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8 Fun Ways to Make Your Wedding Truly Memorable

8 Fun Ways to Make Your Wedding Truly Memorable

Weddings are, at least on the paper, one of the most memorable moments of our lives. But what couples actually remember after the dust finally settles? Frustration, guest lists, catering, the pursuit for a wedding hall, and other necessary evils. Compared to these chores, the actual ceremony quickly fades into oblivion.

A good part of the responsibility for this situation is from the fact that the wedding ceremony has changed very little since the Middle Ages. And while then, standing in front of the altar and having the feast afterward was probably considered a once-in-a-lifetime experience, the situation in the 21st century is much different.

So, let’s take a look at how to break up this monotony, and bring in some sense of joy, excitement, and fun into weddings again. Here are eight ways to make your wedding truly memorable.

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1. Geeky Wedding

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    The geek culture is on the rise. So, if you’ve ever dreamed of dressing up as a Starfleet officer and having a Star Trek-themed wedding, you couldn’t be born at a better time. But, here’s an even better idea. Induce the ceremony with a healthy dose of Hogwarts magic. Just imagine – you are walking to the wedding aisle where the official is dressed like Dumbledore. You and your future spouse are wearing Hogwarts robes, and your guests are saluting you with their magic wands/fireworks. Weddings can’t be more magical than that. The other two usual suspects are Star Wars (Han and Leia), and comic books (a lot of options to choose from but Superman and Lois Lane are one of the most famous married comic book couples).

    2. Medieval Wedding

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      The best way to turn the tables and make your wedding as archaic as it gets. The best place to do it – a Medieval Fair. Medieval Fairs are usually packed with tons of interesting content. You can organize knights’ duels, a Robin Hood-style competition in archery, horse race, and why not – you can even try to save your maiden from the tower where she’s entrapped. Once you’re done with these exhausting activities, you can heal your wounds with venison, good wine, and the gentle sound of the lute.

      3. Competitive Wedding

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        Most weddings follow the same basic pattern – you welcome your guest, go to the aisle, say “Yes” and then proceed to eat and dance. Why wouldn’t you bring in some competitive spirit into this pretty stale set-up? The possibilities are endless – you can make a karaoke contest, pick some of the Minute to Win It games, or even turn the wedding into a full-blown pub quiz. The first prize could be the first dance with the bride or some other wedding-inspired treat. Split the guests into interesting groups (e.g. bride’s guests vs. groom’s guests, or even better women vs. men), and you ought to have a blast.

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        4. Exotic Destination Wedding

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          How cool it would be if someone asked you, “Where did your wedding took place?” and your answer was “Well, we took the plane to Maldives, brought some friends with us and had a beach wedding. It was unbelievable. All during the winter.” Although the logistics of such a wedding can be more than challenging, you have to admit it – it’s more than worth it. Especially when talking about costs and complications that you have to deal with. But, when you think about it, the cost of this type of wedding can be the same like you’re hosting a traditional 80-guests wedding. You only have to decide.

          5. Active Wedding

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            Not everyone finds so much fun in sitting and eating in an enclosed space. Some of us are more outgoing and like a physical challenge. In that case, spending one of the most important days of your life in nature seems like an excellent idea. And to be quite honest, conquering the nearby mountaintop represents a beautiful metaphor for all the struggles you and your partner went through and all the future mountains you are going to climb by working together. A long hike to some beautiful, remote location where the wedding will take place is just as good of an alternative.

            6. Time-Travel Wedding

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              If you want a themed wedding and can’t decide on a specific theme, why wouldn’t you simply make a quick breeze through the 20th century. Start with roaring 20s, proceed to dapper 50s, feel the disco fever of the 70s, and try out the glam makeup of the 80s, and baggy pants of the 90s. If you want to, you can go even further in the past, or even try to predict the future. All these eras offer a lot of possibilities for fun. Pair the attire with the decade-appropriate food and snacks, and you are in for a treat. So, start looking for vintage clothes and checking online recipes – your time-travel journey is just about to begin.

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              7. Extreme Wedding

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                A wedding for all the people who enjoy a good adrenaline rush. You know how they used to say that entering a marriage is like making a giant leap of faith. Well, now’s your opportunity to make this statement as literal as possible. Take your future spouse on a short flight, pack yourself with a pair of parachutes, and leap into the unknown. If you manage to pull this off in a wedding suit, you will be treading deep into the James Bond territory. Alternatively, you can do a simple bungee jump. Remember, you will be both tempted to scream “Nooooooo,” but you have to say “Yes!” What a way to test your partner, huh?

                8. Underwater Wedding

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                  An excellent way to put a slight twist on the idea of an active wedding. This time though, instead of hiking to the location of the ceremony, you are going to swim there (or to put it more precisely, dive there). Granted, you will have to find the official who is fit enough to dive to the sea bottom, and you will have some trouble saying the marriage vows (cue cards, anyone?), but all these small challenges make an underwater ceremony only more exciting. As for the party, the traditional seaside setup makes the most sense. And there’s a lot of symbolism going on here. You and your future spouse will dive into the water as two separate souls, and resurface as one.

                  Be creative. Do something unique.

