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If You Want To Be Successful In Life, You Shouldn’t Say These 7 Phrases Easily

If You Want To Be Successful In Life, You Shouldn’t Say These 7 Phrases Easily

Success isn’t only important in your career, it’s important in all aspects of your life, such as your relationships, happiness, and experiences. Achieving success in these areas greatly depends on what you say on a daily basis.

Take two individuals who haven’t made it in life. Person A chooses to use optimistic words, along the lines of “Yes! I can do this!” or “Pain is temporary, pride is forever!” Meanwhile, person B chooses to use pessimistic words, along the lines of “Will this work out for me?” or “No, this is impossible.”

Who do you think will have a higher chance to succeed in life?

Put yourself on the road to success today by simply changing your daily thoughts and speech. You can do this by avoiding these 7 phrases and by starting to say the things that successful people say.

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1. “That’s Not Fair”

Let’s be real, not everything in life is fair. Humans hardly ever think of a win-win situation from the get-go. Instead, they’ll first think, “what’s in it for me?”

By simply understanding this, you’ll learn how to accept injustice as part of your life. Instead of saying that life is not fair, try asking yourself how you can make the situation better.

2. “It’s Not Possible”

When successful people run up against an apparent brick wall, they don’t see it as an impossibility, they see it as a challenge waiting to be overcome. Instead of succumbing to the idea that it’s impossible, successful people ask themselves “how do I solve this?”

3. “I Could Have Done It Better”

Instead of constantly whining about things that could have been done better, successful people move on fast from failures. However, they remember the improvements that they had hoped to make and seek to apply them in the future.

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Tell yourself that you’ll do your best next time instead of wallowing in past failures. Then move on with a clearer mind.

4. “That’s Not Part Of My Job”

This is a big no-no for successful people. Successful people understand that success should be shared among all who contribute and that no one should ever suppress someone else from attaining success.

Teamwork is essential for successful people, so instead of saying that something is not part of your job, ask yourself how you can best contribute to your team.

5. “I Don’t Know” 

By saying “I don’t know,” you’ve given up the opportunity to learn. Successful people will rarely just say “I don’t know” because they realize that once they do, they’ve succumbed to the habits of a lazy mind.

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You can observe this in the award-winning movie, Pursuit of Happyness, starring Will Smith. His character was engaged in an interview and said a very memorable sentence befitting a successful person. The line was:

I’m the type of person that if you ask me a question and I don’t know the answer, I’m gonna tell you that I don’t know. But I bet you what, I know how to find the answer and I will find the answer.

6. “I Have No Choice” 

By telling yourself that you do not have a choice, you’re surrendering to the fact that the situation is bigger than you are. By saying that you do not have a choice, you are referring to yourself as that weak victim of circumstances who doesn’t care enough to take over the situation.

Successful people look at all the possible choices, and they take advantage of them. Start telling yourself today that you always have a choice.

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7. “He/She Is So Stupid” 

Successful people do not pass judgment about people, because doing so reflects on their own character and risks ruining their own career. If an issue has to be raised about someone, it should be done in a tactful way instead of by name-calling.

You should know that to be successful, you need to change your thinking from negative to positive.

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Last Updated on May 7, 2019

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

How to Detect a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

Work in any competitive field long enough, and you’re bound to run into a wolf in sheep’s clothing. It’s a powerful image. A shepherd watches over his flock to protect them from harm. He’d chase away any predator that tried to make its way into the flock. A clever wolf wearing the skin of a sheep as a disguise can sneak by the vigilant shepherd and get into the herd undetected.

The story isn’t just a colorful description–it’s a warning to all of us to beware the wolf in sheep’s clothing. They may seem innocent, but they have ulterior motives. They’ll use different tactics to camouflage their intentions.

The person who is kind to you, but undercuts you when you aren’t around is a wolf in disguise. A wolf in sheep’s clothing might pick your brain for ideas and then pass them off as their own to get a promotion. They’re always looking out for themselves at the expense of everyone around them.

Wearing a Disguise Has Its Advantages

People don’t go out of their way to manipulate others unless they’re getting something out of it. Hiding their intentions gives wolves the chance to manipulate other people to advance their own agenda. They know that what they’re trying to do wouldn’t be popular, or it might cause struggle if they presented themselves honestly.

