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Confident Public Speakers Always Focus On Their Hands Instead Of Their Audience

Confident Public Speakers Always Focus On Their Hands Instead Of Their Audience

Remember once in your public speech experience, your hands started sweating the moment you were in the backstage, it sweated even more when you stood on the stage. Your brain is blank because you worried that you might look weird, your audience might not like your content and not drawn by your speech. Yes, focusing too much on your audience will end up making you feel so anxious and fearful!

Confident people get nervous too, but they know how to trick their brains

In one experiment people were separated into 3 groups, with different degrees of restriction. It is found that the more the people are free to move, having their gesture naturally, the more FLUENT they get[1]. It’s not hard to imagine. As you get the right words easier, you’ll less likely to panic. And by using hand gestures it’s shifting our focus from the audience to our own.

So…where to start? Below are some common hand gestures that you can incorporate into your speech easily.

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1. Listing (1/2/3)

    Let’s start with the most easiest one! Use your hand to show the corresponding number when you say the signposts 1,2,3. It can also help your readers to follow your flow more easily too!

    2. Stop

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      image credit: Jack via Flickr

      When you want somebody to stop talking, you can stop them by making this post, it helps add authority to your speech. You can also do it to catch your audience’s attention too. It’s powerful!

      3. Using “ME”

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        To add more personal touch in your speech, you can point or place your hands towards your chest when you talk about something related to you.

        4. Indicating the size

          When you talk about something and describe their size/ degree, you can use your hand to show the corresponding level or sizes, like tiny, small, medium, large. For example, when you describe something that is big, bring your hands wide apart to show the huge space it takes.

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          Featured photo credit: Jack via flickr.com

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          Last Updated on February 13, 2019

          10 Things Happy People Do Differently

          10 Things Happy People Do Differently

          Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

          Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

          Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama

          1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

          Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

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          2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

          You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

          3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

          One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

          4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

          Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

          “There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

          5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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            One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

            6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

            People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

            7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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            smile

              This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

              8. Happy people are passionate.

              Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

              9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

              Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

              10. Happy people live in the present.

              While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

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              There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

              So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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