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How To Share Your Stories In A Way That Everyone Would Listen To You So Eagerly

How To Share Your Stories In A Way That Everyone Would Listen To You So Eagerly

You’re having dinner with a big group of friends, someone shared his recent experience and everyone listened so attentively and laughed so hard. While when another friend tried to shared his too, people lost their focus and he couldn’t even finish telling his story.

Why is there such a difference?

It’s not about their appearance or the depth of relationship. Because those people seem to be able to get the attention everywhere. What make them amazing storytellers are the skills they have!

Even if you are not a writer you still need to tell stories EVERY DAY. We tell stories to pitch to our boss, we share our stories with our loved ones, we make new friends by sharing interesting experience, etc. If we can master the skills it’ll be much easier to get your message crossed and better your relationships.

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This article will offer you several storytelling techniques. With a grip of them, you will soon become a good storyteller too.

Begin your story with a solid framework

Although storytelling is free and imaginative, a story should not be told wildly without any frame.

Instead, a good story should be told within a solid framework. And if you think about it, any great piece of literature or movie imbeds this framework:

  • The story tells about a protagonist, which means a main character.
  • The protagonist desires to fulfil a goal, or solve a problem.
  • There are difficulties, or more literarily saying, there are conflicts or struggles, blocking the protagonist’s way to fulfil the goal or to solve the problem.
  • The protagonist overcomes, or resolves, the conflicts or struggles.
  • After the conflicts or struggles, the protagonist grows, or for worse, falls. 

Find it familiar? A lot of superhero films use this formula!

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Carefully plan your protagonist’s struggles

Another point you should pay attention to is that struggle part is essential to a good story.

Why is the struggle important to your story? Because the struggle separates what is called a story from what is daily chore.

Imagine a story is taken away all the struggles. What is left is a sole description of the daily life.

For example, in Hunger Games, if Katniss was not forced to take part in the Hunger Game, the whole show would not even exist at the first place.

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In this light, the importance of the struggle is self-evident.

And for this reason, you should be extra careful when telling your protagonist’s struggle. Depict the struggle vividly. And also reveal deeply what the protagonist is, what the protagonist feels before that life-changing struggle.

Trim off the unnecessary parts

Our final reminder for you to tell a good story is to cut out the unnecessary details in your story.

No one wants to listen to a repetitive and long-winded story.And the excessive details of your story can push off your audience.

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Make sure your story is clear of unnecessary details. To determine what is unnecessary, you may ask yourself:

  • Does it contribute to the delivery of the story’s message or theme?
  • Does it initiate or facilitate changes of the protagonist?
  • Does it help the audience know what to expect of the story?
  • Does it help to build emotions?

If the part you hesitate with does not answer the above questions, very likely it is unnecessary. Then be bold to cut it out.

Remember sometimes less is more. What makes a good story is not overwhelming irrelevant details, but the powerful language and propelling content.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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