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10 Simple Ways To Get Over Your Heartbreak

10 Simple Ways To Get Over Your Heartbreak

Life is difficult, especially in matters concerning the heart. Whether it is your prospective date not showing up or wanting to be in a long-term relationship, or a long-term relationship simply falling apart — the pain experienced in disappointing love situations is immeasurable. If you’ve ever been in love or pursued a relationship, I am sure you can relate. But then again, these heartbreaks and disappointments are unavoidable and each one of us goes through the agony of lost love. Still, though commonly felt, that feeling of your heart shattering into million pieces is unbearable during those times, so much so that you want to do anything that can ease your pain.

So, what are the hacks to ease this mental and emotional pain? Here, we provide 10 simple ways to get over your heartbreaks.

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  1. Acceptance. First and foremost, the hack you need is acceptance. You have to accept that people leave to make the place for someone else, and that some of us are just not compatible with each other, no matter how much love might be there. Acceptance is without a doubt a tough thing to do, but gradually you will find yourself accepting the fact that the person has left more and more.
  1. Cry and vent. The more you attempt to hide your feelings and bury it under the layers of work and other distractions, it is going to be even more difficult for you to get over the heartbreak. Do not pile up everything inside, instead, cry as much as you can. The memories and emotions are surely going to hurt you, but eventually you will make peace with those negative emotions and look at them positively. Venting and letting your emotions flow through you doesn’t make you weak.
  1. Cut the connection. Okay, it sounds harsh, but it is practical. Block him/her from all the social media sites and delete his/her phone number. Even if the person insists upon staying friends, don’t stay. It isn’t good for you to keep the past in your present if you are truly trying to move on. Perhaps you can consider being friends in later stages of life but, when the wounds are fresh, it is better to cut and eliminate every possible connection.
  1. Go out. Heartbreaks welcome the bizarre feeling of loneliness, making your life feel completely distasteful. To combat that, try going out. You can plan outings with your friends or watch comedy movies alone. Do whatever you like and visit the places you have always been fascinated about, but maybe held back because of the relationship you were in.
  1. Self-indulgence. There is no harm in loving yourself. Take a trip to the salon or beauty parlour. Go to a spa on the weekend and eat the five-star meals you have been craving all this time. Pamper yourself as much as you can and push yourself as much as you can to be the person you’ve always dreamed of being. If you always wanted to wear a short haircut, cut your hair. If you’ve always wanted to treat yourself, do something special for yourself.
  1. Write what you feel. Write your thoughts down and never send the letter. Likewise, write down your thoughts in a diary and allow all of your pain and agony to pour down onto the pieces of paper. This will give you a feeling that you have shared something with someone, like your own private therapy session and will therefore, give you peace. So, take the pen and fill the paper up with everything inside of you.
  1. Forgive. Just like accepting the break up, you also need to let it go. You need to forgive the person for whatever he/she has done and let it go. Forgiving the person will release you from the burden, allowing you to realize and come to terms with your inner strength. So, forgive them for their deeds and mistakes and let it go.
  1. Uplift someone’s mood instead. A tried and true formula says that when you are having a string of bad days, focus on creating good days for someone else. The grief that you are going through is understandable, but try making it a happy day for someone else if you can’t do it for yourself. Buy someone flowers or chocolate for no reason, take your family out for dinner, tell a stranger they’re beautiful – keep doing good acts that make others happy and you will see yourself eventually letting the grip fall loose on the breakup fiasco.
  2. Don’t play the breakup to makeup charade. There could be scenarios of getting back together that your ex could play on repeat for you or maybe you’ve taken them back before and still found yourself heartbroken and alone, but are considering it again anyway. Stop being a doormat and grab your self-respect as tightly as you can. Getting back together again can only chisel your heart again, so it is better you concentrate on yourself and keep the negativity at the bay. Nobody has the right to exploit you by any means.
  3. Start believing. See the breakup as a positive change in your life. Perhaps you never deserved that insensitive person and deserved someone better, which is why he/she is not in your life anymore. On the brighter side, that person left and has made a place for someone whom you sincerely deserve. So, cheers to the ending that has unintentionally led to a beautiful beginning.

