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6 Reasons You Should Date A Gamer (Girl or Boy)

6 Reasons You Should Date A Gamer (Girl or Boy)

Most girls are looking for the ravishing bad boy who is going to make their love life interesting, despite the fact they know these boys are trouble. Meanwhile, the nerdy type is left alone with his games. Which is a pity, because there are so many reasons you should be dating a gamer boy. Or a gamer girl, in a boy’s case. You don’t have to know all the games they play, and you don’t have to join the gamer at Comic Con, but once you get to know them better, you will discover how many things you have in common. Plus, gamers are sexy creatures when you manage to take them away from the gaming console.

1. Gamers know the value of alone time

Most gamers know how valuable alone time is and don’t become jealous. They only become jealous when one of their friends has the latest game and they don’t. They will be happy to give you the space you need, as long as you do the same for them. There will be no problem when you want to spend the night with your friends, because your date will be spending the night playing a game. That’s a win-win!

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2. Gamers are more intelligent than average

The Department of Defense conducted a study which revealed gamers are more intelligent than the average person. This is because video games ask for a sharp mind and the ability to solve problems fast. Playing a game also requires the ability to focus for a long time and the ability to observe and memorize. All these keep the brain active, just like you keep your muscles active by exercising.

Another habit of a gamer is the love for exploring new technologies. When you are learning to use a new technology, you also exercise your brain, which improves your intelligence.

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3. Gamers have a broad imagination

When you are dating a gamer, you will never become bored, because they have really broad imaginations. Because they spend most of their time playing games featuring fantastic worlds, gamers know how to find the awesome in the most mundane things. This will make all of your moments together unique and memorable.

4. Gamers are low-maintenance

Who doesn’t want a low-maintenance date?! Gamers are able to play non-stop for hours on end without eating or asking for anything. They are also going to be ok with staying inside, having some pizza and chilling, just like they will be ok with going out. A gamer is definitely a low-maintenance date. Except for one thing…

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5. You will have the best devices

Dating a gamer comes with a lot of perks in the technology area. You will always be able to enjoy the latest gaming chair, you will always have the best speakers and headsets on the market, you will have your own personal computer specialist and you will never have to call for the cable guy to fix the router or something similar. A gamer, boy or girl, knows technologies like his or her own hands and will always be eager to help you out with any tech-related problem you might have. Besides, they will always spend their money on technology instead of on casinos or other people.

6. Gamers are real-life heroes

A gamer never gives up, and when he or she does, he or she is going to use that time to recover, regroup and try again. A gamer will always look for alternatives and keep trying until the problem is solved. The same is valid for your relationship, as giving up is not acceptable for a gamer.

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Because gamers are used to waiting – they wait for new games all the time – they will also have patience with you. If you need three hours to get ready for a walk, your gamer date will wait for you and maybe even play one level in the meantime. If you need more time to really find out what you feel about them, your gamer will have patience and won’t give up on you.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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