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This Is What Real Life Romance Is Like: Be Curious About What Your Partner Does

This Is What Real Life Romance Is Like: Be Curious About What Your Partner Does

If someone were to ask you about romance, how would you define it? What does it entail and mean to you? Hollywood does a great job of giving us a very distorted view on what romance is, and sets unrealistic expectations when it comes to our own relationships. Movies like The Notebook or Dear John, for example, have personally given me unrealistic expectations when it comes to love and romance. I mean, who wouldn’t want the love of their life to build them a home exactly the way they wanted? But when it comes to real life relationships, romance is much more complex than in the movies.

Gifts and surprises can make you forget what love really means…

We would all be lying if we said we didn’t want gifts or surprises from our significant other from time to time. It shows us that they pay attention to what we say, and makes us feel important when they surprise us with something because we know it took them time and planning. However, giving frequent material items can really make a person end up craving more and more things rather than the actual affection we get from them. It will make a person lose sight of what love is really all about. Love and romance is not about gifts, it’s about getting to know your partner on a deeper level so you’re able to have a stronger connection with them. Material items often provide short-lived satisfaction.

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Trust me, your curiosity is the precious gift your partner wants to receive

The key to having a more romantic and long-lasting relationship is curiosity. When you’re curious with the person you’re with, it means that you’re curious about their world and everything in it. Let’s say your girlfriend enjoys going to broadway shows. You may not have any desire to go to one, but you go because it’s not about the broadway show, it’s about showing her that you desire to learn more about her through the things she loves. You may not have enjoyed one second of it, but it’ll give you something else to talk about over dinner after. Or maybe you’ll really enjoy it, and it’ll give the two of you something else to do together. Doing these types of things will cultivate intimacy and help build a stronger and better bond between the two of you.

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Curiosity breaks the wall and make you two as one

Curiosity isn’t about just engaging in activities that your partner wants to do, it’s also being curious about them as a person. It allows for better communication. Sometimes we tend to jump to conclusions and make assumptions. You may also find that you are judging your partner for certain habits they have or decisions they make. When you’re consistently approaching your loved one in these ways, it’s very easy to misread situations, unintentionally hurt their feelings, and cause unnecessary arguments.

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For example, your partner may have a difficult time talking about their feelings and, as a result, they internalize a lot and shut down during important conversations. This may give you the impression that they don’t care about your feelings, or care enough about the situation to find a solution. Instead of assuming, jumping to conclusions and getting frustrated, try to get to the bottom of the deeper-seeded issue. This gives your partner the opportunity to let their walls down and to open up to you about something you didn’t know about them, which will allow the two of you to bond more and become closer.

Forget the movies and enjoy the romance in real life!

Again, love and romance is more than just gifts. It’s about all the things money can’t buy you. It’s about time, attention, affection, and curiosity. All of which are more valuable than any gift you could ever receive. When you replace gifts with all of those things, you give your relationship the opportunity to reach new heights and depths it may not have otherwise reached.

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Last Updated on October 18, 2018

50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Right, Nancy’s story is a typical example!)

Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

Quotes for self-assurance

1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

    2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

      3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

        4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

          5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

            6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

              Quotes about positivity

              7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                  9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                    10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                      11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                        12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                          13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                            Quotes for work and success

                            14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                              15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                  17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                    18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                      19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                        20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                          21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                            22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                              23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                  25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                    26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                      27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                        28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                          29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                            30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                              31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                  33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                    34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                      35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                        36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                          37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                            38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                              39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                  41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                    42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                      43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                        44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                          45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

                                                                                            Quotes about money

                                                                                            46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                              47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                  49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                    50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                      51. If you can count your money, work harder.

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