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Your Future Self Will Thank You For Starting To Do This For Only 10 Minutes Every Day

Your Future Self Will Thank You For Starting To Do This For Only 10 Minutes Every Day

“How’s your day?” People ask us about our day all the time. Sometimes, you brushed it off because you know these are just small talks. Often, you had a really bad day and wanted to de-stress. Or maybe, you didn’t even bother to answer. Everyday, we fill our 24 hours up with an extensive to-do list — daily routines, work, sleep, eat, and other miscellaneous, arbitrary things. But have you ever sat down and taken a minute to reflect on your day? If not, here is how and why you should.

When we start to reflect daily, we learn from the little things we experience.

Life has its learning curve. We learn from others, our pasts, our failures, our surroundings, and we adjust our lives and grow from them.

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Take 10 minutes before your bedtime, sit at a quiet spot and analyze your day from the moment you wake up. What did you do? Who did you meet? Where did you go? Was there anything special or rare happened? Ask yourself questions to piece the scattered memories of your day back together. We tend to forget what happened after a short period of time, so writing down your experiences is also useful.

After you have gone through your day, start listing the things you feel like you could improve on, and even think of solutions or approaches to avoid the same mistake from happening.

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  • Was I too emotional when handling this conflict with this person?
  • Was I slacking off at work?
  • Did I rebuff my parents because I was too tired to talk to anyone?

So you may think it’s time to go to bed, but no, you should also list the things you think you managed well that day. Give yourself a pat on your back and tell yourself “I can do this”.

  • I was on time for work today!
  • I helped an old lady with her groceries!
  • I did everything I planned to do today!

Give yourself a confidence boost before you go to bed, and you will be ready to take on the world after a good night’s sleep.

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It’s just 10 minutes a day!

This doesn’t take long, you only need to spend 10 minutes before you go to bed. Separate a private time for yourself, analyze your day, repeat this every night, your outlook and approach to life will certainly transform!

Featured photo credit: Sophie Ollis via unsplash.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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