“The more we express gratitude, the better we feel”: okay, but what does this sentence really mean to us?
What Is “Gratitude”?
The word “gratitude” has a number of different meanings, depending on the context. A practical clinical definition is the following:
Gratitude is the appreciation of what is valuable and meaningful to oneself; it is a general state of thankfulness and/or appreciation.
In other words, gratitude can be for virtually anything we (as subjective entities) realize has (or potentially has) a positive impact on ourselves. Gratitude has effects on our mood and our general well-being; it is a precursor of what is commonly called “happiness.”
3 Steps to Gratitude
Mr. Robert A. Emmons, perhaps the world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude, argues that gratitude has 2 main key components, which I am here splitting into 3 steps. The 3 steps are Affirmation, Recognition, and Acknowledgement. We do need to consider that the 3 steps, as identified above, are often not separate in time: they evolve naturally, all together in a synergic approach.
“First,” Emmons writes, “gratitude is an affirmation of goodness. We affirm that there are good things in the world, gifts, and benefits we’ve received.”
The above comprises the appreciation of something affecting us positively in many ways.
The second step is called the “recognition” stage. Immediately after (or together with) affirming goodness, we recognize that the sources of the goodness, the causes of our increased sense of inner happiness, are external to us. This coincides with a sense of inner awareness.
The last step is “acknowledgement”: giving credit where credit is due. The source of our well-being and enjoyment is external to us, and so we finally thank this entity.
Effects of Gratitude
Practicing a daily habit of gratitude has enormous advantages and apparently no contraindications at all.
Numerous studies have demonstrated the powerful impact of practicing gratitude on both body and mind.
It turns out that everyday experiences–and very simple exercises like keeping a gratitude journal–can change the wiring in your brain (neuroplasticity, anyone?) and change your life for the better.
Scientific evidence has proven that kindness changes the brain and impacts the heart and the immune and nervous systems. Gratitude improves sleep quality as well.
Gratitude and Kindness, expression of love and connecting with others: those ingredients are needed by the body to produce more Oxytocin, the “love hormone”. More Oxytocin equals to a general better feeling and wellbeing.
According to Jane McGonigal, a scientific study concluded that “I wish I had let myself be happier” is one of the top 5 regrets of the dying.
Easy habits to cultivate Gratitude
Practical tip No. 1: Have you said “thanks” today?
Practicing saying “thank you” in a sincere and meaningful way. It’s one of the easiest psychological strategies for enhancing the feeling of gratitude. Looking for a challenge? Smile and thank the most grouchy, surly and unfriendly person you meet during the day. Perhaps you will not receive some kindness back, but remember that gratitude is a gift.
I’ve found tons of useful resources and studies all over the Internet, but if you are looking for a comprehensive starting point, a visit to the Greater Good Science Center at the University of California is a must. The key concepts summarized in this article are covered in depth on their website.
Also, at the Emmons Lab website, you can find lots of resources, including a questionnaire about gratitude.
TIP: if you have just 3 minutes or so to start, take this quiz at the Greater Good website.
Practical tip No. 2: adding gratitude to your daily journal
Simply writing down 3 sentences before going to bed and adding 3 new ones after waking up will make a substantial change. Looking for a shortcut? Then just think (and say, if not disturbing anyone) the three statements while laying down on your bed, eyes closed, before falling asleep. First, say: “Today I’m grateful for…” Then, wait a few seconds to acknowledge the sense of gratitude. It might feel like a sense of inner lightness gently warming up your chest. Then, move on and say the next one, for a total of 3. A light smile on your face is optional.
Putting feelings into words is believed to produce therapeutic effects in the brain, and writing down stuff helps us become more aware of our thoughts, relieving the brain from its usual chatter. So, limit the use of the shortcut above to 2 or 3 times per week. Use some ink on the other days.
Another good resource is the article on Lifehacker.com about journaling and its effects.
Everybody can easily incorporate simple and cheap habits to enhance their feelings of gratitude; consequently, we can all take advantage of the benefits associated with the experience of thankfulness. Among other psychological strategies, you can try:
- meditating on gratitude
- writing and sending a letter to someone for whom you are grateful
- doing appreciation exercises; see a comprehensive list here: https://daringtolivefully.com/gratitude-exercises.
There is nothing to lose and so much to gain by expressing and practicing gratitude. Let’s share our experiences in the comments section below!
Featured photo credit: Manlio Lo Giudice via theholisticexperiment.com
|||^||Emmons Lab Website http://emmons.faculty.ucdavis.edu/|
|||^||Growing new neurons by weaving gratitude circuitry in your brain https://thegratefullifebook.com/2015/03/24/growing-new-neurons-by-weaving-gratitude-circuitry-in-your-brain/|
|||^||Counting blessings versus burdens: an experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12585811|
|||^||Effects of Constructive Worry, Imagery Distraction, and Gratitude Interventions on Sleep Quality: A Pilot Trial http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1758-0854.2011.01049.x/abstract|
|||^||Why Kindness is good for you http://drdavidhamilton.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Prediction-Aug-10.pdf|
|||^||TED talk: Jane McGonigal: The game that can give you 10 extra years of life http://bit.ly/1EKyPMQ|
|||^||The Gratitude Questionnaire-Six Item Form (GQ-6), By Michael E. McCullough, Ph.D., Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., Jo-Ann Tsang, Ph.D. http://www.sas.upenn.edu/psych/seligman/gratitudequestionnaire6.pdf|
|||^||Putting Feelings Into Words Produces Therapeutic Effects in the Brain; UCLA Neuroimaging Study Supports Ancient Buddhist Teachings http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/Putting-Feelings-Into-Words-Produces-8047|