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3 Mindsets Positive People Have That Make Them Emotionally Stable

3 Mindsets Positive People Have That Make Them Emotionally Stable

Ever wonder why that one woman at work always seems so patient and content all the time? It can sometimes seem like other people have it easy; like they were just born with more poise and grace than we are. The truth is, you can increase your own emotional stability too with just a little change in perspective. Here are 3 mindsets that positive people have that you can use.

1. They Don’t Believe In “Happily Ever After”

Do you remember all of those fairy tale endings where the hero and the heroine ride off into the sunset, inspirational music rising up behind them, and those coveted words coming across the screen as the picture fades? And they lived happily ever after… Not to sound overly cynical, but do you really think there would be nothing but peaches and rainbows in their lives as long as they lived? Life’s ups and downs aren’t optional but your ability to be happy throughout is. Positive people know that life is not only about positive stuff. They are just mentally prepared to embrace challenges and confront difficulties.

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2. They Wait For 24 Hours Before Reacting to Something That Made Them Angry.

How many times have you found yourself regretting the harsh words you said in the heat of anger? Well, there’s an easy trick to avoiding this. Remember not to react right away. You’re not in a normal frame of mind when you’re angry. Your anger won’t make you want to resolve a problem; it’ll just make you want to lash out at somebody. When you’ve cooled off, ask yourself if the issue is something that really needs to be addressed or if you just overreacted. If after 24 hours, the thing that bothered is still on your mind, speak or act constructively to remedy the situation. People will respond more positively to you when you’re calm and you’ll save many relationships this way.

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3. They Always Remind Themselves That the World Owes Them Nothing

Too many people walk around feeling sad, angry, and mistreated because they think that fate should treat them differently. Don’t be one of these people. It is a egocentric and damaging way to think. You and you alone are responsible for your happiness. If the world hurls misfortune at you one day, find a way to divert it or turn it into something positive. In other words, if it rains you don’t shake your fist at the sky; you bring an umbrella.

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Why are so many people unhappy, unhealthy, and suffering from discontent? Many of us work comfortable jobs and live relatively comfortably. What reason to we have to be negative? Really, it all comes down to perspective and attitude. We make the world we want to live in. So, let’s make it a good one.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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