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9 Ways to Tell You’re Secretly a Time Management Guru

9 Ways to Tell You’re Secretly a Time Management Guru

Author Michael Altshuler said, “The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.” You probably kick yourself sometimes for not being a good enough pilot. You’re likely to kick yourself when you hold yourself up to a success standard that says, “I’m not rich and famous, so I’m not successful.” One quote I saw on a coffee mug recently said, “You have the same amount of hours in a day as Beyonce.” The intent is good, and it’s lighthearted, but you’re not Beyonce. Each person can be a superstar at time management within their own sphere. Here are 9 signs you’re rocking it.

1. You’re creative

Out of the five habits of highly creative people, the ability to follow a routine is number one. Psychologist William James says schedules “free our minds to advance to really interesting fields of action.”[1] Following a schedule isn’t easy; it’s a matter of your will power consistently conquering your body’s tendency towards inertia. Training your body frees your mind. If you rock a routine and find creativity flowing out of you like a waterfall, chances are you’re really, really good at time management.

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2. You’re organized

For you, organization is second nature. Having good organizational skills is about being physically and mentally organized. Physically speaking, you have no problem categorizing things and putting them in their proper place. Mentally, you’re able to prioritize tasks, attending to the most important ones first. You know how to get organized at work, but you know not to let conventional wisdom trap you. The most important task at hand is not necessarily work, it can be play, and more on that soon.

3. You finish important projects

This one stems directly from being creative and organized. The successful creative understands when they should abandon certain projects and keep on with others. So, you organize your priorities, and you follow through on what’s most pertinent. If you think about it, what else is time management about? You use your time to indulge the passions and projects that are indispensable to your being.

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4. You find time to daydream and play

According to Kaufmann and Gregoire, “A review of the latest science of daydreaming has shown that mind wandering offers very personal rewards, including creative incubation, self-awareness, future planning, reflection on the meaning of one’s experiences, and even compassion.”[2]

Note that future planning plays a role in daydreaming, as it does in time management. A balance between discipline and play creates a fertile field, from which your mind grows ideas when you’re relaxed and having fun. You make time to rejuvenate your brain with outdoor activities; doing so improves creativity by 50%[3], and a creative mind is one of the hallmarks of a good time manager.

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5. You maintain focus

Focus is the key to completing tasks, and you know this, which is why you’ve mastered maintaining focus, even when there are a lot of distractions. You set up your work space to facilitate work using your organization skills, and you make sure distractions don’t intrude. You make sure the people around you know you’re working, which creates the window of focus-time you need. You know how to redirect your attention when a distraction does grab you, and you’re able to address distractions competently. Finally, you remind yourself of priorities with regularity, ensuring you stay on task.

6. You’re on top of your budget

If there’s any truth to the saying “Time is money”, then effective budgeting is time management. As a great time manager, you employ at least several of the ways to budget for happiness. You find multiple ways to save money each month. You minimize food expenses by eating out less and cooking more. You have an emergency fund and other resources set aside for tough times. You make sure ordinary necessities are taken care of, you grow food and craft household items. Finally, you include the cost of play, relaxation, and new experiences in your budget.

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7. You get exercise

The benefits of exercise are plenty, which is why you incorporate it into your schedule. That, and you just like the way you feel when you exercise. Through regular exercise, your memory improves, you’re less depressed, and you learn faster. It may keep you looking young longer, but you’re not worried about that because you’re too busy being active. Your skin looks great, and you have the right amount of fat for your body type.

8. You’re there for people (within reason)

Particularly if you’re an extrovert, you find there are a lot people in your life, and you relish the time you spend with them. If you’re an introvert, you have to make a point to include other people in your life, and when you do, it’s rewarding. In any case, a social life is necessary for the well-rounded person. But you strike a balance. Too much social time means you’re not writing that book you need to finish, or if you’re a social worker, it means you’re not getting enough self-care. Whatever the case, a balance between social life and other priorities is a sign you manage your time well.

9. You know what to ignore

Your BS meter is truly tuned in to things that are a waste of your time. No one has time for everything, and you’ve got to weed out the things that just aren’t worth it; for you, this is a no-brainer. Congratulate yourself for having an exceptionally fine filter.

Featured photo credit: Unsplash via pixabay.com

Reference

[1] Square, Inc: 5 Habits of Highly Creative People
[2] Scott Barry Kaufman and Carolyn Gregoire: Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind
[3] American Graphics Institute: How To Improve Creativity By 50%

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Last Updated on September 23, 2020

5 Reasons for Your Facebook Addiction (and How to Break It)

5 Reasons for Your Facebook Addiction (and How to Break It)

Facebook is embedded into lives around the world. We use it to connect with friends, share important milestones, and check in with the news. However, what may seem like harmless scrolling can become harmful if it takes up inordinate amounts of time and turns into a Facebook addiction.

The first step to breaking any bad habit is to understand the symptoms and psychological triggers that made you pick up the habit in the first place. Below you’ll find the common causes, and the good news is that, once you’ve identified them, you can implement specific strategies to get over your Facebook addiction.

