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5 Tips for Rocking Your Body Acceptance This Year

5 Tips for Rocking Your Body Acceptance This Year

2017 is here, and body acceptance has taken over in a great way! Women all over are beginning to embrace the skin they’re in, and loving themselves no matter what size or body type they have. It’s truly a beautiful thing, and the fashion industry has begun to take notice. More than ever, designers are beginning to branch out adn cater to women in extended sizes, and runways have been spiced up with even more beautiful women that represent various sizing of women worldwide. Here are a few tips on how you can continue to embrace body acceptance throughout the year.

Don’t be afraid to go bold 

In the past, we as plus sized women were expected to wear clothing that didn’t draw major attention to ourselves. I can remember reading tips that suggested plus size women should only wear dark colors, especially encouraging black because it was slimming to the eye. Those days are long gone, and it’s time you embrace all the beautiful hues your fashionable heart desires! Try that beautiful deep orange that’s perfect for Fall, or that hot pink shade you’ve had your eyes set on for this upcoming Summer. Don’t be afraid to stand out boldly, because darling….you were never meant to fit in. Try out different colors, both light and dark, until you decide which ones complement you best.

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Mix and Match

Have fun with your style. play around with the mixing and matching of different prints to remix your normal wardrobe. Take risks you may have never been comfortable taking. Give your outfits some extra sass by color blocking or mixing different textures. Lace and leather is one of my fave mix & match combinations. It’s the feminine softness paired with that tough edge that I feel reflects my personality.

Of course, not everything can be paired, but if you experiment with different combinations enough you’ll eventually find great pairings that work for you. Don’t be afraid to check out blogs and networks (like Pinterest) for styling ideas.

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Block out your critics

Although body acceptance and positivity has become more popular these days, unfortunately there will always be those that seek to make plus sized women feel insecure. Let’s face it: there will always be hurt, insecure people that will try to hurt other people with their words and behavior. Remove this negativity from your life, both on and offline.

Stop surrounding yourself with people who make you feel uncomfortable for their own amusement, and people who don’t seem to like that you love yourself just the way you are. Stop reading nasty comments aimed at those who look like you, and instead focus on those who celebrate and embrace you. You don’t have to be a finished product to love yourself just the way you are. Wear what makes you feel good, and surround yourself with people who don’t try to compromise the way you feel about yourself or your body type.

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Flaunt what you love, minimize what you don’t

 We all have days where we feel that some things are just off. You may have a day that your legs are looking great, but you feel that your cleavage isn’t sitting as nice as they normally do. You may feel that your arms are looking nice in the top you’re wearing, but you’re feeling like your waistline isn’t looking as snatched today. No one said that body acceptance means that you’ll think every little thing about yourself is perfect every moment of each day. Crappy “off” days will happen, and that’s okay.

Take time to play up the things you feel look great, emphasizing your strong points and simply minimizing the areas you may not feel so great about all the time. If you’re not feeling your legs today, throw on a cute pair of jeans with a stunning top. If you feel bloated, find a flowy dress that disguises your midsection and instead focuses on your legs and statement heels. Take time to make note of the things you love about your body, and the things you’d like to improve. You don’t have to stay home feeling unpretty or like you have nothing to wear simply because you’re having an “off ” day. Learn to shop for emphasizing pieces as well as minimizers to get you through each season.

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Wear your confidence 

A smile is your greatest accessory. It warms any color combination you could ever come up with. I love the saying, “You’re never fully dressed without a smile.” A lot of times it’s your confidence that brings an outfit alive, and makes you stand out. Don’t be afraid to own your style choices and carry yourself like the stylish diva you are. What better way to send a message of confidence than a warm smile as you go throughout your day?

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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