Breakups are surely painful but they are not impossible to get over. Apply these heartbreak hacks to your life in case you are undergoing a breakup, or even if any of your friends are since these are surefire ways to help anyone through a breakup. As a reminder, this is a phase of your life where life actually begins so, hold your chin high and wipe those tears and prepare to embrace life and love as you begin again.

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While people have special days for relationship or love celebrations, true love really goes beyond that.

This article is specifically not for any special one-time love celebration or romance but it’s about all kinds of relationship. It’s about building all kinds of relationships with loved ones, colleagues, family members, and friends; to anyone who has proven to be someone worthy to share a part in the history of our existence.

When it comes to relationships, no one is really an expert. Everyone has lacking points which often starts so little and with time could cost much more than just a separation, it can lead to a complete loss of the relationship. Siblings may end up fighting with each other, families torn apart, co-workers against each other and even elderly couples ending up in divorce or worse.

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There should be a way for redemption, to build back the lost trust and to build the bridges again linking relationships for a greater bond and for a better relationship. And the best way to do this is by being honest with ourselves, knowing what relationships need to survive and knowing that everyone has to give what it takes. Being perfect may not be the solution, but being self-aware is.

1. Take care of yourself first

Relationships are not easy and anyone who has tasted one can tell. Whatever happens in relationships is a mirror of everything about us. Have you imagined anytime we have bad and stressful days, our relationships seem to be more difficult? Our relationships suffer when we are not happy with ourselves and we can feel it. We feel the lacking, the difficulties, but the one thing we really don’t take into consideration is that we are the cause of the relationship’s shortcomings.

Have you ever seen yourself in a fight, only to wonder later, what you really were up against? Have you sometimes felt disappointed of your expectations when they were not met by people you expected? I really hope this post  helps you overcome all that. Everyone has needs and your instincts should be your perfect guide.

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Whatever needs to be done for someone else and if your instincts tell you to make yourself happy first, please do so. Everyone has needs and everyone can make sacrifices but our happiness should be first. This doesn’t mean you don’t make some sacrifices but sometimes it’s best to make yourself happy first before you can make others happy.

2. Distance shouldn’t be a barrier

“If the vehicle can’t take the messenger, it could at least take the message”. This beautiful aged proverb implies that the message is more important than the sender.

Beautiful relationship quotes can help brighten the cloudy storm around your relationship. The greatest relationship mistakes made over time is the belief that only showers of gifts and being together are what sustains relationships. Well, this has been proven wrong.

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A beautiful message to a loved one like inspiring love message on their profile can break any distance barrier. Little things matters and this is one thing people often neglect. However the distance, people feel special knowing they are remembered, knowing someone somewhere is thinking about them.

3. Remember seasonal celebrations

Many seasons of a year bring holidays periods for families, friends and loved ones to come together and have a wonderful time. Keeping these moments memorable must be your focus – birthdays, weddings, marriage anniversaries and all.

A great feast among the numerous feasts celebrated every year “Christmas” is a perfect time to reach out to families and friends, to have a merry filled moments that makes up for the times of separation, to exchange gifts and inspiring messages with those we sincerely care about. If we can’t be together with those we love in these special seasons, Christmas messages shouldn’t be beyond our reach too.

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If keeping our relationships with people especially those we hold most dear matters much to us, these seasons should be kept in our minds. Remembering seasons and sharing happy moments is one of the proven ways to keep our relationships with loved ones.

4. Take the responsibility

Most times, it’s very easy to find something wrong with a relationship when we are unhappy. Blaming other people for our own feelings we expect them to come up with solutions for the problems and we give them total control over the relationship. Well, expecting a solution from this kind of situation is simply expecting something that will never come because you haven’t actually found the cause of the problem.

Before blaming someone else for what you feel,or for something you/they should have done earlier, the best solution is to look deeper into the problem to see if there is something you could have done to savage the situation, something that could have prevented the problem. Taking responsibilities for problems gives us the creative power for their solutions but if we blame someone else, we shouldn’t be surprised if they don’t do anything to find a solution and the problem becomes even worse.

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