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Beautiful Ways Cremation Diamonds are Changing the Way We Remember Loved Ones

Beautiful Ways Cremation Diamonds are Changing the Way We Remember Loved Ones

There are many ways to remember and honor people who have changed our lives after they have passed on, and the wearing of memorial jewelry is one of the most special. Have you ever heard of a cremation diamond? If you are like most people, myself included, the answer is probably no.

I stumbled across memorial or cremation diamonds when I was researching unique and interesting ways to honor your loved ones. It was a bit of a shock to discover that Queen Victoria had sent the country into mourning when her husband died. I was even more shocked to find out that people are still using memorial jewelry today to honor people who have passed away.

These days, the memorial jewelry is slightly different, but keeps our lost loved ones closer to us than ever before.

1. Cremation Diamonds are Forever

Like diamonds found naturally, cremation diamonds last forever. Being able to carry a diamond that reminds you of a loved one is an amazing gift. It is also one that stands the test of time.

2. Diamonds Can Represent Your Feelings for Your Loved Ones

Memorial diamonds can celebrate your feelings for your loved one. Diamonds can act as symbols of your love and respect by physically representing the emotions that remain long after your loved one has passed.

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3. Your Loved One Will Be with You Always

Cremation diamonds can be taken anywhere and worn for any occasion. Its nice to know that you can still share your experience with your loved one by making them a part of the important celebrations in your life. Check out this beautiful example of cremation jewelry, used to honor a beloved pet.

4. It Keeps Your Relationship Alive

Some people believe that it can be hard to maintain your connection with your loved one once they’re no longer here physically. Memorial jewelry allows you to maintain that relationship by establishing a permanent reminder of the memories and life that you shared together.

5. They Are a Talking Point

As the weeks and months go by, it becomes harder and harder to find ways to talk about your loved one without appearing maudlin. Cremation diamonds are a great way to start a conversation about a loved one who has passed on. It’s always nice to share memories, and cremation diamonds can be great conversation starters.

6. They Act as a Connection Between Your Past, Present, and Future

Life flies by and it is often difficult to understand how quickly our time can pass on this earth. Memorial diamonds connect the past with the present and the future. Cremation diamonds can be passed from one generation to the next, which allows memories to be handed down about loved ones who have passed on.

7. They Help You Work Through Denial

It’s human nature to go through several stages of grief when you lose someone close to you. Denying their death can cause you to isolate yourself, while causing others to turn away. Cremation diamonds provide you with something that you can hold onto, while acting as a reminder that your loved one has, in fact, passed on.

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8. They Acknowledge That Life Will Never be the Same

Unfortunately, life is never the same when you lose someone who played a huge part in your life. Acceptance is the final stage of grief, and it is often at this point that we realize life will never go back to ‘normal.’ Death is a life lesson that allows us to perceive life from a new point of view. Memorial diamonds act as reminders of how life can change and evolve with every experience we encounter.

9. It Motivates You to Live Your Life

Often when someone passes away, people begin to realize that life needs to be lived to its fullest. Once a few months have passed, however, this motivation to cherish every moment can dwindle. Cremation diamonds act as a reminder that you need to seize the opportunity presented by each new day.

10. Comfort During Hard Times

Missing your loved ones can seem unending when you’re immersed in grief. Memorial jewelry can be a comfort when you’re going through difficult times. Being able to physically touch a reminder of your loved one can provide renewed strength and comfort in the notion that you’re not alone.

11. It Adds Positivity to Your Life

Positivity can be hard to come by these days. It is even harder to find when someone you love has passed away. Cremation diamonds add a ray of positivity to your life by allowing you to carry your loved one with you everywhere. Looking at your cremation jewelry can bring a smile to your face and a warm memory to mind whenever you wear that special diamond.

12. It Provides Direction

Feeling lost after someone has passed away is very common. Not knowing how to fill the void that they leave behind can be difficult. Memorial jewelry can help you determine what shape you’d like your life to take in the future. Often, the simple act of talking out loud to your loved one can help you decide how to approach a situation. Memorial jewelry can be a vessel that you talk to, allowing you to feel as though your loved one is sitting next to you.

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13. You can be Together Forever

Cremation jewelry allows you to turn your loved one’s ashes into a precious jewel. Did you know that you can also have a sample of your own hair mixed with your loved one’s ashes? In this way you can be together forever.

14. Create A Family Heirloom

Heirlooms come in all different shapes and forms: from Grandma’s favorite brooch or Grandpa’s tie clips, to Aunt Jane’s porcelain figurines. Cremation diamonds allow families to create new heirlooms that tell a story and share a legacy.

15. Establish a Legacy

Legacies exist in every family. When contemplating the prospect of their own passing, many people wonder, “What will my legacy be?” Memorial diamonds allow you to create and then leave behind a legacy that will be shared with each new generation.

