Advertising
Advertising

Here’s How Emotionally Intelligent People Handle Conversations

Here’s How Emotionally Intelligent People Handle Conversations

Do you ever feel flustered or frustrated when people keep asking the same questions over and over? Or, are you that person who constantly tries to justify your point of view when someone argues with you? At the same time, have you met someone who could remain calm and collected while dealing with a conflict or chaos? Do you ever wonder how they could maintain composure without becoming agitated or irritated? Here are four ways that emotionally intelligent people handle conversations in social situations.

Everyone receives negative feedback sometimes, even those with high emotional intelligence. Where they differ is that emotionally intelligent people do not feel attacked emotionally, and they do not respond with a defensive “No, I’m not” immediately. Rather, they process their emotions fully and understand the point of view of the other side.

Advertising

Everyone makes mistakes, but is everyone willing to admit what they did wrong? Emotionally intelligent people are not afraid to admit their own limitations and weaknesses, so they do not have a hard time apologizing. They are transparent with their weak points and have a real motivation to better themselves with the help of others.

Advertising

Everyone encounters stubborn and annoying people, but how do emotionally intelligent people stay patient while everyone else is about to flip the table over? They are good at understanding and managing their emotions without having an emotional outburst. At the same time, they understand the emotional drives of other people, which leads to the last point – emotionally intelligent people are good at managing other people’s emotions and validating them.

Advertising

Having someone who is empathetic towards you certainly makes you feel important and valued. Even when a disagreement arises, emotionally intelligent people make others more willing to compromise because they feel appreciated and accepted by those with high EQ.

Emotionally intelligent people are just like us, and they face the same challenges and situations, but what makes them different is their approach. So, why not try to start small by taking a deep breath before handling conversations and conflicts?

Featured photo credit: Markus Spiske via imcreator.com

Advertising

More by this author

Frank Yung

Writer. Storyteller. Foodie.

Your Future Self Will Thank You For Starting To Do This For Only 10 Minutes Every Day 10 Best Standing Desks That Are High in Quality and Cheap in Price Finally, a Way to Avoid Jet Lag: The Jet Lag Calculator The Best Places Around the World to Retire in 2017 Take 5 Minutes To Read And Improve Your Writing Skills Forever

Trending in Communication

1 How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them 2 Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Never Get Stuck Again 3 12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life 4 13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently 5 How to Find Inner Peace and Lasting Happiness

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

Advertising

1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

Advertising

“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

Advertising

3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

Advertising

6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

More on Motivation

Featured photo credit: Thought Catalog via unsplash.com

Read Next