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How to Make Up With Your Bestie After a Fight

How to Make Up With Your Bestie After a Fight

Chances are that you have been in a fight with your best friend, but has it ever been to the point where you were not sure if you would ever be friends again? This is possibly one of the worst feelings, and it can seem confusing on how to proceed to repair the friendship. Having healthy friendships is vital to your emotional and physical health, so do the best that you can to make up with your best friend.

Admit When You Are Wrong

You might have to swallow your pride to admit that you were the one in the wrong, but this is a huge step in making up with your best friend. When the conversation is just you trying to defend what you did or what you said, there is no way to reach an agreement about what went wrong and will likely just make everything worse. When you own up and take the blame if it is truly on you, this could be something that makes the friendship much stronger in the long run.

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Get Mushy

Being sentimental might seem like the last thing that needs to happen, but gather up the photos of you two and remind your bestie of how much fun you two had. You will always cherish the great times that have been had, but let them know that you want to keep on making these memories and you simply cannot be your truly happy self if they are not by your side. If there is a song that you consider “yours” send it to them along with one of the best memories that go along with it.

Hand Write an Apology

So many people still believe that written letters mean so much more than something that is typed out like an email or a text message. Writing your feelings out and handing them over can really get them in the feels, especially if you two are not on talking terms at the moment. It can be something as simple as a post-it with an apology or a long letter gushing about how much they mean to you. Put it somewhere that they will see it, without necessarily hanging it directly to them—that could just upset them more.

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Offer Up a Gift

This is one of the best ways to have someone open back up to you. You will want the gift to be something that is meaningful, so think about something that they’ve been wanting for a while, or play it simple and get them their favorite candy. For something extra special, choose a personalized gift that shows you believe that they are worth your time and effort. iCustom Label has a plethora of items to choose from, so there is surely one that your bestie will love. Have a set of personalized stickers made of their celebrity crush or their pet from My Sticker Face. Make the offer extra sweet by giving them customized M&Ms—add whatever image and text you would like.

Infiltrate Through Their Tummy

It’s quite hard to say no to food when it is offered, so take the time to make their favorite treat. Aim to make them something that they love but might not indulge in all the time because it is difficult to make or is regarded as an indulgence for them. Try to do something that can’t just be picked up from the bakery aisle at the store, as this shows you are putting time and effort into gaining their friendship back.

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Know That You Are Truly Ready

If the fight between you and your bestie was especially awful, it is vital that you know within your heart that you are ready to make up with them. The fight might’ve started with you in the wrong or them in the wrong, but either way you must be ready to put it past you so that it does not seep back up through the cracks and start to deteriorate the friendship again. When you are absolutely ready, all of the actions that you take and words that you speak will not only seem genuine, but they will actually be genuine.

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Last Updated on March 13, 2019

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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