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4 Shortcuts to Self Improvement for Tech Junkies and Nerds

4 Shortcuts to Self Improvement for Tech Junkies and Nerds

Being a tech junkie is awesome; you are really up to date with the latest developments in the field of technology, you are also very well informed since you do a lot of research in general, and you have a habit of collecting useful gadgets. Yet, over the course of time, tech junkies acquired a negative stereotypical streak. Since they are, in a sense, nerdy, people tend to think of them as someone who does not like to work out and be active.

In reality, all of us who spend a lot of time behind our computers or who admire online communication, tend to forsake some healthier aspects of life. This is not something that only a techy would do, however, it is still not an excuse to continue with such a lifestyle.

So, in the following article, I will provide some tips for self-improvement that tech savvy folks can easily implement. After all, technology is designed to help us; we are the ones who use it in a harmful way. So, all you need to do is acquire the right tech and start using it in order to restore balance and improve your life.

1. Change your habits and mindset

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    The subheading might seem like it suggests an essential change, but you do not have to abandon your hobby. You need to start to worry more about your health and adopt some healthier habits, and you should still use gadgets, but simply focus on those that help you fulfill these newfound goals.

    It would be a wise decision to start working out, and to socialize more at the same time. So, instead of chatting with online friends, initiate a new action. Invite them to play sports or to go to the gym. Workouts are really bothersome, and if you are alone, it will get boring really quickly. The only upside of working alone is that you are more efficient, since your sole focus is training.

    With friends, you get to joke around, help each other, and you won’t get that strange feeling like people are judging you in the gym. It is not too uncommon to avoid the gym because of anxiety but when you are with people, you know that it is different, and you won’t feel so isolated.

    So, tell yourself that physical activity is now a must, and that you also need to adopt a healthier diet and create a healthier environment.

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    2. Healthier eating

    One of the gadgets you should be interested in is the so called HAPIfork, which is a tool for eating that also monitors the intake of food. It is a fork, like its name suggests, and it keeps track of how much food you eat, how fast you eat it, by counting the amount of fork servings and intervals between fork servings. By eating according to the fork’s guidelines, you can prevent weight gain, avoid digestive problems, the gastric reflux and postoperative complications.

    Fitbit Aria is another great piece of tech you can use to monitor your health and see if your healthy habits are yielding any results. It is important to monitor progress, because it will encourage you to continue with your regime. With this scale, you can monitor your body mass index and body fat percentage, and use the input from this device for other weight loss apps on your smartphone.

    3. Improve environment

      You can use your gadgets to create a much healthier environment in your home. You can find many gadgets to create a smart house on discount. You can get items like smart energy monitors and smart thermostats, and also a moisture sensor. You can use these gadgets for maintaining a comfortable temperature, to ensure the air condition won’t result in mold forming on the walls, and to avoid unnecessary electricity expenses.

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      In order to stay healthy, and to feel good and motivated, you need to maintain healthy living conditions. These are all the things that have an impact on your behavior and how you think. If you strive to maintain a better environment, you will be more active and you will feel a lot better. Using the previously suggested gadgets, you can successfully achieve this goal.

      4. Gadgets for fitness

      Finally, you should get some gadgets that motivate you to be active. You can gamify the whole fitness program if you use Xbox Kinect; you can run, dance, do various forms of exercise, etc. Kinect is an awesome device to have fun when you invite your friends over, and to have a workout session with an entire gamified experience, so that you are motivated to work out more.

      You can also get yourself a pedometer. You need to set a daily goal for yourself on how much you need to walk and be active, and gradually increase that limit. With the pedometer, you also get a semi-competitive experience, because you need to beat your previous self. Besides, walking can be very therapeutic and pleasant; all you need is a quality playlist to go along with it and it won’t even seem troublesome.

      Lastly, when you start to get more serious about your workout, you can get a spree headband and use it to obtain detailed feedback about your body’s core. You will know your temperature, speed, heart rate, and even your GPS location; it is a really awesome gadget to say the least.

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      Moreover, you should probably use your smartphone to download some apps for fitness tips, food tips, and some reminders so that you do not forget to workout. Also, you can get apps that ensure you get enough healthy sleep, and really tap into the full potential of your training.

      So, I hope you agree with these suggestions, and this list. There are a lot of devices out there that can aid you in your quest towards having a better and happier life, to ensure that you live in a safe and healthy environment, and to remind you not to neglect these aspects of life.

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      Published on April 7, 2021

      6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

      6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

      Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

      While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

      1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

      Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

      If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

      In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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      2. They Make Everything Transactional

      Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

      For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

      Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

      A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

      Some statements to be wary of include:

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      • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
      • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
      • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
      • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

      3. They Criticize Everything

      One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

      However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

      Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

      • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
      • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
      • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
      • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

      4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

      We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

      For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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      This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

      5. They Socially Isolate You

      Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

      Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

      This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

      In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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      6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

      It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

      Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

      Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

      • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
      • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
      • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
      • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

      Final Thoughts

      It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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