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President Obama failed us…that’s what you came up with?

President Obama failed us…that’s what you came up with?

I speak to the whole African American community, with a focus on the entitled, obnoxious ones of us who seem to think that President Barack Obama got elected only to serve us. How disrespectful of anyone to sit back and claim that this man did not do anything for this country or our communities, after 8 years of busting his tail to improve this country all the ways he possibly could.

I would act surprised and horrified at the negative feedback from our own, but it honestly doesn’t surprise me one bit considering so many of us do nothing but tear each other down as if they get paid to do so.

    A black president doesn’t guarantee a black rights policy

    Let’s get one thing clear. Obama may have been elected because so many of us showed up and showed out at the polls both election years, but that didn’t automatically make him obligated or even able to completely advance the African American population into Easy Street. The color of Obama’s skin didn’t automatically guarantee seats at the table for everyone that looks just like him or his wife and kids, nor would that even be fair.

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    Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with wanting advancement and equality for your race. There’s nothing wrong with being pro-black and wanting to empower your community. But when was it ever okay to slight others because of their race and show favor to one particular race,as a president of the United States? And how can any of you be upset and disappointed in Obama for not doing the very thing most of you already hate Trump for actually doing? Hypocritical much?

      Stop pushing away responsibilty

      It’s time to stop spending so much effort and energy looking for people to blame,and start focusing on accountability and truth. The truth? President Obama didn’t fail the black community, nor did he ignore our cries for justice. President Obama spoke out many times on things the black community is outraged about, and did his best to promote justice and equality for all.

      Electing him did not put him under an obligation to make every single complaint black folks had his agenda. That’s what so many of these organizations we have out here are for. Join some. Already have? Join more. One can never do too much to make the world a better place starting with an individual and/or community level involvement.

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      At what point will we stop complaining about what the higher ups and celebrities AREN’T doing for us, and instead throw ourselves into the community and be the change we want to see in the world? Why spend so much time complaining over what we can’t control, instead of doing what is in our power to change what we can?

      Where the LBGTQ community succeeded

      And for those throwing out the statement that Obama did more to help the LBGTQ communities than African Americans, let’s be real. The LBGTQ communities did more to help the LBGTQ communities than African Americans did to help our communities. It wasn’t that Obama favored their community over ours. It was simply that their community united effectively, was consistent, and followed through. They showed up and showed out where it counted, their voices were heard as well as their demands for their community.

        While we were criticizing each other over what form of protest was acceptable, looking for reasons to voice outrage instead of creating demands to present where it counted, the LBGTQ community was united and solution-oriented. While we were bullying each other over religious beliefs, skin tones, and what women decide to do with their hair or weave, the LBGTQ community was focused on the changes they wanted for their community.

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        While we were busy finding stuff to be temporarily outraged about from week to week to make sure our social media accounts were popping and full of likes, the LBGTQ community was consistent, full of leadership, and wasn’t taking no for an answer.

        The bottom line? Obama didn’t work harder for the LBGTQ community..THEY worked harder and more unified for themselves. So with that being said, Obama didn’t fail us (if you are one of those who feel there was failure)…we failed ourselves.

        Don’t rely solely on a savior

        Especially if you felt one person (with his hands tied on all progress he tried to make) could have us all sitting pretty,paid, and struggle free just because he’s one of us.

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          The Bible teaches us that faith without works is dead. So basically,even the Savior himself felt that you should stop sitting back relying solely on a savior, and do YOUR part to save yourself and others.

          In the words of rapper Mystikal, “Stop ya cryin’ heffa”. Be the change.

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          Last Updated on January 18, 2019

          7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

          7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

          Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

          But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

          If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

          1. Limit the time you spend with them.

          First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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          In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

          Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

          2. Speak up for yourself.

          Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

          3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

          This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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          But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

          4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

          Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

          This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

          Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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          5. Change the subject.

          When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

          Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

          6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

          Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

          I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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          You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

          Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

          7. Leave them behind.

          Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

          If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

          That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

          You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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