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12 Places to Take an Architecture-Loving Date in Manchester

12 Places to Take an Architecture-Loving Date in Manchester

As we reach a certain age, our perspective on life, love, and dating begins to change. No longer is a hot date seeing the latest movie, or wining and dining in the newest, most expensive restaurant in town – at least not for all of us. Not all the time.

Modern dating is about mutual interests, compatibility, and the enjoyment of just being together. If you’re from the Manchester area, and your latest date has included architecture amongst their pastimes, here are a few ideas which may just pique their interest.

1. A Fabulous First Date

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    First dates can often be a stressful experience. A daytime visit to the beautiful Castlefield Urban Heritage Park could be just the thing to allay those niggling little concerns. Stroll in the sunshine alongside the tranquil Bridgewater canal. Book a tour on a converted coal barge, or just enjoy a coffee on the terrace of one of the many 18th century warehouses converted to coffee shops, restaurants, and offices.

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    2. Fantastic Football (Soccer)

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      If your date has included both architecture and football (and by that I mean soccer, not American football) in their interests, then make an impression with a visit to the all glass National Football Museum situated on Todd Street. With free entry, café, and souvenir shop, you can both immerse yourselves in your favorite sport as the time flies by.

      3. The Museum of Science and Industry

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        For those with an interest in architecture, the museum stands alongside the oldest railway station in the world. For the science and history buffs, you can enjoy old steam engines and vintage aircrafts before retiring to enjoy a latte. An ideal venue for a unique day out.

        4. Manchester Town Hall

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          Situated in Albert Square, the town hall is a mix of beautiful gothic and Victorian architecture. With six floors to explore, and 23 bells in the bell tower, there is plenty to interest couples with a passion for old architecture and a love of the city in which they live. Plenty of cafés, bars, and retail stores surround the square for both parties to enjoy a little down time.

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          5. Manchester Cathedral

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            No matter what your faith, if you love old buildings you can’t fail to be impressed by the splendor of this Gothic building situated in Victoria Street. Built from 1422 to 1506, it became a cathedral in 1847. Manchester Cathedral is a great date place for couples who share a faith, or who wish to explore the faith of others.

            6. Chetham’s Hospital and Library

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              After a little light lunch, a short walk north from the cathedral will bring you and your date to Chetham’s Hospital. Circa 1422, it was once a residence for monks, and is now a music school and public library, holding over 100,000 books, 50% of which were printed before 1850.

              7. Manchester Art Gallery

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                One often finds a love of architecture, modern or old, goes hand in glove with a love of art. Bring out the artistic bent in your date with a visit to Manchester Art Gallery. Sitting in Mosley Street, it houses works from world famous French, British, German, and pre-Raphaelite painters, as well as a comprehensive display of sculptures from the likes of Moore, Epstein, Maillol and Rodin.

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                8. Heaton Hall and Park

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                  Does your date have a disability that makes prolonged walking or standing difficult? By choosing to visit Heaton Hall and Park they can enjoy the exterior facade of this and other listed buildings, before enjoying a romantic picnic lunch in Heaton Park.

                  9. Platt Fields Park

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                    Another venue for those couples who prefer more quiet than hustle and bustle. The attractive Georgian Platt Hall is set in the grounds of Platt Field Park. For lovers of fashion, its museum houses a collection of costumes and fashions dating back to the 1600s, and rivals anything the big London museums have to offer.

                    10. Beetham Tower, Deansgate

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                      For the younger thirty-something daters, perhaps the interest is modern architecture. Beetham Tower is a mixed-use building, which includes a Hilton Hotel taking up the first 22 floors, high end apartments, and a public bar with 360 degree panoramic views across Manchester. A great place for a special date.

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                      11. Manchester University

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                        If both yourself and your new date are taking post-grad university degrees, perhaps a date visit to Manchester University in Oxford Road could provide effective conversation pieces. Built in 1851, a stroll through its halls and grounds may invoke fond undergraduate memories for you both.

                        12. A walk on the Architectural Side

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                          Finally, if your wish is to impress your new date with as much varied architecture as possible, then consider an organized Manchester Architecture Tour. Mixing with others who have a similar interest will often help fill those otherwise awkward silences so many of us come up against on first dates.

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                          Last Updated on July 10, 2020

                          How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

                          How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

                          We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

                          We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

                          So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

                          Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

                          What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

                          Boundaries are limits

                          —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

                          Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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                          Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

                          Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

                          Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

                          How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

                          Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

                          1. Self-Awareness Comes First

                          Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

                          You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

                          To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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                          You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

                          • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
                          • When do you feel disrespected?
                          • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
                          • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
                          • When do you want to be alone?
                          • How much space do you need?

                          You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

                          2. Clear Communication Is Essential

                          Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

                          Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

                          3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

                          Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

                          That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

                          Sample language:

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                          • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
                          • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
                          • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
                          • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
                          • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
                          • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
                          • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

                          Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

                          4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

                          Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

                          Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

                          Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

                          We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

                          It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

                          It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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                          Final Thoughts

                          Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

                          Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

                          Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

                          The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

                          Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

                          Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

                          They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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