16. Color

Everyone has a favorite color. Cremation diamonds can reflect your loved one’s favorite color, and can be worn everyday, to any occasion. The color of a beautiful cremation diamond can remind you of happy times spent together.

17. The Adventure Isn’t Over

Memorial jewelry allows you to carry on with the life adventures you and your loved one had planned for the future. Cremation diamonds are actually created from the hair or ashes of your loved one, which means they will be with you every step of the way. The way this happens is explained further here.

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18. They Allow Personality to Shine

Every individual is unique, and so is the life that they’ve led. Memorial diamonds can be as unique, funky, or refined as the person they honor, allowing you to create an accurate reflection of their life.

19. Crafting a Keepsake

A cremation diamond is meant to be a keepsake that celebrates the life of your loved one. By incorporating their ashes, you’re keeping their memory alive in the stories that you’ll share and the memories you’ll create as a result of bonding with others over your memorial jewelry.

20. They Remain Close to Your Heart

It has been said that ancient Egyptians placed the wedding ring on the ring finger because they believed that it was directly connected to the heart. Whether or not this is true, cremation jewelry is meant to be worn so that your loved one always feels close to you.

21. A Cremation Diamond is an Emotional and Physical Treasure

Someone once said, “When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” Cremation diamonds are treasures that store your loved one’s ashes and keep them safe. This treasure is tied to all of your emotions and gives you the physical comfort of feeling that your loved one is nearby.

There are many ways to honor your loved one, but cremation jewelry is a wonderfully intimate choice that can keep your loved one’s personality alive through an ever-lasting diamond.

It doesn’t matter how, when, or why you lose someone. All that matters is that they’re gone, and you’re left wondering how you can cope with all of the emotions that have been thrust upon you. Cremation jewelry is an amazing way to celebrate, honor and remember a life that has made a lasting impression on you.

Understanding the process can bring comfort in knowing that you are making the right choice when honoring your loved one’s life and memory.

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How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life. To control your thoughts means to influence the way you live your life.

Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affects your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality. (And here’s Why Your Perception Is Your Reality)

I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive, and just a general waste of energy.

You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Be someone who can control your thoughts—become the master of your mind.

When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

I currently have a few thoughts that are not of my choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in control of your thoughts.

If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create unhealthy and unproductive thoughts.

1. The Inner Critic

This is your constant abuser who is often a conglomeration of:

  • Other people’s words—many times your parents
  • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples’ expectations
  • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media
  • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

The Inner Critic is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance, and lack of self-love.

Why else would this person abuse you? And since this person is youwhy else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

2. The Worrier

This person lives in the future—in the world of “what ifs.”

The Worrier is motivated by fear, which is often irrational and has no basis. Occasionally, this person is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

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3. The Reactor or Troublemaker

This is the one that triggers anger, frustration, and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

This person can be set off by words or feelings and can even be set off by sounds and smells.

The Reactor has no real motivation and has poor impulse control. He is run by past programming that no longer serves you—if it ever did.

4. The Sleep Depriver

This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

The Sleep Depriver’s motivation can be:

  • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
  • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
  • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity, and generalized anxiety
  • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

How can you control these squatters?

How to Master Your Mind

You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You can control your thoughts, but you must pay attention to them so you can identify “who” is running the show—this will determine which technique you will want to use.

Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

There are two ways to control your thoughts:

  • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
  • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

This second option is what is known as peace of mind.

The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go-to” thoughts in applicable situations.

Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

1. For the Inner Critic

When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

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You can also have a dialogue with yourself to discredit the ‘voice’ that created the thought—if you know whose voice it is:

“Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready.

This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

  • They rile up the Worrier.
  • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
  • They are often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
  • They are a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
  • They are the destroyer of self-esteem. They convince you that you’re not worthy. They’re a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get them out!

Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

Replace them with your new best friends who support, encourage, and enhance your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

2. For the Worrier

Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally, and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind, and creates anxiety in the body. This may make it more difficult for you to control your thoughts effectively.

You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

  • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
  • Muscles tense

Use the above-stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time, you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

“Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense. Both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

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Now, take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like! Do it until you feel that you’re close to being in control of your thoughts.

Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

For example: If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

“I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place.

Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

“Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

3. For the Troublemaker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers. But until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain.

I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds—just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

Breathe in through your nose:

  • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
  • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
  • Focus on your belly rising.

Breathe out through your nose:

  • Feel your lungs emptying.
  • Focus on your belly falling.
  • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize. Now, you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior, and you’ll be more in control of your thoughts.

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One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

4. For the Sleep Depriver

(They’re made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher, and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

  1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
  2. Then I came up with a replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and thoughts, and I choose quiet.

From the first time I tried this method, I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (closed, of course). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

You can also use this technique any time you want to:

  • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon
  • Shut down your thinking
  • Calm your feelings
  • Simply focus on the present moment

The Bottom Line

Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or destructive purposes.

You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable, and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. You can be in control of your thoughts. The choice is yours!

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