Have you ever heard the phrase “Treat her like you treat your car”? Well, there is a lot of wisdom behind these words. A man usually treats his car like he treats his wife or girlfriend, and I am not the only one who says this. Starting from this old saying, I found a number of similarities between dating and leasing a car. In fact, one can say these things also apply to buying a car.
1. Everything starts with a test drive
Before you agree to lease or buy a car, you are going to do a test drive. The first couple of weeks after meeting a new person are pretty similar to a test drive. You get to know each other and see if you are really the same person as “advertised” online or in the messages you’ve exchanged. During this phase of dating, you decide whether you can become a real couple or whether it’s time to move on and find someone else. If you do like what you see during the test drive, you are going to move into an “exclusive” relationship, just like you would do with a car. But right now, things are not yet final.
2. The actual relationship
After the test drive, it’s time to sign the lease. Depending on your age, the lease on a car might get shorter. For example, if you’re 40, the lease is about one year long, but if you’re 20, the lease is around two years. If you decide to buy a used, vintage car, its age will dictate the length of your relationship. Looking at relationships, your age also affects your behavior. There are many young couples who stay together for 8 or more years before deciding to take the next step. If you are in your 40s, things change: you are likely to want to tie the knot or move on, because by this time you already know what you want from your life and you know each moment is precious.
3. The big decision
There comes a moment in a relationship when you have to make a decision: you either continue with the same person or you break up. This is the same as the moment when the lease is over: are you going to buy or not?
In a relationship, you eventually have to do something. You won’t be able to carry on with the relationship as a girlfriend or boyfriend forever. You either marry or split. Or, you have a baby or move in together.
These three phases in a relationship with a car have a clear start and finish point. Similarly, human relationships have their own start and finish points. If you are going to stay in the first phase longer than a couple of months, you’re not ready to commit, so you should be moving on. If not for your own sake, do it for the sake of your partner. Give yourself and your partner the chance to find happiness somewhere else.
If you test a car and find that you don’t fit, you move on and test another car. So, why would you chose to stay and try to make it work with a human? Life happens here and now, so there is no point in waiting in an idle state where you always say “maybe.”
If the other person is not ready to commit, regardless of the reason why, you have to move on. If you don’t do it, you risk making your life miserable, because frustration and resentments will creep into your heart.
And there is yet another reason dating is the same as renting a car: if you break the lease, aka the relationship, and then you get back together with the same car, aka person, you will be buying it, aka marrying them.
What’s the take away lesson?
People almost never compromise when they are faced with leasing a car or buying a car. No one would settle for a less-than-great car when they know they can find one they want. Why would you settle for living with a person whom you know is not THE ONE?
If in doubt, treat him or her like you would treat your car. That’s probably the most realistic dating advice you will ever read!
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