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You Can Make Everyone Like You Instantly (By Mastering These 4 Types Of Jokes)

You Can Make Everyone Like You Instantly (By Mastering These 4 Types Of Jokes)

We all know that one person who is instantly likeable wherever they go. Everyone seems to be drawn to them and you sit back wondering how they really do it.

While it could be charisma, charm, or just a warm inviting smile that gets people to open up and feel comfortable with them, the ability to engage people in an endearing and fun way is usually the key to getting people to like you almost straight away.

Mastering these 4 types of jokes in your interactions can instantly make you more likeable. See if you can identify with them or enhance them more with those around you.

1. The Joke’s On You

Making yourself the butt of a joke is probably one of the most obvious ways to make people like you. The importance of learning to laugh at yourself shows others that you don’t take yourself too seriously and instantly makes them feel they’re on a level pegging to you. It’s even been known to be a sign that someone has an optimistic personality [1]

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With this in mind, don’t be afraid to downplay yourself for the sake of a lighthearted moment.

“I’m in shape. Round is a shape, right?”

“They all laughed when I said I’d become a comedian. Well, they’re not laughing now.”

Self-deprecating humour is the basis of many comedians’ jokes and allows you to be more relatable since we all have our insecurities and making light of them shows we are confident and able to admit to having them.

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2. Make Sure You Aren’t Alienating Anyone

Making jokes, especially in a group, requires you to be more attentive to everyone in the room. It’s easy to make a general joke that most would find hilarious but make sure it’s not ostracising anyone or making someone else the butt of the joke. While it could be done in innocent jest and get mostly laughs from people, if that one person gets offended or upset it can be perceived as hurtful.

In this case, make sure you keep your banter and joking to general subjects unless you know for sure that you aren’t going to offend anyone. In other words, don’t create a loser – making jokes at someone’s expense is a big no-no if you want people to like you.

3. Play On Their Securities Rather Than Their Insecurities

Poking fun at people or teasing can be a good way to come across as endearing but only if it’s done in the right way. We all have insecurities and these are likely to be around things that are permanent, uncommon or core to our identity.

This is why it’s important to be aware of how other people may feel. Making a joke about someone sneezing and throwing their germs towards you is fine because it’s a temporary, common illness that they can’t help. But making a joke about the way someone looks, for example jokingly commenting that a person’s new haircut makes them look like a boy, may be intended as lighthearted but could bring up an insecurity and make you much less likeable.

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4. Be An Ego Booster

Another way to poke fun at people is to do it with good context and by that I mean build them up, make them feel good and give their ego a little boost. Then you can throw in a tease at the end.

This strategy allows the person to see that you view them as a great person while adding some humour in with the mix. For example:

“Did you know James managed to set up his own successful business, is up for the Business Man Of The Year award, mentors young entrepreneurs, manages to run a football team and raises four kids with his beautiful wife. What a loser!”

This will instantly allow people to see you as a person that recognises and appreciates the good and accomplishments of others while keeping a playful tone.

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Conclusion

Remember that humour is one of the quickest and most affective ways to get people to like you. Be silly, be playful and goofy along with the four pointers above. We are often drawn in by people who are able to do this on a daily basis but how often do we do this ourselves? Work on ways you can add a bit humour and brightness to someone’s day!

Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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