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3 Major As in Marriage That Can Lead To Divorce

3 Major As in Marriage That Can Lead To Divorce

It is very essential to define the term “Marriage” because different people have different meanings of the term. No doubt, there are a lot of benefits in union of a man and woman especially the sweetness and beautiful life you enjoy as partners. Many marriages have easily been terminated today. A reason might be that some people failed to understand how to get men committed to you.

As a result of this failure a sweet home will just break off easily. In one of my previous articles I explained the reasons why many relationships fail at their tender period. People sometimes also fail to understand what their partner want. If the level of understanding hits the bottom then the marriage is at the brick of divorce.

Moreover, no matter how full of understanding a relationship is, such a union will face challenges. When the challenges can’t be overcome and coped with it, might lead to divorce.

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Divorce without more definition is an obstacle to any relationship. It is also known as the end of marital problems because it is surely the end of the whole marriage when we call it a divorce. It is surely a device that breaks the sweetness and enjoyment of two partners.

According to a Spodek Law Group who assists in overcoming difficulties in divorce with a strong emphasis placed on compassionate, comprehensiveness and cutting edge legal representation. The group explained the major three things in marriage which can lead to divorce. These 3 reasons which all start with an A can pose a huge threat to the stability and understanding level of a romantic relationship. I will explain the three As below.

1. Addiction

Addiction is known as a habit of doing something consistently. Though, consistently in the sense that such individuals can’t go without the habit. Such a habit has a negative effect on the life of the individual. Simple examples are those who are addicted to hard drugs like Cocaine, Heroine, Liquor and others. No doubt, a partner’s addiction to any of the above drugs can have a negative effect on your relationship.

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Also, addiction to sex of a partner can end a marriage by divorce. I have read many stories where the sole reason why many partners divorced is a sex addiction. A partner will accuse his partner of not satisfying him or her. Another addiction is gambling. All addicted activities can interfere with our living thereby affecting our marriage.

2. Abuse

Abuse without doubt can terminate a marriage. Abuse simply means misusing or insult in a marriage. The abuse can be verbal, physical, mental and also economical. The physical abuse in a marriage is also known as “domestic violence”. Good examples of physical abuse are beating, pushing, hitting, pressing etc.

On the other hand, examples of emotional maltreatment is a partner’s high level of jealousy, maltreatment of the spouse, making jest or fun of the partner or revulsion of affection.

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However, economical abuse in matrimony is the excessive control of finance by one partner. The misusing of the financial aspect of a relationship by a spouse to mistreat the other spouse so that they live in misery. This makes your partner feel scared, powerless and eventually makes her or him sad or not comfortable in the marriage.

3. Adultery

Adultery is said to be an extra-marital affair. It is an intimate infidelity to one’s better half or husband. It’s a costly offensive act on a spiritual, social and moral level because the trust of your companion is being betrayed. In some cultures, adultery is seen as a crime as well, but this is not the case in a few Europeans and African countries. Sincerely commiting adultery poses serious problem within a marriage.

After reading this post, I believe you have learnt from it. Therefore, you need to spare your marriage by understanding your partner. There is nothing good in getting into the stage of divorce. Enjoy your wonderful life and sweet relationship with your partner by learning from these three ‘As’ to avoid divorce.

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While people have special days for relationship or love celebrations, true love really goes beyond that.

This article is specifically not for any special one-time love celebration or romance but it’s about all kinds of relationship. It’s about building all kinds of relationships with loved ones, colleagues, family members, and friends; to anyone who has proven to be someone worthy to share a part in the history of our existence.

When it comes to relationships, no one is really an expert. Everyone has lacking points which often starts so little and with time could cost much more than just a separation, it can lead to a complete loss of the relationship. Siblings may end up fighting with each other, families torn apart, co-workers against each other and even elderly couples ending up in divorce or worse.

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There should be a way for redemption, to build back the lost trust and to build the bridges again linking relationships for a greater bond and for a better relationship. And the best way to do this is by being honest with ourselves, knowing what relationships need to survive and knowing that everyone has to give what it takes. Being perfect may not be the solution, but being self-aware is.

1. Take care of yourself first

Relationships are not easy and anyone who has tasted one can tell. Whatever happens in relationships is a mirror of everything about us. Have you imagined anytime we have bad and stressful days, our relationships seem to be more difficult? Our relationships suffer when we are not happy with ourselves and we can feel it. We feel the lacking, the difficulties, but the one thing we really don’t take into consideration is that we are the cause of the relationship’s shortcomings.

Have you ever seen yourself in a fight, only to wonder later, what you really were up against? Have you sometimes felt disappointed of your expectations when they were not met by people you expected? I really hope this post  helps you overcome all that. Everyone has needs and your instincts should be your perfect guide.

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Whatever needs to be done for someone else and if your instincts tell you to make yourself happy first, please do so. Everyone has needs and everyone can make sacrifices but our happiness should be first. This doesn’t mean you don’t make some sacrifices but sometimes it’s best to make yourself happy first before you can make others happy.

2. Distance shouldn’t be a barrier

“If the vehicle can’t take the messenger, it could at least take the message”. This beautiful aged proverb implies that the message is more important than the sender.

Beautiful relationship quotes can help brighten the cloudy storm around your relationship. The greatest relationship mistakes made over time is the belief that only showers of gifts and being together are what sustains relationships. Well, this has been proven wrong.

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A beautiful message to a loved one like inspiring love message on their profile can break any distance barrier. Little things matters and this is one thing people often neglect. However the distance, people feel special knowing they are remembered, knowing someone somewhere is thinking about them.

3. Remember seasonal celebrations

Many seasons of a year bring holidays periods for families, friends and loved ones to come together and have a wonderful time. Keeping these moments memorable must be your focus – birthdays, weddings, marriage anniversaries and all.

A great feast among the numerous feasts celebrated every year “Christmas” is a perfect time to reach out to families and friends, to have a merry filled moments that makes up for the times of separation, to exchange gifts and inspiring messages with those we sincerely care about. If we can’t be together with those we love in these special seasons, Christmas messages shouldn’t be beyond our reach too.

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If keeping our relationships with people especially those we hold most dear matters much to us, these seasons should be kept in our minds. Remembering seasons and sharing happy moments is one of the proven ways to keep our relationships with loved ones.

4. Take the responsibility

Most times, it’s very easy to find something wrong with a relationship when we are unhappy. Blaming other people for our own feelings we expect them to come up with solutions for the problems and we give them total control over the relationship. Well, expecting a solution from this kind of situation is simply expecting something that will never come because you haven’t actually found the cause of the problem.

Before blaming someone else for what you feel,or for something you/they should have done earlier, the best solution is to look deeper into the problem to see if there is something you could have done to savage the situation, something that could have prevented the problem. Taking responsibilities for problems gives us the creative power for their solutions but if we blame someone else, we shouldn’t be surprised if they don’t do anything to find a solution and the problem becomes even worse.

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