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Everyone Is Fighting Their Own Battle, That’s Why You Need To Be Your Best Cheerleader

Everyone Is Fighting Their Own Battle, That’s Why You Need To Be Your Best Cheerleader

It’s was so comforting and assuring to have a full support system around you growing up, with your parents and siblings making you feel protected, cheering you on through each new step of your childhood, and providing comfort through hard times. Yet, once you become a young adult, it suddenly seems to you that you are left to face the scary grownup world on your own, making you feel like you were abandoned by your closest ones.

If you feel this way at times, here’s what you need to know in order to stop relying on anyone else but yourself and start being your best cheerleader.

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Of course, your closest family members want all the best for you, and your friends as well. Yet, there will be certain times when even your parents won’t be able to support you. Sometimes they will disagree with your plans simply because they don’t understand, and that’s fine, as long as you’ve got your own back and believe in yourself, you will be just fine.

Other times, you and your once close friends will grow distant and the support that you were used to getting from them will disappear. Those are the conditions you can’t really control. What you can control is the relationship that you have with yourself. As long as you don’t give up on yourself and continue to cheer yourself on even through the worst times, you will become much less dependent upon others’ support and approval.

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Apart from not getting the support from the people who truly care about you, you will come across many mean people whose sole intention will be to undermine you and your work. That is why you have to build your own support system in order to not get discouraged.

Another important truth you need to realize in order to stop looking for support outside yourself, is that everyone is fighting their own battle. If you take the time to think about the life of any person you know, you will realize that we are all working on some of our personal issues. Therefore, to expect others to constantly support us would be quite selfish and egocentric.

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Having great family and group of friends is amazing, yet understanding that they won’t be around to cheer us all the time is what will make us stronger and more self-reliant.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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