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Someone Asks How To Get Rid Of Negative Thoughts. And This Answer Is Awesome

Someone Asks How To Get Rid Of Negative Thoughts. And This Answer Is Awesome

When you were a child and saw your parent in a bad mood, did you ever think “It must be something that I did”?Or after what you thought the date went well, your crush doesn’t text you the next day and you immediately think “I messed up, there’s no way I’m getting another date, it’s all my fault!”?

Consistent negative thinking can damage your self-esteem and relationships. And while you’ll never completely eliminate them, there is one neat trick you can use to make yourself more aware of your own negative thought patterns and nip them in the bud.

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The trick involves carrying around a spoon with you wherever you go. A teaspoon, to be more specific. And before you close this article in incredulity, let me explain how the trick works.You are going to start by carrying around your teaspoon in your left or right pocket. And whenever you catch yourself forming a negative thought; “I bet my boss totally hates me!”, “I’m such a failure, I’ll never be able to pass that exam!” etc. you will immediately take the teaspoon and transfer it into your other pocket.Simple, right? You may be scratching your head right now and wondering how this will help you with negative thinking, and maybe whether it is worth explaining why exactly you have a teaspoon in your pocket (tip: avoid this by being as discreet as possible with this trick).

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The teaspoon trick is actually a form of mindfulness. Research[1] has shown how mindfulness can help break negative thought patterns by increasing self-awareness of such negative thoughts. And while mindfulness is often associated with meditation, the teaspoon trick works in a similar manner by making you aware of your own negative thoughts, only in this case it uses a physical object as a reminder.

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The teaspoon itself just a normal object that is noticeable by standing out from the rest of your everyday normal wear. Feel free to substitute it; just make sure it’s something that’s novel and will stand out to you.

So if you find yourself constantly plagued by negative thinking, give this trick a try and begin the journey to being a more positive person today!

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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