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People Who Experience More Stress Share This Characteristic That Makes Their Life Harder

People Who Experience More Stress Share This Characteristic That Makes Their Life Harder

Why do some people seem to be able take all the hits that life can throw at them and come back grinning and swinging? You know, the kind of people who can reframe ‘problems’ as ‘challenges’– and truly believe it.And yet there are also people who take a hit and just can’t seem to recover. It often gets worse, sucking them into a downward spiral. They feel the stresses of life much more keenly and are much more affected by it.These people tend to share one common characteristic: a lack of self-efficacy and an external locus of control.[1]

Self-efficacy is a form of self-confidence; it refers to the degree that you believe that you are capable of achieving your goals.

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Locus of control refers to whether you believe that internal or external factors are most responsible for determining the outcomes in your life.

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If you have an internal locus of control, you believe that it is factors inside you that will determine the course of your life. Conversely, those with an external locus of control believe that external factors are the primary driver of their life. An internal locus of control is tied with a higher level of self-efficacy and vice versa. From reading the definitions above, I’m sure you can put together a mental picture of a person that lacks self-efficacy with an external locus of control.

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Does that person seem like the type that is primed and ready to tackle the myriad challenges of life? The answer is self-evident.

Since most stresses are external, if you believe that external forces are most responsible for the direction of your life, then each stressful event can seem like your life is just spiraling downward. And if you don’t believe in your own capability to reverse its direction, that’s a double whammy of stress.

If this describes you, it is possible for you to change. Unfortunately, you can’t just snap your fingers and develop high levels of self-efficacy where there was none before. It will take a lot of hard work and self-reflection.But know this: getting there is absolutely worth it, and when your mindset is right, the rest of your life will soon follow.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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