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Dealing With Rejection The Right Way Can Open Up More Doors

Dealing With Rejection The Right Way Can Open Up More Doors
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Rejection happens. It’s a fact of life, and it always will be. It happens to everyone, and I know it’s certainly not a good feeling. We always want to please others and make ourselves look the best we can. This is only natural; we are human. Sometimes, however, we tend to get into a habit of avoiding certain situations in which we fear getting rejected.

We all have dreams and goals, but if we let the fear of rejection get in our way of these goals, then we are just going to keep dreaming, and those dreams and goals are always going to be just like a hanging fruit right in front of our faces. So close, yet so far. Sticking close to the status quo gives us a sense of shelter that we will not be hurt, and be protected against any form of rejection.

But I really have to ask you, is trying your best and putting one foot in front of the other, and just getting out there, trying as hard as you can – worse than just sitting back and wondering, contemplating, what if? What if I wasn’t afraid? What if I didn’t care about getting rejected?

It’s a choice we all have to make. For some, choosing to sit on the sidelines and be safe feels less painful. But for others, having that regret in the back of their minds forever is just not worth it. Some may feel this is more of a motivator, to face up to the fear of rejection and just go for it no matter what.

So we know that it may happen, but it’s how we react and respond to that rejection that will shape the events that come afterward. Today, I am going to show you how to take a negative situation and turn it to an enormous potential to take an opportunity to another level.

First off, though, let’s look at what types of rejection we may encounter in our lives.

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Fear Of Rejection

Rejection is often paralyzing to most. It stops you in your tracks from doing something that you would like to do. It is a state of mind, which cripples you from doing and saying something because of the fear and uncertainty of what other people with think, say, or do.

I remember when I was younger, and I was looking for a part time job after school, I had applied to a local video store, and let’s just say over a period of a couple of years, I continued to be rejected for a job for whatever reason. In total, I failed to get a job after applying seven times and multiple interviews for this place.

Looking back, I am happy I never ended up working there, but at the same time, I kept on moving on, moving forward and keeping positive. If I had stopped living life after being rejected even after a few times, I would have never grown, developed, or become a better person.

You may think you may not being accepted, being turned down, and made fun of, only happens to you, but don’t worry, millions of people get rejected every day for just about everything – it’s nothing personal.

Types Of Rejection

1. Job Interview

This one is pretty standard. You arrive early to an interview, wearing your best attire, going over answers to possible interview questions that you may be asked. You are as prepared as you can be. You nail the interview, and everything goes well in your mind. Yet you get an email from the employer a week later saying thank you, but they have chosen another candidate, but your resume will stay on file.

2. Society/Meeting New People

You are out with a friend sitting at a coffee shop, and then some of their friends that you don’t know, show up, and they start talking. You feel awkward as you don’t know any of these other people, but feel compelled to pretend you are a little bit sociable and decide to be part of the conversation. You want to impress these people also to like you and hope they do.

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3. Work Dealings

It’s your first day as a sales rep for this major company. You are excited to get out there and show your stuff and prove they were right to hire you. One of your first clients to meet for the day is an account the company would love to get. You show up and pitch your presentation. Does this client agree with you on why they need to spend so much money when the economy is rough right now? What if you can’t land the contract, does your boss get mad at you and start to treat you as less worthy?

4. Friends/Peer Pressure

Sitting at a party with some of your close friends, some of them start smoking in front of you. They begin to confront you and say why aren’t you doing it too. They offer you a cigarette and even light it up for you. Do you take it? Do you start smoking when you said you never would? Will you still be cool to your friends if you say, “No thanks!”

5. Romance/Dating

Butterflies galore. Leaning up against the wall at a club, you see someone from across the room that captures your eye. Your heart melts, and you see Cupid flying by. What do you do? Do you look away? Do you keep staring? Or actually, walk up to the other person and start talking to them, as your heart races a mile a minute?

Rejection Actually Spurs Creativity

The research was done by Sharon Kim of Johns Hopkins University. She set out to prove that the feeling of rejection can help us better access our more creative side.