                  All you have to do now is to pick one of these themes that is the closest to your heart and start the preparations. If some of these ideas spark an idea of your own, even better. What’s most important is to make your wedding truly fun, exciting and engaging. Life is made of fond memories. Let your wedding take the deserved number one spot.

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                  13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with It and Enjoy the Ride

                  13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with It and Enjoy the Ride

                  Fear. I spend my life talking about fear — fighting fears, fixing fears and understanding fears. And yet I doubt I get 10 calls a year from people saying “Mandie can you help me fix my fear?”

                  Why is this so critically important to you?

                  The realization for me is that fear is not the fundamental driving force in your life it’s what regardless of whether I’m talking to a doctor, a teacher, a CEO’s, a senior citizens or teenager – every single one of those conversations has a direct correlation with your world.

                  Fear can range from the overwhelming desire to look away or stop in your tracks to literally fleeing your country and the life you knew. In this article, I will share you with 13 tips to face your fears and enjoy the ride.

                  1. Know That Fear Is Real, but Can Be Overcome

                  Right now around the world people are facing fear — real fear. Fear that I pray my children and I will never experience. Does that lessen my fears or your fears in your relativity safe 21st century life?

                  When I look at the world we all live in, I find that fear like so many other emotions can mean so many different things to so many different people:

                  • The child who has to be physically dragged to their first day of school.
                  • The man facing the judge.
                  • The woman with her hand poised over the buttons over her phone because she has to walk down a dark corridor late at night alone.
                  • The man as the surgeon says “count backwards from 10 Mr Smith.”
                  • The woman that’s told “We are sorry, we can’t help you.”
                  • The man that faces the empty circle of a gun and prays for his very existence.

                  These and a million more (Portrayed in every kind of movie, book or song you could imagine) are what make us human. We face fear and somehow move forward or are stopped in our tracks.

                  Like the rabbit in the headlights of the car that veers off through the field away from the tyres of the car or stays still praying for salvation. Like someone will save them. Sound familiar?

                  Fear is huge. Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

                  2. Accept Your Fear

                  Firstly if you aren’t facing the barrel of the gun, atrocities that make the news or impeding death, that’s a good start. However it doesn’t mean your fear is any less real.

                  We are quick to say “I can’t moan, my life is not as bad as X.” While in theory, that’s honorable your appreciation of Mr. or Mrs. X’s horrific life won’t change anything directly. So accept your fear is relative to you.

                  And here’s what can be done.

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                  3. Get Some Perspective

                  I found myself asking anyone that would answer “what is your worst fear”. The answer that intrigued me the most came from my daughter (15 years old and she usually has a copy of Fight the Fear – my book – in her school bag so she can help someone else be as positive and confident as her. No matter what life throws up.)

                  And her fear, surprised me — heights. I pointed out that we live in a sprawling bungalow (one storey) and the highest she goes is two storeys’ at school! She laughed but added, fear isn’t like that Mum. I know it’s not a real fear, but it’s like when you stand on a chair and feel unsafe.

                  That girl will go far. Because she truly gets fear.

                  We know something is scary and yet we still do it. Why? Because we have a perspective to the fear. When you lose perspective, it can feel too big, and too scary.

                  So look around you to get some perspective on your fear:

                  • Are you really at risk?
                  • Will this kill you?
                  • Which leads us on to..
                  • If the worse was to happen what would it be?

                  4. Hold a Hand

                  As a coach, it is my job to holds someone’s metaphorical hand and help them face a fear.

                  Like the child petrified of the thunder storm or the teen that can’t get back in a car again after failing their test, your job as a parent is to reassure, encourage, enable and motivate someone to face something that ideally they never would choose to again.

                  We know many of our fears aren’t real. However, it is only when someone guides us with love, respect, lack of judgement and safety are we able to get through fear. And trust me, you can get through your fears. I’ve seen it so many times.

                  Ask yourself:

                  • If the worse were to happen, what would that be?
                  • Could that really happen?
                  • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
                  • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

                  By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through it’s wily evil ways and move forward.

                  5. Know Whose Hand You Hold Either Physically or Emotionally

                  This helps with fears for the rest of your life.

                  Think of someone you can always rely on (and ideally you won’t just answer yourself because that adds a lot of pressure to your existence!) And you will find that you’ve already found a way to get through fear.

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                  The beauty of this is that it means that fear becomes part of life not something to be feared and shied away from.

                  It means you know you can turn to your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.”

                  For one moment, think about it from the other person’s view point. When we get to help other people we feel valued, loved, respected and lots of other positive emotions and we get a good dose of positive chemicals setting off in our bodies too.

                  Your fear, and your determination to fight it, helped someone else too. Now that’s cool right?

                  6. Understand That There Are Some Things Fear Will Never Touch

                  I like to find role models in life — people who have faced heroism, history changing moments, war, atrocities, miracles, life saving inventions.

                  Not everyone was looking for greatness, however they all found it. And one of my favourite books to date is written about Alistair Urquhart, the forgotten highlander. If this doesn’t get turned into a film in the future, then no man’s story is likely to.

