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If You Want To Be Successful In Life, You Shouldn’t Say These 7 Phrases Easily

If You Want To Be Successful In Life, You Shouldn’t Say These 7 Phrases Easily

Success isn’t only important in your career, it’s important in all aspects of your life, such as your relationships, happiness, and experiences. Achieving success in these areas greatly depends on what you say on a daily basis.

Take two individuals who haven’t made it in life. Person A chooses to use optimistic words, along the lines of “Yes! I can do this!” or “Pain is temporary, pride is forever!” Meanwhile, person B chooses to use pessimistic words, along the lines of “Will this work out for me?” or “No, this is impossible.”

Who do you think will have a higher chance to succeed in life?

Put yourself on the road to success today by simply changing your daily thoughts and speech. You can do this by avoiding these 7 phrases and by starting to say the things that successful people say.

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1. “That’s Not Fair”

Let’s be real, not everything in life is fair. Humans hardly ever think of a win-win situation from the get-go. Instead, they’ll first think, “what’s in it for me?”

By simply understanding this, you’ll learn how to accept injustice as part of your life. Instead of saying that life is not fair, try asking yourself how you can make the situation better.

2. “It’s Not Possible”

When successful people run up against an apparent brick wall, they don’t see it as an impossibility, they see it as a challenge waiting to be overcome. Instead of succumbing to the idea that it’s impossible, successful people ask themselves “how do I solve this?”

3. “I Could Have Done It Better”

Instead of constantly whining about things that could have been done better, successful people move on fast from failures. However, they remember the improvements that they had hoped to make and seek to apply them in the future.

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Tell yourself that you’ll do your best next time instead of wallowing in past failures. Then move on with a clearer mind.

4. “That’s Not Part Of My Job”

This is a big no-no for successful people. Successful people understand that success should be shared among all who contribute and that no one should ever suppress someone else from attaining success.

Teamwork is essential for successful people, so instead of saying that something is not part of your job, ask yourself how you can best contribute to your team.

5. “I Don’t Know” 

By saying “I don’t know,” you’ve given up the opportunity to learn. Successful people will rarely just say “I don’t know” because they realize that once they do, they’ve succumbed to the habits of a lazy mind.

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You can observe this in the award-winning movie, Pursuit of Happyness, starring Will Smith. His character was engaged in an interview and said a very memorable sentence befitting a successful person. The line was:

I’m the type of person that if you ask me a question and I don’t know the answer, I’m gonna tell you that I don’t know. But I bet you what, I know how to find the answer and I will find the answer.

6. “I Have No Choice” 

By telling yourself that you do not have a choice, you’re surrendering to the fact that the situation is bigger than you are. By saying that you do not have a choice, you are referring to yourself as that weak victim of circumstances who doesn’t care enough to take over the situation.

Successful people look at all the possible choices, and they take advantage of them. Start telling yourself today that you always have a choice.

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7. “He/She Is So Stupid” 

Successful people do not pass judgment about people, because doing so reflects on their own character and risks ruining their own career. If an issue has to be raised about someone, it should be done in a tactful way instead of by name-calling.

You should know that to be successful, you need to change your thinking from negative to positive.

Featured photo credit: Business Meeting via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on February 28, 2019

The Desire to Be Liked Will End You up Feeling More Rejected

The Desire to Be Liked Will End You up Feeling More Rejected

Admit it, you feel good when other people think you’re nice. Maybe you were complimented by a stranger saying that you had a nice outfit. You felt good about yourself and you were happy for the rest of the day.

    We all like to feel liked, whether by a stranger or a loved one. It makes you feel valued and that feeling can be addictive. But when the high wears off and you no longer have validation that someone thinks you’re a good, sweet person, you may feel insecure and lacking. While wanting others to like you isn’t in itself a bad thing, it can be like a disease when you feel that you constantly need to be liked by others.

    Humans are wired to want to be liked.

    It’s human nature to seek approval from others. In ancient times, we needed acceptance to survive. Humans are social animals and we need to bond with others and form a community to survive. If we are not liked by others, we will be left out.

    Babies are born to be cute and be liked by adults.

      The large rounded head, big forehead, large eyes, chubby cheeks, and a rounded body. Babies can’t survive without an adult taking care of them. It’s vital for adults to find babies lovely to pay attention to them and divert energy towards them.[1]

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      Recognitions have always been given by others.

