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If You Don’t Want To Become A Toxic Person Unknowingly, You Should Quit This Habit

If You Don’t Want To Become A Toxic Person Unknowingly, You Should Quit This Habit

We’ve all judged someone. Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it, but there is no excuse to justify this behavior. You may judge others because you feel that they are different, because you don’t think they measure up to your standards, or because they don’t think the same way you do. Or, you may jump to conclusions without knowing the whole story.

The truth is, you have no idea what another person has been through or what they’re going through, so you don’t have the right to make judgments.

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We usually don’t think about how our negative attitude and actions can make another person feel. Not only should we think about this before making the decision to act or think negatively, but we should also think about how we are going to feel afterward. More often than not, you will feel an overwhelming sense of regret and guilt.

Of course, we don’t want to be the reason someone’s feelings get hurt, but we still act in a way that might cause another pain. However, there is always room to become a better person. Everything we go through in life will teach us something, and so will this.

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We should always make a point to change the parts of ourselves that we are not so proud of, because most times our negative actions will come back to bite us if we aren’t careful.

People will always be judgmental, but that doesn’t mean you can’t strive to be better. Always show kindness to others, not only in your actions but your words too.

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The next time you find yourself judging someone, think about how you would feel if you were in that position, and you’ll think twice about making that judgment.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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