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5 Things You Could Do To Make You Instantly Likeable!

5 Things You Could Do To Make You Instantly Likeable!

As they say, you can never have a second first impression and most of us feel nervous when trying hard to make people like us. We deem ourselves to be rather funny and witty when interacting with those closest to us, who know us well, and make us feel comfortable in their company. But what happens when we meet new people? Oftentimes, we find it difficult to come up with the perfect joke that will make everyone laugh and perceive us as adorable.

We are unsure as to whether the things we say are truly amusing or whether our attempts at humor will leave people staring at us in awkward silence. Those feelings of self-doubt are going to be things of the past if you start practicing these five solid pieces of advice that will make people fall in love with you and make you appear more likable instantly:

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1. Make your body language more expressive

One of the characteristics of charismatic people is their expressive body language. In moderation, of course. Other people won’t be drawn to you if you just stand still like a tree, making your jokes seem so plain and dull. If you accompany the way you talk with expressive movements and gestures, people will take it as a sign of your playfulness and confidence. Consequently, what you are saying will feel more natural and people will want to hear more of it.

2. Boost other people’s ego

No one can stay immune when you are complimenting them, even if you say it in the form of a criticism. People like their virtues and qualities to be noticed, and boosting their ego will definitely make them like you. Even if you say to someone, “I didn’t imagine that this dress could look so good on someone!” – they’ll take it as a compliment. Yes, you criticized their sense of fashion, but at the same time, you were saying how attractive they are.

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3. Make jokes about something that won’t make people feel insecure

It is a normal thing to feel uncomfortable when someone is making fun of you. But if someone makes a joke about something that is beyond your control, either because it’s temporary or it’s not common to your personality, that’s another story. You won’t see it as a criticism and will find it hilarious.

So, if some of your friends did something that is a long way from who they really are, such as doing something silly while being intoxicated, and they are not known as someone who drinks like a fish, they won’t get mad if you joke at their expense. They’ll join in and laugh with you because it’s not mean-spirited. It’s lighthearted fun that everyone can take part in.

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4. Laugh at yourself

It’s always the best way to gain affection by making fun of yourself. People are always ready to jump in and greet such jokes with a smile of approval. Why is that so? Because it tells them you are not an insecure person, that you are perfectly aware of your flaws, and  that you accept them as a part of your personality, thus you are not afraid to show them to the world.

You don’t have to go out of your way to make a fool out of yourself, people will take the hint. When you say, “I could have been a model if I wanted to.” People will get that you are joking about the way you look without directly saying, “I am fat” or “I am ugly”, which would be the signs of your insecurity.

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5. Don’t hurt anyone with your jokes

If people feel insecure about a certain aspect of their physical appearance or their personality, making jokes about that will result in hurting their feelings and they’ll probably stay away from you for a long time, maybe even for the rest of their lives.

Trying to win points by hurting other people, even if everybody else is laughing, isn’t the right way to make people like you. Imagine how you would feel if it was the other way around. Not funny anymore, right? Just be careful not to mess with other people’s feelings and you are on the right track.

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5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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