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5 Things That Happen When You Date a Drug Addict

5 Things That Happen When You Date a Drug Addict

My friend Stanley passed on the other day. He died from a drug overdose. And it took me back to when we were growing up and how smart he was and how he wanted to become a structural engineer. There were so many possibilities before him. But somehow he hung around a bad group, took some bad turns and became a victim of his own fantasies.

Of course there are medical and legal ways of assisting drug addicts that is if it is not too late already. I have dated a lady once who was a drug addict and somehow Stanley’s death brought me before the realities that I was dealt with in the relationship. It is always hard to walk away because you feel sorry for your partner and believe they would change. They rarely change. Drug addiction is a battle that could last for a lifetime. Here are 5 things that happen when you date a drug addict.

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You are always having money issues

Trust me there will be money issues because your partner would need money to contain their horrendous habit. They would lie, steal, gamble or create arguments simply because they need money to buy their next dose of drugs. It would be frustrating because it could extend beyond simply buying drugs for them, but also taking care of other expenses for them. You may need to buy them meals, movie tickets and clothes. When you are in a relationship with a drug addict, you would always have money issues.

You can never be their priority

Yes, you want them to care about you just as much as you care about them. You want them to be there for you just as you are there for them. But the failing is that such compassionate emotions are always tilted to a particular person. When you are in a relationship with a drug addict, you shouldn’t expect the other person to take you as their number one priority. They would take their drug addiction as the top priority. Of course you might say the relationship is a selfish one, but it is the silly price you have to pay to date a drug addict.

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They are as scared as you

Yes, I was scared for my girlfriend. I was always wondering what was going to happen to her, when she got caught with drugs or her reputation in society. Then there is the medical issue. I was pretty much scared for her. But I guess she was scared for me too. Even though I was scared of losing her, I knew she was scared to lose the fantasy that the drugs provided.

They want you to have a go at drugs too

There is always that temptation to join them in the act. Of course they want you to have a go at drugs too. It makes them feel they belong to you. Even when it is not your kind of thing, the pressure can be hard as you would always want to please and make them happy.

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You will have to learn to forgive them

Many times they would apologize to you and seek your forgiveness. Yes, we all know it is tough trying to be a better person, and as much as they want to make you happy, they are constantly at war with themselves. The hard part is that you would have to be as tolerant as possible to keep them in your world. Most times, it is one to forgive them and it is another thing to forgive yourself for being in love with them.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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