        From the time you were a child, whether at school or at home, you have been receiving recognition from external parties. For instance, you received grades from teachers, and if you wanted something, you needed approval from your parents. We’ve learned to get what we want by catering to other people’s expectations. Maybe you wanted to get a higher grade in art so you’d be more attentive in art classes than others to impress your teacher. Your teacher would have a generally good impression on you and would likely to give you a higher grade.

        When you grow up, it’s no different. Perhaps you are desperate to get your work done so you do things that your manager would approve. Or maybe you try to impress your date by doing things they like but you don’t really like.

        Facebook and Instagram have only made things worse. People posting their photos and sharing about their life on Instagram just to feels so good to get more likes and attention.

        Being liked becomes essential to reaching desires.

          We start to get hyper focused on how others see us, and it’s easy to imagine having the spotlight on you at all time. People see you and they take an interest in you. This feels good. In turn, you start doing more things that bring you more attention. It’s all positive until you do something they don’t like and you receive criticism. When this happens, you spiral because you’ve lost the feeling of acceptance.

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          But the reality is this is all just perception. Humans, as a species, are selfish. We are all just looking at ourselves; we only perceive others are giving us their focus. Even for those who please others are actually focusing on making themselves feel good. It’s like an optical illusion for your ego.

            The desire to be liked is an endless chase.

              Aiming to please others in order to feel better will exhaust you because you can never catch up with others’ expectation.

              The ideal image will always change.

              It used to be ideal to have a fair weight, a little bit fat was totally acceptable. Then it’s ideal to be very slim. Recently we’ve seen “dad-bods” getting some positive attention. But this is already quickly changing. In fact, a recent article from Men’s Health asked 100 women if they would date a guy who had a dad-bod, about 50% of women claimed to not care either way, only 15% exclusively date men with a “dad bod”.[2]

              People’s expectations on you can be wrong.

              Most people put their expectations on others based on what’s right in the social norms, yet the social norms are created by humans in which 80% of them are just ordinary people according to the 80/20 rules.[3]

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              Think about it, every day, from the time you wake up to the time you go to sleep, you filter what you believe to be truth. If someone compliments you, you take it and add it to an idea of what the best version of yourself is. When someone criticizes you, even in a destructive way, you might accept it altogether, or add it to a list of things you’re insecure about. When you absorb the wrong opinion from others, you will either sabotage your self-esteem or overestimate yourself by accepting all the good compliments and stop growing; or accepting all the destructive criticisms and sabotage your own self-esteem and happiness.

              Others’ desires are not the same as yours.

                If you live your life as one long effort of trying to please other people, you will never be happy. You’re always going to rely on others to make you feel worth living. This leads to total confusion when it comes to your personal goals; when there’s no external recognition, you don’t know what to live for.

                The only person to please is yourself.

                  Think of others’ approval as fuel and think of yourself as a car. When that fuel runs out, you can’t function. This is not a healthy mindset.

                  In reality, we’re human and we can create our own fuel. You can feel good based on how much you like yourself. When you do things to make you like yourself more, you can start to see a big change in your opinion. For example, if being complimented by others made you feel good and accepted, look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Say what you wish others would say about you.

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                  Internal approval takes practice, but it’s worth the effort. You have to re-train your own mind. Think of the dog who knows there is food when the bell rings, the reflex is hard wired into the dog.[4] We need our own triggers to reinforce the habit of internal approval too. Recognize yourself every day instead of waiting for people to do it for you, check out in this article the steps to take to recognize your own achievements and gain empowerment: Don’t Wait for People to Praise You. Do It Yourself Every Single Day

                  Notice that when you start to focus on yourself and what to do to make yourself happy, others may criticize you. Since you’ve stopped trying to please others to meet their expectations, they may judge you for what you do. Be critical about what they say about you. They aren’t always right but so are you. Everyone has blind spots. Let go of biased and subjective comments but be humble and open to useful advice that will improve you.

                  Remember that you are worth it, every day. It will take time to stop relying on others to make you feel important and worth something, but the sooner you start trying, the happier and healthier you will be.

                  Featured photo credit: Annie Spratt via unsplash.com

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