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President Obama failed us…that’s what you came up with?

President Obama failed us…that’s what you came up with?

I speak to the whole African American community, with a focus on the entitled, obnoxious ones of us who seem to think that President Barack Obama got elected only to serve us. How disrespectful of anyone to sit back and claim that this man did not do anything for this country or our communities, after 8 years of busting his tail to improve this country all the ways he possibly could.

I would act surprised and horrified at the negative feedback from our own, but it honestly doesn’t surprise me one bit considering so many of us do nothing but tear each other down as if they get paid to do so.

    A black president doesn’t guarantee a black rights policy

    Let’s get one thing clear. Obama may have been elected because so many of us showed up and showed out at the polls both election years, but that didn’t automatically make him obligated or even able to completely advance the African American population into Easy Street. The color of Obama’s skin didn’t automatically guarantee seats at the table for everyone that looks just like him or his wife and kids, nor would that even be fair.

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    Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with wanting advancement and equality for your race. There’s nothing wrong with being pro-black and wanting to empower your community. But when was it ever okay to slight others because of their race and show favor to one particular race,as a president of the United States? And how can any of you be upset and disappointed in Obama for not doing the very thing most of you already hate Trump for actually doing? Hypocritical much?

      Stop pushing away responsibilty

      It’s time to stop spending so much effort and energy looking for people to blame,and start focusing on accountability and truth. The truth? President Obama didn’t fail the black community, nor did he ignore our cries for justice. President Obama spoke out many times on things the black community is outraged about, and did his best to promote justice and equality for all.

      Electing him did not put him under an obligation to make every single complaint black folks had his agenda. That’s what so many of these organizations we have out here are for. Join some. Already have? Join more. One can never do too much to make the world a better place starting with an individual and/or community level involvement.

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      At what point will we stop complaining about what the higher ups and celebrities AREN’T doing for us, and instead throw ourselves into the community and be the change we want to see in the world? Why spend so much time complaining over what we can’t control, instead of doing what is in our power to change what we can?

      Where the LBGTQ community succeeded

      And for those throwing out the statement that Obama did more to help the LBGTQ communities than African Americans, let’s be real. The LBGTQ communities did more to help the LBGTQ communities than African Americans did to help our communities. It wasn’t that Obama favored their community over ours. It was simply that their community united effectively, was consistent, and followed through. They showed up and showed out where it counted, their voices were heard as well as their demands for their community.

        While we were criticizing each other over what form of protest was acceptable, looking for reasons to voice outrage instead of creating demands to present where it counted, the LBGTQ community was united and solution-oriented. While we were bullying each other over religious beliefs, skin tones, and what women decide to do with their hair or weave, the LBGTQ community was focused on the changes they wanted for their community.

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        While we were busy finding stuff to be temporarily outraged about from week to week to make sure our social media accounts were popping and full of likes, the LBGTQ community was consistent, full of leadership, and wasn’t taking no for an answer.

        The bottom line? Obama didn’t work harder for the LBGTQ community..THEY worked harder and more unified for themselves. So with that being said, Obama didn’t fail us (if you are one of those who feel there was failure)…we failed ourselves.

        Don’t rely solely on a savior

        Especially if you felt one person (with his hands tied on all progress he tried to make) could have us all sitting pretty,paid, and struggle free just because he’s one of us.

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          The Bible teaches us that faith without works is dead. So basically,even the Savior himself felt that you should stop sitting back relying solely on a savior, and do YOUR part to save yourself and others.

          In the words of rapper Mystikal, “Stop ya cryin’ heffa”. Be the change.

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          Last Updated on February 11, 2021

          Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

          Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

          How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

          Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

          The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

          Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

          Perceptual Barrier

          The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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          The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

          The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

          Attitudinal Barrier

          Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

          The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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          The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

          Language Barrier

          This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

          The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

          The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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          Emotional Barrier

          Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

          The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

          The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

          Cultural Barrier

          Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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          The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

          The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

          Gender Barrier

          Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

          The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

          The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

          And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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