul.

If you’re trying to develop mental toughness, connecting a why to everything you want to achieve will reduce the effort and energy it will take to achieve those things. Once you’ve found a strong why for all of your goals, you’ll find that you’ll have significantly more energy to pursue your more difficult challenges.

3. Find Strength in Unity

The final aspect of developing mental toughness is embracing the idea that you’re not in this alone. It’s a fact, anyone who’s ever achieved success in anything didn’t do so alone.

Bill Gates didn’t build Microsoft alone. Oprah didn’t build her network by herself. Steve Jobs didn’t invent the iPhone without a team. Michelle Obama didn’t implement the “Let’s Move” campaign on her own.

Behind all of these successful people were countless other people who were there offering support, mentorship, guidance, and encouragement.

If you want to develop unmatched mental toughness, you need to understand that you don’t have to go it alone. Even the toughest Navy Seals have a team backing them up.

If you want to stay strong in your endeavors, you need to build a team of supporters who will step in and back you up when it counts.

Find a Mentor or Committee of Mentors

The benefits of having a great mentor are far too many to list, but to boil it down to the basics, a mentor is someone who will help show you the path to success.

A good mentor will help you discover your greatest strengths, spot and overcome your blind spots, and work through your weaknesses.

If you’re struggling to deal with your internal negativity or with finding your purpose, talk it through with a mentor. Sometimes we lose the forest for the trees, and a mentor can help us take a step back and see the bigger picture.

Here’s how to find the right mentor for yourself: How to Find a Mentor That Will Help You Succeed

Recruit Some Cheerleaders

If you want to stay strong, it never hurts to have a group of personal cheerleaders. Unlike mentors who are going to jump in and help you address your problems, a group of cheerleaders will help keep your spirits up.

Even if you have a strong ‘why’ and a positive mindset, it’s nearly impossible to maintain a positive attitude 100% of the time. It doesn’t make you weak to need some help from time to time. Having a group of people cheering you on will make all the difference in the world.

As you work towards your goals, tell a few close friends about what you’re doing, and when things get tough, tell them about it. And when they give you the pep talk you need, don’t resist their positivity or counter it with your self-limiting beliefs or your all-or-nothing attitude.

Allow their optimism to refill your energy and use that energy to press on.

Form an Accountability Group

Cheerleaders are great, but sometimes we need someone to give us the kick we need to keep going. You might have a strong ‘why’ for running a marathon or losing 30 pounds, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy; and trying to force yourself to follow through is a sure way to tax your mental energy.

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Why not save some of your mental energy by forming an accountability group?

Find a person or a few people who have similar goals, or at the very least, the need for an accountability partner. Then, form an agreement within the group to push each other every day.

Even if your goals aren’t the same, accountability partners are great for giving us the push we need when we need it most.

Regardless of which relationships you choose, sometimes we have to be able to work through things on our own. Mentors, cheerleaders, and accountability partners are a great way for us to combat our naturally negative mindsets, but occasionally we have to be able to pick ourselves back up.

4. Learn to Pick Yourself Back Up After Setbacks

Building a strong mindset and developing mental toughness isn’t easy! Anyone who’s ever achieved massive success knows that obstacles, setbacks, and failure are inevitable, and you’re no different.

As you work on your goals, you’re going to face many ups and downs, but this doesn’t mean that you don’t have mental toughness, willpower, or discipline.

We all struggle. We all fail. It’s what we decide to do after we fail that truly counts.

When you find yourself in a low spot, ask yourself these questions:

  • “Am I being too hard on myself?”
  • “Are negative thoughts such as Self-Limiting Beliefs or All-or-Nothing Thinking distorting my view?”
  • “What’s the positive side of this setback/obstacle/failure?”
  • “Why was this goal important to me? What was my purpose?”
  • “Is this goal still important to me? Do I still have a ‘why’?”
  • “Who can I ask for help? Who can mentor me or cheer me on? Who can help hold me accountable?”

Asking yourself these questions is a great way to check in on your mindset. When we get lost in negative thinking or lose connection to our purpose, it’s far too easy to become discouraged. When we feel discouraged, we start feeling weak, maybe even a little hopeless.

Also, this article provides some useful tips to help you get back on track: How to Deal with Failure and Pick Yourself Back Up

Tying it All Together

Are you still with me? I know I’ve thrown a lot at you, from developing a positive mindset and combatting your internal voice to connecting with purpose and building a committee of mentors. It’s a lot to take it!

But here’s the bottom line:

A crucial part of developing mental toughness is learning to recognize these tendencies and taking action to correct them early on. Developing mental toughness is not about eliminating weakness, but learning how to deal with it and overcome it.

No one is perfect, but when we focus on the right things, we can develop a mental toughness worthy of life’s biggest challenges.

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