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Here Are 3 Similarities Between Dating And Leasing A Car

Here Are 3 Similarities Between Dating And Leasing A Car

Have you ever heard the phrase “Treat her like you treat your car”? Well, there is a lot of wisdom behind these words. A man usually treats his car like he treats his wife or girlfriend, and I am not the only one who says this. Starting from this old saying, I found a number of similarities between dating and leasing a car. In fact, one can say these things also apply to buying a car.

1. Everything starts with a test drive

Before you agree to lease or buy a car, you are going to do a test drive. The first couple of weeks after meeting a new person are pretty similar to a test drive. You get to know each other and see if you are really the same person as “advertised” online or in the messages you’ve exchanged. During this phase of dating, you decide whether you can become a real couple or whether it’s time to move on and find someone else. If you do like what you see during the test drive, you are going to move into an “exclusive” relationship, just like you would do with a car. But right now, things are not yet final.

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2. The actual relationship

After the test drive, it’s time to sign the lease. Depending on your age, the lease on a car might get shorter. For example, if you’re 40, the lease is about one year long, but if you’re 20, the lease is around two years. If you decide to buy a used, vintage car, its age will dictate the length of your relationship. Looking at relationships, your age also affects your behavior. There are many young couples who stay together for 8 or more years before deciding to take the next step. If you are in your 40s, things change: you are likely to want to tie the knot or move on, because by this time you already know what you want from your life and you know each moment is precious.

3. The big decision

There comes a moment in a relationship when you have to make a decision: you either continue with the same person or you break up. This is the same as the moment when the lease is over: are you going to buy or not?

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In a relationship, you eventually have to do something. You won’t be able to carry on with the relationship as a girlfriend or boyfriend forever. You either marry or split. Or, you have a baby or move in together.

These three phases in a relationship with a car have a clear start and finish point. Similarly, human relationships have their own start and finish points. If you are going to stay in the first phase longer than a couple of months, you’re not ready to commit, so you should be moving on. If not for your own sake, do it for the sake of your partner. Give yourself and your partner the chance to find happiness somewhere else.

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If you test a car and find that you don’t fit, you move on and test another car. So, why would you chose to stay and try to make it work with a human? Life happens here and now, so there is no point in waiting in an idle state where you always say “maybe.”

If the other person is not ready to commit, regardless of the reason why, you have to move on. If you don’t do it, you risk making your life miserable, because frustration and resentments will creep into your heart.

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And there is yet another reason dating is the same as renting a car: if you break the lease, aka the relationship, and then you get back together with the same car, aka person, you will be buying it, aka marrying them.

What’s the take away lesson?

People almost never compromise when they are faced with leasing a car or buying a car. No one would settle for a less-than-great car when they know they can find one they want. Why would you settle for living with a person whom you know is not THE ONE?

If in doubt, treat him or her like you would treat your car. That’s probably the most realistic dating advice you will ever read!

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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