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    They’ll be able to do what they want with less interference if they put on an act. By the time people figure out their true motives, the wolf has what it wants.

    Signs That Someone Is a Wolf in Disguise

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        1. They live to take power instead of empowering others. A wolf uses people as stepping stones to get the things that they want. They don’t care what happens to anyone else.[1] A wolf at work might make you look bad during a presentation to make themselves look amazing in front of the boss.
        2. Wolves seem sweet on the outside, but they’ll show you their teeth. If wolves revealed their true identity, people wouldn’t associate with them. They develop a friendly or kind persona, but they can’t keep up the act 24/7. Eventually, they’ll reveal their aggressive tendencies. A wealthy person who likes to break the law may make sizable charitable donations to convince people that they are kind and thoughtful. These donations largely keep them out of trouble, but if someone calls them out, they destroy that person’s reputation to stifle the criticism.
        3. They manipulate through emotions to get what they want. Wolves know that they can get ahead by appealing to your emotions. They find out what you want and need, and they give you just enough to keep you quiet and compliant. Imagine that your boss is a wolf in sheep’s clothing, and you want to ask for a vacation. She might try to play on your guilt and feelings of insecurity to get you to skip vacation or take fewer days off.
        4. A wolf will charm you first. Wolves are experts at manipulating the people around them. They appear interested in whatever you’re doing, and you’ll get the impression that they care. After they get you where they want you, they do just enough to keep you on the hook. This is the coworker who may start out being your friend, but they end up dumping responsibility onto you. When they see that you are growing frustrated, they’ll surprise you with something to charm you some more. Then, they’ll continue to do whatever they want.
        5. Their stories are full of holes.  Calling a wolf out is the surest way to make them squirm. When this person tries to come up with a story, it won’t make much sense because they are improvising.[2] The classic example of this is the significant other that you suspect has cheated on you. When you ask them why they came home so late, they’ll either become upset with you, or they’ll make up a weak explanation.

        How to Spot a Wolf

          Know What’s Real So You Can Spot the Phony

          Do some homework so that you have as much of the story as possible before you work with them. Research how they respond in certain situations, or give them hypothetical problems to see how they respond.

          A job applicant might tell you that she’s always positive and thinks of herself as a team-player. That’s what every employer wants to hear. During the interview you ask applicants to work in groups to solve a problem to see how they handle the situation. The applicant “positive team-player” is bossy and negative. You’ve spotted the wolf.

          A wolf will tell you something that ultimately benefits them. Gather evidence that proves or disproves their position, and see what happens. Chances are, when you choose the side that supports their agenda, they’ll act like your best friend. If you disagree, they’ll become aggressive.

          Spotting a potential wolf–especially if you are one of the sheep–can present you with some challenges. If your gut tells you that a wolf is lurking among all the other sheep, pay attention, and make sure you take the next step.

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          Ask Questions, the More the Better

          There’s nothing wrong with asking questions to uncover the truth. The safety of everyone in your group is at risk. Since wolves often make up stories, you may be able to call them out when their tales lack details.

          When they state an opinion, ask “Why do you think that?” or “How do you know it’s like that?” They’ll have trouble coming up with enough information to pull off the lie.

          Since wolves are always pretending to be something they aren’t, they don’t usually have a clearly thought-out reason for what they say. In a debate, they won’t understand the root of an issue.

          They may also tell you what they think you want to hear, but when pressed for more information, they won’t have anything to add. Their knowledge is superficial. No matter how much you try to encourage discussion, they will not be able to carry on a conversation about the subject.

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          Wolves Are Everywhere

          As much as we want to believe that everyone has the best intentions, it isn’t always the case. Some people only do things to benefit themselves, and they don’t care who they hurt in the process.

          Wolves in sheep’s clothing can be found in almost every setting. You can’t get rid of them, but if you can spot them, you can avoid falling into their traps.

          Reference

          [1] Association of Biblical Counselors: Three Ways to Spot a Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing
          [2] Power of Positivity: Beware of a wolf in sheep’s clothing

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