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8 Fun Ways to Make Your Wedding Truly Memorable

8 Fun Ways to Make Your Wedding Truly Memorable

Weddings are, at least on the paper, one of the most memorable moments of our lives. But what couples actually remember after the dust finally settles? Frustration, guest lists, catering, the pursuit for a wedding hall, and other necessary evils. Compared to these chores, the actual ceremony quickly fades into oblivion.

A good part of the responsibility for this situation is from the fact that the wedding ceremony has changed very little since the Middle Ages. And while then, standing in front of the altar and having the feast afterward was probably considered a once-in-a-lifetime experience, the situation in the 21st century is much different.

So, let’s take a look at how to break up this monotony, and bring in some sense of joy, excitement, and fun into weddings again. Here are eight ways to make your wedding truly memorable.

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1. Geeky Wedding

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    The geek culture is on the rise. So, if you’ve ever dreamed of dressing up as a Starfleet officer and having a Star Trek-themed wedding, you couldn’t be born at a better time. But, here’s an even better idea. Induce the ceremony with a healthy dose of Hogwarts magic. Just imagine – you are walking to the wedding aisle where the official is dressed like Dumbledore. You and your future spouse are wearing Hogwarts robes, and your guests are saluting you with their magic wands/fireworks. Weddings can’t be more magical than that. The other two usual suspects are Star Wars (Han and Leia), and comic books (a lot of options to choose from but Superman and Lois Lane are one of the most famous married comic book couples).

    2. Medieval Wedding

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      The best way to turn the tables and make your wedding as archaic as it gets. The best place to do it – a Medieval Fair. Medieval Fairs are usually packed with tons of interesting content. You can organize knights’ duels, a Robin Hood-style competition in archery, horse race, and why not – you can even try to save your maiden from the tower where she’s entrapped. Once you’re done with these exhausting activities, you can heal your wounds with venison, good wine, and the gentle sound of the lute.

      3. Competitive Wedding

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        Most weddings follow the same basic pattern – you welcome your guest, go to the aisle, say “Yes” and then proceed to eat and dance. Why wouldn’t you bring in some competitive spirit into this pretty stale set-up? The possibilities are endless – you can make a karaoke contest, pick some of the Minute to Win It games, or even turn the wedding into a full-blown pub quiz. The first prize could be the first dance with the bride or some other wedding-inspired treat. Split the guests into interesting groups (e.g. bride’s guests vs. groom’s guests, or even better women vs. men), and you ought to have a blast.

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        4. Exotic Destination Wedding

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          How cool it would be if someone asked you, “Where did your wedding took place?” and your answer was “Well, we took the plane to Maldives, brought some friends with us and had a beach wedding. It was unbelievable. All during the winter.” Although the logistics of such a wedding can be more than challenging, you have to admit it – it’s more than worth it. Especially when talking about costs and complications that you have to deal with. But, when you think about it, the cost of this type of wedding can be the same like you’re hosting a traditional 80-guests wedding. You only have to decide.

          5. Active Wedding

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            Not everyone finds so much fun in sitting and eating in an enclosed space. Some of us are more outgoing and like a physical challenge. In that case, spending one of the most important days of your life in nature seems like an excellent idea. And to be quite honest, conquering the nearby mountaintop represents a beautiful metaphor for all the struggles you and your partner went through and all the future mountains you are going to climb by working together. A long hike to some beautiful, remote location where the wedding will take place is just as good of an alternative.

            6. Time-Travel Wedding

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              If you want a themed wedding and can’t decide on a specific theme, why wouldn’t you simply make a quick breeze through the 20th century. Start with roaring 20s, proceed to dapper 50s, feel the disco fever of the 70s, and try out the glam makeup of the 80s, and baggy pants of the 90s. If you want to, you can go even further in the past, or even try to predict the future. All these eras offer a lot of possibilities for fun. Pair the attire with the decade-appropriate food and snacks, and you are in for a treat. So, start looking for vintage clothes and checking online recipes – your time-travel journey is just about to begin.

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              7. Extreme Wedding

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                A wedding for all the people who enjoy a good adrenaline rush. You know how they used to say that entering a marriage is like making a giant leap of faith. Well, now’s your opportunity to make this statement as literal as possible. Take your future spouse on a short flight, pack yourself with a pair of parachutes, and leap into the unknown. If you manage to pull this off in a wedding suit, you will be treading deep into the James Bond territory. Alternatively, you can do a simple bungee jump. Remember, you will be both tempted to scream “Nooooooo,” but you have to say “Yes!” What a way to test your partner, huh?

