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What Makes Some People More Attractive To The Opposite Sex? Science Gives The Answer!

What Makes Some People More Attractive To The Opposite Sex? Science Gives The Answer!

Have you ever wondered why you are attracted to a specific person or if there were certain biological features that were more important than others? Well it turns out that beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. In fact, there are different anthropometric traits we associate with an individual’s attractiveness. Science has uncovered distinguishing features that determine attractiveness. However, there is no need to worry if you lack these features as there are proven hacks we can use to improve our attractiveness. Let’s take a look at the scientific features that we are attracted to and what we can do to hack them.

We are unconsciously attracted to the shape of the human body.

Studies identify that men and women with symmetrical bodies have more orgasms. Science has discovered that we are attracted to the face more than any other part of the body; specifically, the symmetry of the face. A symmetrical face will be equal on both sides and demonstrates phenomenal genes. When we analyze the body of the opposite sex, we look for ideal body ratios. Men prefer a waist-to-hip ratio of 7:10. In contrast, women prefer a man with a 9:10 waist-to-hip ratio.[1]

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Let’s face it (pun intended), a youthful, proportional, and symmetrical face is ideal and attractive. There are specific exercises you can do in order to improve the symmetry of your face. These include the following: cheek toning exercise, the partial wink, and the facial stretch.

Furthermore, fix your posture. It seems as though everyone I come across has horrible posture. Here are some quick tips in fixing you posture: 1) Wear a posture belt; 2) Hold your cell phone at eyel level; 3) Use a standing workstation at the office; and 4) Simply stand up straight.

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We are attracted to the voice of a person.

What type of voice are you attracted to? What if I told you that men prefer women with a high (breathy) voice? Well, we do. As women age, their voice will get lower and a high voice represents a younger woman. Whereas, a female is attracted to the voice of a man proportional to his body size – preferably a large body size that signifies a low pitch.[2]

Fortunately, we can improve the sound of our voice. Preston Ni at psychologytoday.com provides four suggestions for improving our voice: 1) Breathe right; 2) Make sounds based on diaphragmatic breathing; 3) Take a singing or acting class; and 4) Work with a private voice coach.

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Our ring finger is linked to sperm count.

This one is a little shocking. Our fingers reveal a wide spectrum of information about us. John Manning writes in his intriguing book, Digit Ratio: A Pointer to Fertility, Behavior and Health, “The ratio of the length between the ring and index finger is somewhat sexually dimorphic.[3] The fingers may provide permanent, and easily visible, historic marker of hormones, particularly testosterone.” Manning also commented on our hands and how they may infer whether we are more likely to have homosexual inclinations, if we are highly fertile or not, or even if we may eventually suffer from a heart attack. Crazy stuff!

I encourage you to check out Manning’s book, specifically the table identifying the characteristics associated with the digit ratio. You just might be able to determine if you are more aggressive, more fertile, or if you have a greater proclivity toward homosexuality just by looking at your fingers!

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Long-distance runners are more attractive.

Research has uncovered that long-distance runners will have greater levels of testosterone. In fact, male long-distance runners have optimal genes. They are also in much better shape than everyone else. To rub it in even more, male long-distance runners are more likely to have raging sex drives and larger sperm counts.

Men and women who exercise are also more likely to be more intelligent. Exercise is the optimal vehicle for stimulating neurogenesis. Neurogenesis is the birth of new neurons (otherwise known as brain cells). So, get off your butt and go for a long run. This will not only make you more intelligent and fit, it will also increase your libido!

Lastly, men and women looking for the optimal partner will look for these qualities. By possessing them, you will more than likely attract a similar partner and continue to improve the gene pool. Remember, continuously improve your body, work on your voice, get in peak physical condition, and pay attention to your fingers.

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Last Updated on October 13, 2020

12 Things High Self-Esteem People Don’t Do

12 Things High Self-Esteem People Don’t Do

Having high self-esteem is important if you are aiming for personal or professional success. Interestingly, most people will high levels of self-esteem act in similar ways. That’s why it’s often easy to pick them out in a crowd. There’s something about the way they hold themselves and speak, isn’t there?

We all have different hopes, dreams, experiences, and paths, but confidence has its own universal language. This list will present some of the things you won’t find yourself doing if you have high self-esteem.

1. Compare Yourself to Others

People with low self-esteem are constantly comparing their situation to others. On the other hand, people with higher self-esteem show empathy and compassion while also protecting their own sanity. They know how much they can handle and when they can offer a helping hand.

In the age of social media, however, social comparisons are nearly ubiquitous. One study found that “participants who used Facebook most often had poorer trait self-esteem, and this was mediated by greater exposure to upward social comparisons on social media”[1]. Basically, you will feel worse about yourself if you are constantly getting glimpses into lives that you consider to be better than yours.

