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Last Updated on November 28, 2017

If You Want To Be Successful In Life, You Shouldn’t Say These 7 Phrases Easily

If You Want To Be Successful In Life, You Shouldn’t Say These 7 Phrases Easily

Success isn’t only important in your career, it’s important in all aspects of your life, such as your relationships, happiness, and experiences. Achieving success in these areas greatly depends on what you say on a daily basis.

Take two individuals who haven’t made it in life. Person A chooses to use optimistic words, along the lines of “Yes! I can do this!” or “Pain is temporary, pride is forever!” Meanwhile, person B chooses to use pessimistic words, along the lines of “Will this work out for me?” or “No, this is impossible.”

Who do you think will have a higher chance to succeed in life?

Put yourself on the road to success today by simply changing your daily thoughts and speech. You can do this by avoiding these 7 phrases and by starting to say the things that successful people say.

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1. “That’s Not Fair”

Let’s be real, not everything in life is fair. Humans hardly ever think of a win-win situation from the get-go. Instead, they’ll first think, “what’s in it for me?”

By simply understanding this, you’ll learn how to accept injustice as part of your life. Instead of saying that life is not fair, try asking yourself how you can make the situation better.

2. “It’s Not Possible”

When successful people run up against an apparent brick wall, they don’t see it as an impossibility, they see it as a challenge waiting to be overcome. Instead of succumbing to the idea that it’s impossible, successful people ask themselves “how do I solve this?”

3. “I Could Have Done It Better”

Instead of constantly whining about things that could have been done better, successful people move on fast from failures. However, they remember the improvements that they had hoped to make and seek to apply them in the future.

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Tell yourself that you’ll do your best next time instead of wallowing in past failures. Then move on with a clearer mind.

4. “That’s Not Part Of My Job”

This is a big no-no for successful people. Successful people understand that success should be shared among all who contribute and that no one should ever suppress someone else from attaining success.

Teamwork is essential for successful people, so instead of saying that something is not part of your job, ask yourself how you can best contribute to your team.

5. “I Don’t Know” 

By saying “I don’t know,” you’ve given up the opportunity to learn. Successful people will rarely just say “I don’t know” because they realize that once they do, they’ve succumbed to the habits of a lazy mind.

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You can observe this in the award-winning movie, Pursuit of Happyness, starring Will Smith. His character was engaged in an interview and said a very memorable sentence befitting a successful person. The line was:

I’m the type of person that if you ask me a question and I don’t know the answer, I’m gonna tell you that I don’t know. But I bet you what, I know how to find the answer and I will find the answer.

6. “I Have No Choice” 

By telling yourself that you do not have a choice, you’re surrendering to the fact that the situation is bigger than you are. By saying that you do not have a choice, you are referring to yourself as that weak victim of circumstances who doesn’t care enough to take over the situation.

Successful people look at all the possible choices, and they take advantage of them. Start telling yourself today that you always have a choice.

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7. “He/She Is So Stupid” 

Successful people do not pass judgment about people, because doing so reflects on their own character and risks ruining their own career. If an issue has to be raised about someone, it should be done in a tactful way instead of by name-calling.

You should know that to be successful, you need to change your thinking from negative to positive.

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8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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