Life is difficult, especially in matters concerning the heart. Whether it is your prospective date not showing up or wanting to be in a long-term relationship, or a long-term relationship simply falling apart — the pain experienced in disappointing love situations is immeasurable. If you’ve ever been in love or pursued a relationship, I am sure you can relate. But then again, these heartbreaks and disappointments are unavoidable and each one of us goes through the agony of lost love. Still, though commonly felt, that feeling of your heart shattering into million pieces is unbearable during those times, so much so that you want to do anything that can ease your pain.
So, what are the hacks to ease this mental and emotional pain? Here, we provide 10 simple ways to get over your heartbreaks.
- Acceptance. First and foremost, the hack you need is acceptance. You have to accept that people leave to make the place for someone else, and that some of us are just not compatible with each other, no matter how much love might be there. Acceptance is without a doubt a tough thing to do, but gradually you will find yourself accepting the fact that the person has left more and more.
- Cry and vent. The more you attempt to hide your feelings and bury it under the layers of work and other distractions, it is going to be even more difficult for you to get over the heartbreak. Do not pile up everything inside, instead, cry as much as you can. The memories and emotions are surely going to hurt you, but eventually you will make peace with those negative emotions and look at them positively. Venting and letting your emotions flow through you doesn’t make you weak.
- Cut the connection. Okay, it sounds harsh, but it is practical. Block him/her from all the social media sites and delete his/her phone number. Even if the person insists upon staying friends, don’t stay. It isn’t good for you to keep the past in your present if you are truly trying to move on. Perhaps you can consider being friends in later stages of life but, when the wounds are fresh, it is better to cut and eliminate every possible connection.
- Go out. Heartbreaks welcome the bizarre feeling of loneliness, making your life feel completely distasteful. To combat that, try going out. You can plan outings with your friends or watch comedy movies alone. Do whatever you like and visit the places you have always been fascinated about, but maybe held back because of the relationship you were in.
- Self-indulgence. There is no harm in loving yourself. Take a trip to the salon or beauty parlour. Go to a spa on the weekend and eat the five-star meals you have been craving all this time. Pamper yourself as much as you can and push yourself as much as you can to be the person you’ve always dreamed of being. If you always wanted to wear a short haircut, cut your hair. If you’ve always wanted to treat yourself, do something special for yourself.
- Write what you feel. Write your thoughts down and never send the letter. Likewise, write down your thoughts in a diary and allow all of your pain and agony to pour down onto the pieces of paper. This will give you a feeling that you have shared something with someone, like your own private therapy session and will therefore, give you peace. So, take the pen and fill the paper up with everything inside of you.
- Forgive. Just like accepting the break up, you also need to let it go. You need to forgive the person for whatever he/she has done and let it go. Forgiving the person will release you from the burden, allowing you to realize and come to terms with your inner strength. So, forgive them for their deeds and mistakes and let it go.
- Uplift someone’s mood instead. A tried and true formula says that when you are having a string of bad days, focus on creating good days for someone else. The grief that you are going through is understandable, but try making it a happy day for someone else if you can’t do it for yourself. Buy someone flowers or chocolate for no reason, take your family out for dinner, tell a stranger they’re beautiful – keep doing good acts that make others happy and you will see yourself eventually letting the grip fall loose on the breakup fiasco.
- Don’t play the breakup to makeup charade. There could be scenarios of getting back together that your ex could play on repeat for you or maybe you’ve taken them back before and still found yourself heartbroken and alone, but are considering it again anyway. Stop being a doormat and grab your self-respect as tightly as you can. Getting back together again can only chisel your heart again, so it is better you concentrate on yourself and keep the negativity at the bay. Nobody has the right to exploit you by any means.
- Start believing. See the breakup as a positive change in your life. Perhaps you never deserved that insensitive person and deserved someone better, which is why he/she is not in your life anymore. On the brighter side, that person left and has made a place for someone whom you sincerely deserve. So, cheers to the ending that has unintentionally led to a beautiful beginning.
Breakups are surely painful but they are not impossible to get over. Apply these heartbreak hacks to your life in case you are undergoing a breakup, or even if any of your friends are since these are surefire ways to help anyone through a breakup. As a reminder, this is a phase of your life where life actually begins so, hold your chin high and wipe those tears and prepare to embrace life and love as you begin again.
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