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5 Things That Happen When You Date a Drug Addict

5 Things That Happen When You Date a Drug Addict

My friend Stanley passed on the other day. He died from a drug overdose. And it took me back to when we were growing up and how smart he was and how he wanted to become a structural engineer. There were so many possibilities before him. But somehow he hung around a bad group, took some bad turns and became a victim of his own fantasies.

Of course there are medical and legal ways of assisting drug addicts that is if it is not too late already. I have dated a lady once who was a drug addict and somehow Stanley’s death brought me before the realities that I was dealt with in the relationship. It is always hard to walk away because you feel sorry for your partner and believe they would change. They rarely change. Drug addiction is a battle that could last for a lifetime. Here are 5 things that happen when you date a drug addict.

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You are always having money issues

Trust me there will be money issues because your partner would need money to contain their horrendous habit. They would lie, steal, gamble or create arguments simply because they need money to buy their next dose of drugs. It would be frustrating because it could extend beyond simply buying drugs for them, but also taking care of other expenses for them. You may need to buy them meals, movie tickets and clothes. When you are in a relationship with a drug addict, you would always have money issues.

You can never be their priority

Yes, you want them to care about you just as much as you care about them. You want them to be there for you just as you are there for them. But the failing is that such compassionate emotions are always tilted to a particular person. When you are in a relationship with a drug addict, you shouldn’t expect the other person to take you as their number one priority. They would take their drug addiction as the top priority. Of course you might say the relationship is a selfish one, but it is the silly price you have to pay to date a drug addict.

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They are as scared as you

Yes, I was scared for my girlfriend. I was always wondering what was going to happen to her, when she got caught with drugs or her reputation in society. Then there is the medical issue. I was pretty much scared for her. But I guess she was scared for me too. Even though I was scared of losing her, I knew she was scared to lose the fantasy that the drugs provided.

They want you to have a go at drugs too

There is always that temptation to join them in the act. Of course they want you to have a go at drugs too. It makes them feel they belong to you. Even when it is not your kind of thing, the pressure can be hard as you would always want to please and make them happy.

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You will have to learn to forgive them

Many times they would apologize to you and seek your forgiveness. Yes, we all know it is tough trying to be a better person, and as much as they want to make you happy, they are constantly at war with themselves. The hard part is that you would have to be as tolerant as possible to keep them in your world. Most times, it is one to forgive them and it is another thing to forgive yourself for being in love with them.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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