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Travel Is The Only Thing I Buy That Makes Me Richer

Travel Is The Only Thing I Buy That Makes Me Richer

The idea of traveling, for many people, seems like a pipe dream that they can only fantasize about. Some people think that traveling is reserved for a privileged few who belong to the highest income brackets. Surrounded by your own and others’ thoughts about the matter, you may start to feel like you are in an unending disciplinary hearing. You may start questioning whether it is “responsible” to invest in your own growth and happiness.

Are You Escaping Life, Or Is Life Escaping You?

If you prioritize travel in your life, many people will sit you down and point out the problems with your plan’s practicalities. They will try to tell you where you should “invest” your financial resources “for your own sake.” You may be constantly named, shamed and blamed for being irrational or for using travel to escape your reality. Contrary to those expressed sentiments, if you immerse yourself in a monotonous routine of work, sleep, eating, and weekends, life will escape you[1] because you will never experience the extraordinary. Instead, invest in a journey of a lifetime. You will have experiences money can’t buy.

Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.[2]

Giving Up on Your Inner Desires?

Many people are held back by the stifling belief that they need to be “money wise,” so they end up “settling” and never fulfilling their inner desires. These people sit back thinking about their dream getaway, but then they hold back on reaching for it.

When you have to work yourself into a state of excitement rather than naturally experiencing joy and passion, you’re probably settling.[3]

Travelling is a journey of the soul. The benefits are immeasurable. When you travel, you are awakened into self-discovery, you conquer fears, and you let go of burdensome stress. Numerous benefits come from taking journeys that are not just vacations or preplanned getaways but journeys of discovery.[4]

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“Should Haves” and “Could Haves”

After years have passed, we look back and we regret what we did not do more than what we did wrong. What we did wrong just added to our life lessons. Our deepest regrets come from keeping ourselves locked down into practicalities, calculating time and money spent, and halting our own plans to break free. The love, the gratification, and the joy that embrace you when you travel will make sure you stop focusing on how much money or time you’ve spent on the endeavor.

Travel – A Tool of Self-Development

We are all surrounded by a plethora of life difficulties, and we work hard to change this, that and the other. And, it takes effort and hard work to make big changes with persistence. No one has the mental energy to make all the changes that they should. We each create a long list of resolutions each New Year’s, but we end up overwhelmed by all we’d hoped to achieve.

Travel is a pathway that will help you realize your self-improvement goals.

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All of us contemplate where we are heading. Then comes a new day, and another. All the things we desire to do pile up, and it seems we are always waiting for the right time. Taking the initiative to travel now can help you achieve many goals, such as:

  • learning new languages
  • managing social situations
  • exploring cuisine
  • encountering new literature
  • keeping the mind and the body active

When you find yourself in a foreign country, you learn how to communicate even if you don’t know the local languages. You figure out how to navigate, you make new friends, and you learn how to coexist with others and how to solve a stream of problems. The experience will boost your confidence in your ability to handle unexpected situations in a new setting.

Face It: Life Becomes What You Allow It to Become

As Mark Manson writes,

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“Most people assume that they suffer because of the negative aspects of themselves. But, the real reason they suffer is because they avoid those negative aspects of themselves, not the fact they have them.”[5]

You lie back on silent nights staring at the walls and agonize, “where did life go? Where was it m

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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