Try to limit your time on social media. Also, when you do start scrolling, keep in mind that each profile is carefully crafted to create the appearance of a perfect life. Check yourself when you find yourself wishing for greener grass.

2. Be Mean-Spirited

People with low self-esteem bully others. They take pleasure in putting other people down. People with positive self-esteem see no need to down other people, choosing instead to encourage and celebrate successes.

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If you find that you feel the need to put others down, analyze where that’s coming from. If they’ve had success in life, help them feel good about that achievement. They may do the same for you one day.

3. Let Imperfection Ruin Your Day

Perfectionism isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but obsessing over making everything perfect is a sign that you have low self-esteem and can lead to never-ending negative thoughts. This can turn into an inability to solve problems creatively, which will only make self-esteem issues worse. 

Those with high self-esteem disconnect from the results and do their best without expecting perfection.

People with that kind of confidence understand that messing up is a part of life and that each time they aim and miss success, they’ll at least learn something along the way.

If you miss the mark, or if your plan doesn’t work out exactly as you would have liked, take a deep breath and see if you can pivot in order to do better next time.

4. Dwell on Failure

It’s common to hear people dwelling on all the ways things will go wrong. They are positive that their every failure signals an impossible task or an innate inability to do something. People with healthy self-esteem discover why they failed and try again.

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People with higher levels of confidence also tend to adopt a growth mindset[2]. This type of thinking supports the idea that most of your abilities can be improved and altered, as opposed to being fixed.

For example, instead of saying, “I’m just not good at math; that’s why I did bad on the test,” someone with a growth mindset would say, “Math is difficult for me, so I’ll have to put in some more practice to improve next time.”

Next time you experience a failure, check out this video to help you believe in yourself again:

5. Devalue Your Self-Esteem

People with high self-esteem value their own perception of themselves – they understand that they come first and don’t feel guilty about taking care of themselves. They believe charity starts within, and if they don’t believe that, they’ll never have a healthy self-image.

Self-care is often top of the priority list for people with self-esteem. For some ways to practice self-care, check out this article.

6. Try to Please Others

They can’t please all the people all the time, so confident people first focus on doing what will make them feel fulfilled and happy. While they will politely listen to others’ thoughts and advice, they know that their goals and dreams have to be completed on their own terms.

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7. Close Yourself off

Confident people have the ability to be vulnerable. It’s those with poor self-esteem that hide all the best parts of themselves behind an emotional wall. Instead of keeping the real you a secret, be open and honest in all your dealings.

As Brené Brown, author of Daring Greatly, points out, “Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen”[3]. When you embrace each facet of who you are and allow others to see them as well, it will create deeper, more meaningful connections in your life. When that happens, you’ll realize that perfection doesn’t lead to people liking you more.

You can learn more about the power of vulnerability in this TED talk with Brené Brown:

8. Follow and Avoiding Leading

People with low self-esteem don’t believe they can lead, so they end up following others, sometimes into unhealthy situations. Rather than seeking a sense of belonging, people with high self-esteem walk their own paths and create social circles that build them up.

9. Fish for Compliments

If you’re constantly seeking compliments, you’re not confident. People with high self-esteem always do their best (and go out of their way to do good deeds) because it’s what they want to do, not because they’re seeking recognition. If you need to hear compliments, say them to yourself in the mirror.

You can even try some positive affirmations if you need a confidence boost. Check out these affirmations to get started.

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10. Be Lazy

People work harder when they have high self-esteem because they’re not bogged down by doubts and complaints. Those with low self-esteem end up procrastinating and wasting their energy thinking about all the work they have to do rather than rolling up their sleeves and just getting it done.

This may also bounce off perfectionism. Perfectionists often feel intimidated by certain projects if they fear that they won’t be able to complete them perfectly. Tap into your confidence and simply do your best without worrying about a perfect outcome.

11. Shy Away from Risks

When you trust yourself, you’ll be willing to participate more in life. People with low self-esteem are always on the sidelines, waiting for the perfect moment to jump in. Instead of letting life pass you by, have confidence in your success and take the risks necessary to succeed.

12. Gossip

People with low self-esteem are always in other peoples’ business – they’re more interested in what everyone else is doing than themselves. People with high self-esteem are more interested in their own life and stay out of others’ affairs.

Instead of participating in idle gossip, talk about some positive news you heard recently, or that fascinating book you just finished. There’s plenty to talk about beyond what this or that person did wrong in their life.

The Bottom Line

Self-esteem is to success in life. People who maintain a healthy level of self-esteem believe in themselves and push themselves to succeed, while those with low confidence feel a sense of entitlement.

If you need a boost in your self-image and mental health, avoid negative self-talk and the other mistakes of people with low self-esteem. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.

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Reference

[1] Psychology of Popular Media Culture: Social comparison, social media, and self-esteem
[2] Brain Pickings: Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives
[3] Forbes: Brene Brown: How Vulnerability Can Make Our Lives Better

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