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How To Design Your Bedroom the Feng Shui Way

How To Design Your Bedroom the Feng Shui Way

Your bedroom is the room where you spend most of your precious private time, the room where you start and end your day, the room where you rest and recharge. It’s no wonder your bedroom, according to feng shui, is also the room which has the most powerful influence in various aspects of your life.

Feng shui experts believe that having a positive energy flowing within your bedroom will not only improve your sleep, but also create a balanced, harmonious, and prosperous environment. By paying attention to the placement of decoration, bedroom furniture and color choices, you can influence how your bedroom attracts these energies.

BUT what exactly is Feng Shui?

Feng Shui, (Chinese for wind-water) is an age-old art and science practiced by the Chinese over some 3,000 years ago. Feng shui experts and those who believe in its philosophy claim that chi, or the energy of life itself, is manifested in everything in creation. The goal of feng shui is to organize life and space to propagate a positive chi. It encourages you to harmonize your energy with your home so it connects with who you are and where you want to go.

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How to Organize the Bedroom in Feng Shui Style

For first timers, incorporating feng shui in the bedroom requires an open mind. Everyone must understand that it’s not a get-rich-quick scheme that will make you a millionaire. Nor it is a superstition or a magical makeover that will instantly transform your life.

Feng shui is all about harmony and balance. Organizing your bedroom in Feng Shui helps harmonize your energy with your environment and improves activities you do in your bedroom including sleep, relaxation, and sex.

Ready to get started? The following are tips to help decorate and arrange your bedroom in feng shui style.

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1. Declutter Your Bedroom

Feng shui is all about organizing the flow of positive Chi in your bedroom. And nothing screams disorganization than having a gazillion of clutter and junk piling on your bedroom floor. Most people have no idea what clutter does. Subconsciously, clutters wears you out. It depletes your energy, focus, and affects how you treat yourself and the people around you.

Decluttering Tips:

  • Take 20-30 minutes every day to sort stuff in your bedroom. Put away other items that belong in other rooms. Throw trash out and put items which should be sold/donated in a box.
  • Make use of creative bedroom storage, wall spaces, and corner shelves for items you need in your bedroom. If you have a nightstand, you can create a compartment inside to make it look nice and tidy.
  • Create a serene bedroom space by choosing subtle lighting, warm colors, and comfortable textures.
  • Remove trash under the bed including boxes, extra bedding, or anything you might have tucked away there into oblivion.
  • Buy a hamper for your dirty clothes to keep them from piling on your floor.

2. Proper Bed Placement

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    Bed position is vital for a healthy and positive chi in the bedroom. Knowing that chi energy enters and leaves the room through windows and doors, it’s ideal that your bed is not blocking this pathway.

    Bed Placement Tips:

    • Place your bed diagonally from across the door. This will help you see anyone who enters the bedroom and prevent the chi energy from disturbing you while you sleep.
    • Don’t place your bed directly opposite your door. This position is called the coffin or dead man position in Chinese and is considered bad luck.
    • Don’t sleep under the bedroom window. Don’t sleep under beams or anything hanging down from your bedroom ceiling.
    • Don’t put your mattress directly on the floor because that is the main chi pathway.

    3. Choose Appropriate Bedroom Furniture

    First off, you do not want to crowd your bedroom with an excess of furniture. Just choose ones that have purpose and beautify your space appropriately. Anything that doesn’t belong in your bedroom is clutter, and as we’ve established early on – clutter is bad.

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    Bedroom Furniture Tips:

    • Avoid placing bedroom furniture with sharp angles pointing towards the bed. Sharp edges that create cutting chi cause the body to recoil and prevent a relaxed sleep.
    • Never hang a mirror where your bed is reflected. This is a big no in feng shui. In feng shui, mirror represents qi energy or the water element which can double the energy of the person sleeping. This disrupts tranquility and creates restlessness during sleep. If you want to hang a mirror, make sure that it brings the beautiful nature outdoors to help bring healthy chi.
    • Choose a sturdy headboard. Ideally, it should be made from wood and should have a solid frame that will support your back.
    • Invest in a good mattress. When picking a mattress choose the appropriate size for your body. Avoid spring mattress at all costs. If you have no choice but to pick a spring mattress, choose the best innerspring mattress that would lessen the electromagnetic field conducted by metal which disrupts your positive energy flow.

    Conclusion

    The tips above will help you create a pleasant bedroom that can attract positive energy for a relaxing, sensual, and harmonious sleep. Those who want to incorporate feng shui in their bedroom should aim for the goal of balance and take the guidelines with an open mind and heart.

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    Last Updated on July 10, 2020

    How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

    How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

    We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

    We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

    So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

    Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

    What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

    Boundaries are limits

    —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

    Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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    Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

    Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

    Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

    How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

    Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

    1. Self-Awareness Comes First

    Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

    You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

    To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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    You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

    • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
    • When do you feel disrespected?
    • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
    • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
    • When do you want to be alone?
    • How much space do you need?

    You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

    2. Clear Communication Is Essential

    Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

    Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

    3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

    Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

    That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

    Sample language:

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    • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
    • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
    • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
    • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
    • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
    • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
    • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

    Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

    4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

    Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

    Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

    Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

    We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

    It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

    It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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    Final Thoughts

    Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

    Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

    Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

    The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

    Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

    Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

    They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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