Why is this important? Because it shows that even if one person doesn’t think you or your ideas are valuable, there are certainly others that will. And you cannot stop your passion and drive to succeed by just one event. You can take it as a good thing because it shows that your ideas are ahead of the time and that you are not only taking a mainstream approach, and usually, the best things happen to those who go off the beaten path and don’t follow the crowd.

Rejection can lead to more creativity. See, you want to be able to say to yourself that there is nothing wrong with you. Not at all, in fact, you are perfect in every sense of the word. You are unique, and that uniqueness is priceless in this world because you have your own thoughts, feelings, and ways of doing things completely different than anyone else.

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Follow These Simple Steps Right Now To Reject Rejection

You cannot take it personally. I am a man of faith, and I believe that if one door closes then another, even better one will open up. It’s that adage that says good things come to those who wait. Here are a few things you can do today to battle rejection:

1. It’s All In Your Mind

Say to yourself that the fear you are feeling is all in your head. The thing about rejection is that we play a game in our minds. We try to come up with scenarios of what could happen if I actually do what I am afraid to do. No one can predict the future, let alone what will happen in the next 5 minutes. The first thing you can do to face your fear is just to go on and do it anyway.

Who cares? Prove it to yourself that you don’t really care about the outcome no matter what it is. Want to ask someone out on a date, just go up to them and ask. What is the worst that can happen? Ask yourself that. And when you actually think about it, you will realize that even if you get turned down, that’s okay! You haven’t lost anything.

2. Focus On The Positives

Stop focusing on the negative outcome, and focus on the positive. Instead of an emphasis on the worst case scenario for what you are afraid of will happen, shift your thinking around to what positive outcome that may come out of it when you go ahead and attempt what you want to do.

We have an unfortunate tendency to always focus on the bad, the wrong, the negative, the mistakes. But this is not okay. When trying to overcome rejection, you have to see yourself in your mind not failing, but visualize what it would be like to have succeeded. How good will you feel inside, and how good life will be.

Afraid of giving a presentation to 100 people? Don’t worry about you forgetting your lines, or not making proper eye contact. Focus on the roar of the crowd, the cheers, the claps, the standing ovation you will receive after you nail a perfect presentation. Shift your thinking beforehand, so you can give yourself a chance to realize your dream.

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3. Be Persistent

Have you ever seen a child not get what they want? It does happen, but a lot of times, a child will get exactly what they are after. This is due to a few things, which all stem to the thought process. A child can go up on stage and give a presentation to 1000 people and not think anything of it. They don’t have fear, period. They don’t care. Rejection is not anywhere in their vocabulary.

This leads to why they sometimes get their way. Persistence. There is no such thing as failing to them. Rejection is not about trying once, then stopping. It’s about trying again and again until it works. So if there is anything that children can teach us adults, it’s don’t take no for an answer, and never, ever stop trying.

Final Thoughts

This is how you have to think about it. Don’t just think that because you got rejected once, twice, thrice, that it’s over. It’s not! There is no limit to success. If you haven’t yet reached your goal in life, gotten hold of your dream, the only one that can stop you is you. So don’t let yourself nor anyone else ever hold you back!

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100 Incredible Life Hacks That Make Life So Much Easier

100 Incredible Life Hacks That Make Life So Much Easier
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Want to learn some quick and easy life hacks that are easy to do, low cost and saves you time?

By tweaking little things in your daily life, it can make your life much more convenient!

Here’re 100 of the most practical life hacks so you can just pick up any of them right away!

