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Researchers Find That As We Age, Most Of Us Become Happier Because Of This Key Thing

Researchers Find That As We Age, Most Of Us Become Happier Because Of This Key Thing

In an age where beauty and youth are highlighted, what is it that actually brings us happiness? It may shock you to learn that the key to being happier may be found in our age. Wait. Did you just read that correctly? Can your level of happiness actually increase the older you become?

What Scientists Find

Scientists are beginning to prove that the things we chase in youth like money and acceptance, don’t bring us the happiness that comes with experience and the act of living. If one’s skin is sagging and wrinkles are forming everywhere, you may ask: where is the joy in all that flabby skin?

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The answer is positivity. I’ve seen this in my own life. While the issues and stressors are different in middle age, I can also compare them to other events I’ve experienced. The result? Almost always, what I am dealing with is nothing compared to my past.

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This not only allows me to be more positive about current situations, but it is beneficial when considering future life issues. Positivity is more than simply slapping a smile on one’s face. It is the conscious ability to look at what is going on in your life and weighing against what might have been instead.

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Instead of looking in the mirror and bemoaning what you see, choose to accept all the life you have lived. See those experiences as stepping stones instead of hinderances. Not only will the positivity increase your happiness, it will allow others in your life to embrace their happiness as well.

Want to read more about increase age and happiness? This article explains more in depth about our relationship between increased positivity and age. I hope that with each passing day, you choose to see the time you are given as a growth experience, instead of anything that is negative in your life.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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