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How To Deal With People With Eating Disorder

How To Deal With People With Eating Disorder

By definition, eating disorders are about unhealthy actions associated with food. Well, it depends. The signs surely focus on food. Interestingly, though, eating disorders are not truly about food in any way. It’s about emotional causes, underlying psychological fluctuations and environmental elements that are displayed outwardly as an eating disorder. People handle the stresses of life and the fact that they are unable to approve of themselves by making food a crutch.

Recognizing the signs of an eating disorder

Before considering the psychological roots, let’s start by thinking about the food related signs of eating disorders. First, disordered eating can be viewed as an extreme importance of control over food intake, which leads to compensatory actions such as restricting, purging or in the event binge cycles, of obsessive overeating.

Next, eating disorder signs can sometimes include fat, that is only in their imagination centered problems. Which lead to self-misery or compensatory behaviors. For example they may over-exercise, have chronic laxative abuse or insulin treatment.

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Third, eating disorders often replicate stringent dietary behaviors such as consuming only raw greens or removing beef, fatty foods and high carbohydrate foods, etc.

Fourth, eating issues include body image distortions in a way that patients view themselves, this is not reality. They see themselves as fat when in fact they may be extremely thin. They may think their legs are too big, their belly is too fat or their arms are too flabby.

An eating disorder is just the tip of the iceberg

Despite these very particular food-related obsessions, it’s a mistake to consider these ailments to be about food. In reality, the disordered eating symptom basically demonstrates the hint of the iceberg that implies a much deeper mental challenge. If a person feels they have control over food  this may be their way of coping with their mental issues, this is not a healthier way to handle anything.

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Different damaging coping methods could also have already been employed including substance abuse, sexually acting-out, disordered conduct, aggressive or chaotic behavior, etc. The decision of control over food is a subconscious choice to cope with overwhelming emotions or tense circumstances which might be currently happening in their life.

Know the causes of eating disorders

In a variety of ways, our bodies speak in metaphors. In eating disorder symptoms this kind of body conversation regarding mental disturbances is beautifully shown.

For example, lots of people who suffer from Anorexia convey a need to “disappear” due to inadequate self-esteem or pressures of the media to be perfect. Our society creates an image of beauty that is unrealistic but many people with anorexia or bulimia believe this a reality they must attain. They are becoming uncomfortably and unrealistically skinny. They feel they will be cultural unacceptable if they are fat.

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People affected by Bulimia often record the requirement to “clear themselves” because it relates to the frequent connection with extreme or overwhelming feelings. Hence, the act of purging delivers momentary reduction towards the psychological storm within.

Folks struggling with Binge-Eating Disorder have the desire to cover or protect themselves from others and the world around them. It’s not uncommon for them been sexually abused and to have an unconscious need to protect themselves from this happening again.

Why teenagers might have eating disorders

Maturational worries might be the cause of eating disorder in pre-pubescent, fresh adolescents and youngsters. As an example, teenagers who are fearful to become an adult may unconsciously make an effort to delay the onset of adolescence and also the associated extra sexual traits (i.e., breast development, curvy hips, menses) by lowering body fat or through restriction, avoid the desired fat arrangement from accumulating that would induce menses.

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Thus, your body maintains purpose, the appearance and purpose of the prepubescent child. The individual thinks by appearing to be immature or an adolescent allows them to get guidance and continued care from their parents. Or if they have parents who are going through a divorce they may feel if they stay young then their parents may wait until they are more mature before they divorce.

Understand their actual need

In summary, when associating with individuals who have problems with an eating disorder, look beyond the food-related symptoms.  Look at their entire situation and at what emotional needs are present. Whether you’re a parent, partner, family member or friend, they need assistance in establishing better coping skills, facing their doubts, socially relating in a wholesome approach and growing their power to communicate their needs better.

To think it is only about food (e.g., saying, “Why won’t you just eat?”) isn’t just unhelpful, but also an insult to their actual need.

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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