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5 Important Things You Need To Remember If You Want To Make A Remarkable Conversation

5 Important Things You Need To Remember If You Want To Make A Remarkable Conversation

We spend so much of our time trying to make an impression on people. And what they say is clichéd but true, first impressions are usually lasting. So the next time you are striking up a conversation with a stranger you want to befriend or impress, remember these five tips to make sure you leave them with a remarkable conversation and a lastingly positive impression…

1. Be a 100% there when they talk

Most of us may be great talkers, but many of us are bad listeners.[1] We are so involved in what we are going to say next that we basically stop paying attention to what the other person is saying and our body language consequently turns to one of impatience or disinterest. We might start tapping our hands or feet, turn slightly away from the person. When the other person is talking, remember to listen and make eye contact. This tells the person that you are interested in what he or she has to say, and it will make for a remarkable conversation.[2]

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2. Remember the details they mention

A good listener actually listens and stores interesting tidbits for the next conversation. Maybe the person you were talking to mentioned how he was taking up a new hobby, or how her daughter is due for her SATs. Remember the name of the person, where they are from and where does their family live. Remember their children’s names or pet’s name the next time you meet them; they’ll be happy to see how much of an impression they made on you.

3. Fill in awkward pauses with interesting and personal questions

Sometimes, after a particularly anecdotal story, there is a lull in the conversation. Don’t let this pause get awkwardly long. Instead of talking about generalities or even the weather, ask them a personal question – like where they are from, or how are they adjusting to their current location, or maybe even when and where was their last vacation? A directed and personal question brings about fresh conversation as well as new directions of where to take a remarkable conversation next.

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4. If you sense a little boredom, ask them for their opinion

Even the best of conversationalists might ramble and bore the other person a bit. If you sense or see a slight disinterest radiating from the other person, ask them for their opinion on a generality. Giving them an opportunity to speak will make for a remarkable conversation. You don’t have to ask them to state their opinion on say the political scenario of Africa; rather ask them a simple opinion on the latest blockbuster they watched, or which of Paulo Coelho’s books have they found the most interesting and why. And once they start talking, remember point one – listen and remember the tiny details that emerge.

5. Finally, pay them a true and unique compliment

The person you are talking to might have met plenty of new faces that day, and he or she won’t necessarily remember what you talked about or said to him/her. But people really tend to remember how you made them feel. Leave the other person on a high with a smile on their face; you can do this by paying them a heartfelt and unique compliment. If you call a model beautiful or an entrepreneur successful – you are paying them a generic compliment they might have become immune to. Instead tell them about how their eyes smile before they do, or how they have the ability to make people feel at home by just smiling at them. If you leave them feeling good about themselves, then you truly have had a remarkable conversation. [3]

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These are five easy guidelines to follow that will help you become a good conversationalist who people want to talk to…

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Last Updated on June 24, 2019

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

A study [1] published in Depression and Anxiety found that social media users are more likely to be depressed. This was just one of the huge number of studies linking social media and depression[2] . But why exactly do platforms like Facebook and Instagram make people so unhappy? Well, we don’t know yet for sure, but there are some explanations.

Social Media Could Lead to Depression

Depression is a serious medical condition that affects how you think, feel, and behave. Social media may lead to depression in predisposed individuals or make existing symptoms of depression[3] worse explains[4] the study above’s senior author Dr. Brian Primack. So, the problem may not be in social media per se, but how we use it.

Signs You’re Suffering From “Social Media Depression”

If you feel like social media is having a negative impact on your mood, then you may be suffering from “social media depression.” Look for symptoms like:

• low self-esteem,

• negative self-talk,

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• a low mood,

• irritability,

• a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed,

• and social withdrawal.

If you’ve had these symptoms for more than two weeks and if this is how you feel most of the time, then you are likely depressed. Although “social media depression “is not a term recognized in the medical setting, social media depression seems to be a real phenomenon affecting around 50% of social media users. As explained in a review study[5] published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, if a person has a certain predisposition to depression and other mental disorders, social media use may only worsen their mental health.

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Social Media Could Crush Self-Esteem

We know that social media and depression are in some way linked, but why is this so? Well, according to Igor Pantic, MD, Ph.D.[6], social media use skews your perception about other people’s lives and traits. To explain this further, most people like to portray an idealized image of their lives, personal traits, and appearance on sites like Facebook and Instagram. If you confuse this idealized image with reality, you may be under the false impression that everyone is better than you which can crush your self-esteem and lead to depression. This is especially true for teens and young adults who are more likely to compare themselves to others. If you already suffer from low self-esteem, the illusion that everyone has it better off than you will just make you feel worse.

Causing Social Isolation and Other Negative Emotions

Another commonly cited reason for the negative impact of social media on mental health is its link with social isolation. Depressed people are more likely to isolate themselves socially and chose only to interact indirectly through social media platforms. But communication online tends to be superficial and is lacking when compared to real-life interaction explains Panic. What this means is not that social media leads to isolation but the other way around, possibly explaining why we find so many depressed persons on these sites.

Lastly, social media use may generate negative emotions in you like envy, jealousy, dislike, loneliness, and many others and this may worsen your depressive symptoms.

Why We Need to Take This Seriously

Both depression and social media use are on the rise according to epidemiological studies. Since each one has an impact on the other, we have to start thinking of healthier ways to use social media. Teens and young adults are especially vulnerable to the negative impact of social media on mental health.

Advice on Social Media Use

Although these findings did not provide any cause-effect explanation regarding Facebook and depression[7], they still do prove that social media use may not be a good way to handle depression. For this reason, the leading authors of these studies gave some suggestions as to how clinicians and people can make use of such findings.

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One suggestion is that clinicians should ask patients about their social media habits. Then they can advise them on how to change their outlook on social media use or even suggest limiting their time spent on social media.

Some social media users may also exhibit addictive behavior; they may spend too much time due to compulsive urges. Any compulsive behavior is bound to lead to feelings of guilt which can worsen depressive symptoms.

Having Unhealthy Relationship with Social Media

If you feel like your relationship with social media is unhealthy, then consider the advice on healthy social media use provided by psychology experts from Links Psychology[8]:

Avoid negative social comparison – always keep in mind that how people portray themselves and their lives on social media is not a realistic picture, but rather an idealized one. Also, avoid comparing yourself to others because this behavior can lead to negative self-talk.

Remember that social media is not a replacement for real life – Social media is great for staying in touch and having fun, but it should never replace real-world interactions.

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Avoid releasing personal information – For your safety and privacy, make sure to be careful with what you post online.

Report users who bully and harass you – It’s easy to be a bully in the anonymous and distant world of social media. Don’t take such offense personally and report those who abuse social media to harass others.

The bits of advice listed above can help you establish a healthy relationship with social media. Always keep these things in mind to avoid losing an objective perspective of what social media is and how it is different from real life. If you are currently suffering from depression, talk to your doctor about what is bothering you so that you can get the treatment you need to get better. Tell your doctor about your social media use and see if they could give you some advice on this topic.

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