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Your Ex Might Not Be As Good As You Think, Just The Chemicals Are Misleading You

Your Ex Might Not Be As Good As You Think, Just The Chemicals Are Misleading You

Are you going through a breakup? We all know how painful it is to deal with heartbreak. Reminiscing those golden times when our supposed soulmate was by our side. The world was a bed of roses and every day was just perfect. We resent the separation and glorify our ex with all our might.

Let us tell you how that exaltation of your ex is ridiculously overrated. Yes, you read it right. Latest scientific research[1] has it that our brain fluids are the reason we put our ex on a pedestal post breakup. You can follow the link to read more about it. That strong urge to go back to the ex is just those chemicals messing with you.

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Our brain is divided into numerous parts that are each responsible for something. During initial stages of love, the elements, prefrontal cortex and amygdala, which manage pessimism and criticism stop functioning. Thus promoting us to go on with the relationship happily.

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This chemical reaction is so thoroughly seated in our brain that we can’t let it go even after breaking up. This happens because we are, in a way, addicted[2] to our beloved. Scientific research shows that people deeply in love will experience a release of “dopamine” because of the caudate nucleus.

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This caudate nucleus fuels motivation and objective directed conduct. More commonly known as the “rewards system” makes us ignore the negative aspects of our ex and only recall the positives. When this happy phase ends with the relationship, it fills us with pain and despair.

Now that you know, it’s time to take control of your emotions. Don’t let chemicals convince you that you need your ex. Remind yourself of the reasons why you’re better off without your ex. Delete the texts, burn the pictures and sing “We are never-ever-ever getting back together!”

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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