                8. Underwater Wedding

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                  An excellent way to put a slight twist on the idea of an active wedding. This time though, instead of hiking to the location of the ceremony, you are going to swim there (or to put it more precisely, dive there). Granted, you will have to find the official who is fit enough to dive to the sea bottom, and you will have some trouble saying the marriage vows (cue cards, anyone?), but all these small challenges make an underwater ceremony only more exciting. As for the party, the traditional seaside setup makes the most sense. And there’s a lot of symbolism going on here. You and your future spouse will dive into the water as two separate souls, and resurface as one.

                  Be creative. Do something unique.

                  All you have to do now is to pick one of these themes that is the closest to your heart and start the preparations. If some of these ideas spark an idea of your own, even better. What’s most important is to make your wedding truly fun, exciting and engaging. Life is made of fond memories. Let your wedding take the deserved number one spot.

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                  How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

                  How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

                  Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life.

                  Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affect your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality. (And here’s Why Your Perception Is Your Reality.)

                  I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy.

                  You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

                  Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Become the master of your mind.

                  When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

                  I currently have few thoughts that are not of my own choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

                  Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

                  Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts. If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

                  Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create the most unhealthy and unproductive thoughts:

                  1. The Inner Critic

                  This is your constant abuser who is often a conglomeration of:

                  • Other people’s words; many times your parents.
                  • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples expectations.
                  • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media.
                  • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

                  The Inner Critic is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance and lack of self-love.

                  Why else would this person abuse you? And since this person is actually you– why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

                  2. The Worrier

                  This person lives in the future; in the world of “what ifs.”

                  The Worrier is motivated by fear which is often irrational and with no basis for it. Occasionally, this person is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

                  3. The Reactor or Trouble-Maker

                  This is the one that triggers anger, frustration and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

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                  This person can be set off by words or feelings, and can even be set off by sounds and smells.

                  The Reactor has no real motivation and has poor impulse control and is run by past programming that no longer serves you, if it ever did.

                  4. The Sleep Depriver

                  This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

                  The Sleep Depriver’s motivation can be:

                  • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
                  • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
                  • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity and generalized anxiety
                  • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

                  How can you control these squatters?

                  How to Master Your Mind

                  You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You must pay attention to your thoughts so you can identify “who” is running the show; this will determine which technique you will want to use.

                  Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

                  There are two ways to control your thoughts:

                  • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
                  • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

                  This second option is what is known as peace of mind!

                  The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go to” thoughts in the applicable situations.

                  Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier; and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

                  For the Inner Critic

                  When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

                  You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

                  For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

                  You can also have a dialogue with yourself with the intention of discrediting the ‘voice’ that created the thought, if you know whose voice it is:

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                  “Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

                  If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready. This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

                  • They rile up the Worrier.
                  • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
                  • They are often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
                  • They are a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
                  • They are the destroyer of self-esteem. They convince you that you’re not worthy. They’re a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get them out!

                  Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

                  Replace them with your new best friends who support, encourage, and enhance your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

                  For the Worrier

                  Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

                  Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind and creates anxiety in the body.

                  You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

                  • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
                  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
                  • Muscles tense

                  Use the above stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

                  If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

                  Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

                  “Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

                  Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense; both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

                  If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

                  Now take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like!

                  Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

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                  For example:

                  If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

                  “I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place. Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

                  Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

                  “Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

                  Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

                  For the Trouble-Maker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

                  Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers; but until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

                  The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain:

                  • Increased heart rate and blood pressure; surge of adrenaline
                  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
                  • Muscles tension

                  I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

                  Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds; just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

                  Breathe in through your nose:

                  • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
                  • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
                  • Focus on your belly rising.

                  Breathe out through your nose:

                  • Feel your lungs emptying.
                  • Focus on your belly falling.
                  • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

                  Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize.

                  Now you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior.

                  One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting, or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

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                  Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

                  For the Sleep Depriver

                  (They’re made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

                  I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

                  Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

                  1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
                  2. Then I came up with replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

                  When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and I choose quiet.

                  From the first time I tried this method I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

                  For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (Closed, of course!). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

                  If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

                  You can also use this technique any time you want to:

                  • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon.
                  • Shut down your thinking.
                  • Calm your feelings.
                  • Simply focus on the present moment. 

                  The Bottom Line

                  Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or for destructive purposes.

                  You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

                  Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. The choice is yours!

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