83 tie a small piece of bright colored fabric

    84 write random letter

      85 use a rubberband

        86 dorm smell bad

          87 lean your phone on your sunglassess

            89 how to waterproof your shoes

              90 take a picture of the name card

                91 iron inside out

                  92 old newspaper

                    93 tumble try shoes

                      keep a card like this

                        SONY DSC

                          94 soap bar

                            95 make a hole

                              96 drop the battery

                                97 use a coozie

                                  98 when taking a picture

                                    use a clean dust pan

                                      try a pants hanger

                                        use your cellphone light

                                          use a spring from an old pen

                                            quick and easy iphone speaker

                                              user binder clips

                                                wrap a wet paper towel around your beverage

                                                  put pancake mix in a ketchup bottle

                                                    clean out an old lotion bottle for your beach

                                                      use a muffin tin to serve condiments at a bbq

                                                        doritos are great for kindling

                                                          use nail polish to identify different keys

                                                            use a hanging shoe rack to store cleaning supplies

                                                              freeze grapes to chill white wine without

                                                                use paper clips to organize your cables

                                                                  almost finished your jar of nutella

                                                                    sick of having a box full of tangled

                                                                      unroll the rim to increase the capacity

                                                                        cut open toilet paper rolls and use as a cuff

                                                                          remove the stem from strawberries

                                                                            turn an old bottle into a simple little cord holder

                                                                              for iced coffee and iced cappuccino, use frozen coffee cubes

                                                                                how to fold a fitted bed sheet

                                                                                  tired of snoozing past your alarm

                                                                                    place a rubber band around an open paint can to wipe your brush on

                                                                                      ut a wooden spoon across a boiling pot

                                                                                        use bread clips to save flip-flops

                                                                                          take pictures of friends holding items

                                                                                            how i always know which headphone is the left one

                                                                                              put a stocking over the end of a vacuum

                                                                                                How to make sure you drink enough water

                                                                                                  user a can opener to open blister

                                                                                                    good sandwich guide

                                                                                                      turn your muffin pans upside down

                                                                                                        50 pounds of groceries and living on the 5th floor

                                                                                                          the right way to make a blt

                                                                                                            add one teaspoon of baking soda

                                                                                                              38

                                                                                                                hair straighteners equals to collar irons

                                                                                                                  stack your clothes vertically to see them all

                                                                                                                    the right way to make cookies in the summer

                                                                                                                      how to clean a blender

                                                                                                                        the right way to eat a popsicle

                                                                                                                          use bread clips to label and organize power cords

                                                                                                                            to get the built up residue off of your shower head

                                                                                                                              user a hair clip to orgainize long wires

                                                                                                                                a frozen saturated sponge in a bag

                                                                                                                                  rub stuck zipper teeth with a graphite pencil

                                                                                                                                    use a soda pop tab

                                                                                                                                      50

                                                                                                                                        51 How to multiply large numbers in your head.

                                                                                                                                          52 How to open a bottle if you dont have a corkscrew.

                                                                                                                                            rub a walnut on damaged wooden furniture

                                                                                                                                              kids fall out of bed

                                                                                                                                                use toothpaste to clear up hazy car

                                                                                                                                                  58

                                                                                                                                                    59 keep pizza out while driving home

                                                                                                                                                      60 put your straw through the tab to keep it from rising

                                                                                                                                                        hold oreos with a fork so your fingers

                                                                                                                                                          Never lose your remotes again

                                                                                                                                                            hiding your emergency money

                                                                                                                                                              use a bread tab to hold your spot on a roll

                                                                                                                                                                if you are at a hotel and run out of chargers

                                                                                                                                                                  keep a square of cardboard in a ziplock bag

                                                                                                                                                                    If you need to pee or smoke at a bar

                                                                                                                                                                      drill holes in the bottom of your garbage

                                                                                                                                                                        use an accented letter as your passcode

                                                                                                                                                                          use a squeeze ketchup bottle top with your shopvac

                                                                                                                                                                            do something unusual when locking the door

                                                                                                                                                                              when heating leftovers space out a circle in the middle

                                                                                                                                                                                dont burn yourself in those hard to reach candles

                                                                                                                                                                                  put a small amount of water in a glass when you microwave your pizza

                                                                                                                                                                                    75 use a piece of paper to organize

                                                                                                                                                                                      use half a pool noodle

                                                                                                                                                                                        pencil case to store cables

                                                                                                                                                                                          78 clothespin to hold nail

                                                                                                                                                                                            79 make blts

                                                                                                                                                                                              80 take a picture of your fridge

                                                                                                                                                                                                81 fill plastic water bottles

                                                                                                                                                                                                  82 right ways to eat chips

                                                                                                                                                                                                    99 if your plug keeps failing

                                                                                                                                                                                                      100 put the banana on the wire

                                                                                                                                                                                                        88 before you throw away a post it

                                                                                                                                                                                                          Source: Reddit LifeProTips

                                                                                                                                                                                                          There you go, 100 awesome life hacks that you can try right now to make your life a lot easier!

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