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You Can Make Everyone Like You Instantly (By Mastering These 4 Types Of Jokes)

You Can Make Everyone Like You Instantly (By Mastering These 4 Types Of Jokes)

We all know that one person who is instantly likeable wherever they go. Everyone seems to be drawn to them and you sit back wondering how they really do it.

While it could be charisma, charm, or just a warm inviting smile that gets people to open up and feel comfortable with them, the ability to engage people in an endearing and fun way is usually the key to getting people to like you almost straight away.

Mastering these 4 types of jokes in your interactions can instantly make you more likeable. See if you can identify with them or enhance them more with those around you.

1. The Joke’s On You

Making yourself the butt of a joke is probably one of the most obvious ways to make people like you. The importance of learning to laugh at yourself shows others that you don’t take yourself too seriously and instantly makes them feel they’re on a level pegging to you. It’s even been known to be a sign that someone has an optimistic personality [1]

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With this in mind, don’t be afraid to downplay yourself for the sake of a lighthearted moment.

“I’m in shape. Round is a shape, right?”

“They all laughed when I said I’d become a comedian. Well, they’re not laughing now.”

Self-deprecating humour is the basis of many comedians’ jokes and allows you to be more relatable since we all have our insecurities and making light of them shows we are confident and able to admit to having them.

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2. Make Sure You Aren’t Alienating Anyone

Making jokes, especially in a group, requires you to be more attentive to everyone in the room. It’s easy to make a general joke that most would find hilarious but make sure it’s not ostracising anyone or making someone else the butt of the joke. While it could be done in innocent jest and get mostly laughs from people, if that one person gets offended or upset it can be perceived as hurtful.

In this case, make sure you keep your banter and joking to general subjects unless you know for sure that you aren’t going to offend anyone. In other words, don’t create a loser – making jokes at someone’s expense is a big no-no if you want people to like you.

3. Play On Their Securities Rather Than Their Insecurities

Poking fun at people or teasing can be a good way to come across as endearing but only if it’s done in the right way. We all have insecurities and these are likely to be around things that are permanent, uncommon or core to our identity.

This is why it’s important to be aware of how other people may feel. Making a joke about someone sneezing and throwing their germs towards you is fine because it’s a temporary, common illness that they can’t help. But making a joke about the way someone looks, for example jokingly commenting that a person’s new haircut makes them look like a boy, may be intended as lighthearted but could bring up an insecurity and make you much less likeable.

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4. Be An Ego Booster

Another way to poke fun at people is to do it with good context and by that I mean build them up, make them feel good and give their ego a little boost. Then you can throw in a tease at the end.

This strategy allows the person to see that you view them as a great person while adding some humour in with the mix. For example:

“Did you know James managed to set up his own successful business, is up for the Business Man Of The Year award, mentors young entrepreneurs, manages to run a football team and raises four kids with his beautiful wife. What a loser!”

This will instantly allow people to see you as a person that recognises and appreciates the good and accomplishments of others while keeping a playful tone.

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Conclusion

Remember that humour is one of the quickest and most affective ways to get people to like you. Be silly, be playful and goofy along with the four pointers above. We are often drawn in by people who are able to do this on a daily basis but how often do we do this ourselves? Work on ways you can add a bit humour and brightness to someone’s day!

Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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