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People Who Experience More Stress Share This Characteristic That Makes Their Life Harder

People Who Experience More Stress Share This Characteristic That Makes Their Life Harder

Why do some people seem to be able take all the hits that life can throw at them and come back grinning and swinging? You know, the kind of people who can reframe ‘problems’ as ‘challenges’– and truly believe it.And yet there are also people who take a hit and just can’t seem to recover. It often gets worse, sucking them into a downward spiral. They feel the stresses of life much more keenly and are much more affected by it.These people tend to share one common characteristic: a lack of self-efficacy and an external locus of control.[1]

Self-efficacy is a form of self-confidence; it refers to the degree that you believe that you are capable of achieving your goals.

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Locus of control refers to whether you believe that internal or external factors are most responsible for determining the outcomes in your life.

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If you have an internal locus of control, you believe that it is factors inside you that will determine the course of your life. Conversely, those with an external locus of control believe that external factors are the primary driver of their life. An internal locus of control is tied with a higher level of self-efficacy and vice versa. From reading the definitions above, I’m sure you can put together a mental picture of a person that lacks self-efficacy with an external locus of control.

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Does that person seem like the type that is primed and ready to tackle the myriad challenges of life? The answer is self-evident.

Since most stresses are external, if you believe that external forces are most responsible for the direction of your life, then each stressful event can seem like your life is just spiraling downward. And if you don’t believe in your own capability to reverse its direction, that’s a double whammy of stress.

If this describes you, it is possible for you to change. Unfortunately, you can’t just snap your fingers and develop high levels of self-efficacy where there was none before. It will take a lot of hard work and self-reflection.But know this: getting there is absolutely worth it, and when your mindset is right, the rest of your life will soon follow.

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Last Updated on February 18, 2019

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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