                  Alistair went through the most horrific experiences in the 2nd world war. If you think of one of the awful things that happened back then in our world, Alistair went through at least 3 of them! Asked afterwards how did you cope? He talked about how whatever they did to his body, no matter how they starved, tortured, threatened or mocked him, they couldn’t have his mind. In his mind he was free.

                  Of all the people’s voices I’ve heard in my head over the years, this is one of those statements that reminds me anything is possible if you have faith and hope.

                  Look for the things in life that fear can’t touch. They will create confidence and faith for the future, whatever you face. And they will give you a sense of why being you is awesome.

                  Of all the billions of people on this planet, no one will have an answer identical to yours!

                  7. Process Your Fears to Carry on with Life

                  Being brave is not about sticking your chest out and smiling regardless of what hell you endure. It is about finding a way to emotionally process your fears to be able to keep going.

                  I have a tool kit of things I can rely on – tools, strategies, techniques. They include people to hug or talk to, music. hobbies, walks on the beach and even my favourite food. It sounds mad but at the times where I have questioned “how will I get through this?” I’ve found immense joy in doing the most unlikely of thing that makes me smile.

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                  It may be a short lived moment of happiness. However, it reminded that nothing stays the same and I can find away.

                  One client told me that it was crazy when it felt like their world was falling around their ears to run a bath to the brim (you don’t waste water) get the best bath oils, light too many candles, lock the door and drink a glass of bubbly (champagne is only for special occasions.)

                  Did that moment fix the disaster that my clients life felt? No, however it gave them a moment of calm and the brain is far quicker to find solutions, resolve and motivation to keep going when you do that.

                  It may feel like madness to do something you love, however it can be a powerful way to help you find solutions to the fears you face in life.

                  8. Assume the Worse

                  If you read the statement from the client above. Notice how they assumed it was wrong to fill the bath up to the top? How bubbly is only for special occasions?

                  Think how naughty they felt to be doing something that was not allowed?

                  • Think about what age it may have made them feel?
                  • Think about how they feel about champagne?
                  • What special moments it’s been a part of in their lives?

                  And you can see how the assumptions they made about their “right” to have these things was not healthy.

                  When I drag the assumptions out of people’s words for them to see, they are often struck by how negative the words make them feel.

                  Don’t assume your words aren’t impacting on you. You can go through fear and actually enjoy the ride when you take the time to understand how you are letting words get to you.

                  9. Take a Fear That Feels Insurmountable Right Now.

                  If you were to repeat it to me out loud, what would you say?

                  Would you have blame on yourself in there? Would you assume others can do it and it’s just you? Would you feel small, unsuccessful, useless, unworthy?

                  Usually, when you do this exercise, you are able to spot the untruths that run wild in your head convincing you that you are doomed. And rarely when we are faced with our assumptions is there is a lot of evidence to them.

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                  10. You Are Not Defined by Your Fear

                  One fear does not define your life – be mindful of that. It is likely to lead you to thinking of all the times you’ve succeeded and bring a moment of calm, confidence and faith back to you.

                  11. Go with Fear

                  When you learn to go with fear, you could find yourself actually having fun, no seriously – having fun.

                  I have a few amazing clients I’m working with right now who would describe themselves as life long worriers, or pessimists. In the past that has served them well, enabling them to keep safe, steer clear of risks and even develop strategies in the event of disasters. However, now they find it’s becoming hard to break the cycle and they really want to because it’s holding them back.

                  Notice how they’ve found their hidden fears and want to face them?

                  One client said “I knew this was going to be tough, and I knew I couldn’t fight it alone and I knew you would be the one to help me.” Before I sat an incredibly successful, confident, capable business owner with a family and a social life to die for.

                  However, I’ve learned that the most successful looking lives can hide things that impact on life, success, love, happiness and business.

                  We didn’t start with the fear that they felt was holding them back, we broke the fear down, and found lots of little obstacles that had been deemed as “life” and “unchangeable” and “that’s just the way it is” by developing awareness to the little steps on the road to their obstacles to happiness and success they were able to tackle them in a different way.

                  12. Discover Great Skills in Your Scary Moments

                  And in that clients words “I came here to work with you to grow my company, and my own personal skills. I didn’t expect to get the children to be cleaning up after themselves and my partner being more attentive! It all feels a little magic.”

                  The moral is that out of the scariest of moments, we can find great skills we didn’t know we had. Find better, healthier, happier ways to live and find ways to enjoy life more. (And have a bit of magic!)

                  What a great place to be in ready for the next fear that thinks it’s going to get in the way of you, right?

                  13. Own Your Fear

                  Think back over these tips and come up with at least one example for each one. Write them down. Put them on your phone. Turn them into a piece of art. Turn them into a poem. Frame them. Go for a fast walk across the fields, beach, down town and repeat these things in your head to the sound of your feet on the ground.

                  We rarely take the time to appreciate how far we have come, how much we can achieve or what we are capable of – by really owning the tips in this article you will have given your brain a big fat dose of “Damn right I can do this!” and the motivation and accountability to say “Let’s find a way” through any fear.

                  You can’t help but feel good when you see that can you? And fear doesn’t stand a chance, does it?

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