Symptoms of a Facebook Addiction

Do you find that the first thing you do when you wake up is grab your phone and scroll through Facebook? Is it the last thing you see before falling asleep? You may have a Facebook addiction. Here are some more of the signs and symptoms[1]:

  • You end up spending hours on Facebook, even when you don’t mean to.
  • You use Facebook to escape problems or change your mood.
  • You go to sleep later because you’re glued to your screen.
  • Your relationships are suffering because you spend more time on your phone than you do talking with the people you care about.
  • You automatically pull out your phone when you have free time.

You can check out this TED Talk by Tristan Harris to understand how Facebook and other social media gain and hold our attention:

Psychological Reasons for a Facebook Addiction

A compulsive Facebook addiction doesn’t come out of nowhere. There are often root causes that push you into Facebook, which can ultimately manifest as an addiction once you become dependent on it. Here are some of the common causes.

Procrastination

Facebook can cause procrastination, but many times, your tendency to procrastinate can lead you to scrolling through your Facebook feed.

Facebook capitalizes on your tendency to procrastinate[2] by incorporating a news feed with an infinite scroll. No matter how far down you go, there will always be more memes and status updates to keep you distracted from whatever you should be doing.

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Thus, it might be helpful to change your perception of Facebook. Instead of looking at it like a place to be social or kill time, frame Facebook as the enemy of your productivity and purpose. Doesn’t sound as tempting now, right?

Loneliness or Indecision

Facebook resembles a boring reality TV show that is on full display during every hour of the day. Do you really need to tell everybody what you ate for lunch? I doubt it.

You don’t share such trivial details to add value to people’s lives. You’re likely doing it because you’re lonely and in need of attention or approval[3].

Seeking opinions from your friends could be a sign of indecision or low self-confidence. If you get a bad suggestion, then you can conveniently blame somebody else, thus protecting your ego.

Social Comparisons

Social comparison is a natural part of being human[4]. We need to know where we stand in order to judge our rank among our peers. And Facebook has made this all too easy.

When we get into Facebook, our brains are bombarded by hundreds of people to compare ourselves to. We see our cousin’s amazing vacation to Europe, our friend’s adorable baby, our brother’s new puppy, etc. Everything looks better than what we have because, of course, people are only going to post the best parts.

This extreme form of social comparison with a Facebook addiction can, unfortunately, lead to depression. One study pointed out that “people feel depressed after spending a great deal of time on Facebook because they feel badly when comparing themselves to others”[5].

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People-Pleasing

Facebook takes advantage of your desire for instant gratification[6]. Your brain receives a dopamine hit every time you see that red notification light up. Dopamine is a chemical in your brain that causes you to seek pleasure from things.

Pleasure sounds nice in theory, but dopamine is responsible for self-destructive behavior if overproduced. Thus, becoming a slave to your notifications can destroy your self-control in a hurry.

If that wasn’t bad enough, the human desire to be liked and accepted is at play, too. Every time you get a “Like,” your brain decides that means somebody likes you. Keep this up and you’ll turn into an addict desperate for another “hit.”

Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

Facebook wrecks your focus by preying on your fear of missing out. You check your Facebook feed during a date because you don’t want to miss any interesting updates. You check your messages while you drive because a friend might have something exciting to share.

One study found that “a high level of fear of missing out and high narcissism are predictors of Facebook intrusion, while a low level of fear of missing out and high narcissism are related to satisfaction with life”[7].

Therefore, while you may feel temporarily glad that you didn’t miss something, research shows that FOMO will actually reduce your overall life satisfaction.

How to Break a Facebook Addiction

Now that you know some of the causes of a Facebook addiction, you may be ready to break it. If so, follow these 5 steps to get over your addiction and improve your mental health.

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1. Admit the Addiction

You can’t fix a problem if you deny it exists. Don’t beat yourself up, but do try and be honest enough to admit you’re a Facebook addict. If it makes you feel any better, I’m a recovering addict myself. There is no reason to be ashamed.

Telling a trusted friend might help you stay accountable, especially if they share your goal.

2. Be Mindful of Triggers

In order to discover the triggers that lead you to use Facebook, ask yourself the following questions. It may be helpful to write them down at a journal.

  • What did I do? (scrolling, sharing, notification checking, etc.)
  • When did I do it? (down-time at work, as soon as you woke up, right before bed, on a date, etc.)
  • What happened right before? (a stressful event, boredom, etc.)
  • How did this make me feel? (stressed, anxious, sad, angry, etc.)

Once you’re aware of what pushes you to use Facebook, you can work on tackling those specific things to get over your Facebook addiction.

3. Learn to Recognize the Urge

Every time you feel the urge to update your status or check your feed, recognize that impulse for what it is (a habitual behavior—NOT a conscious decision). This is especially powerful when you complete step 2 because you’ll be able to make a mental note of the specific psychological trigger at play.

Have a plan for when you feel the desire to use Facebook. For example, if you know you use it when you’re bored, plan to practice a hobby instead. If you use it when you’re stressed, create a relaxation routine instead of jumping on Facebook.

4. Practice Self-Compassion

Facebook is an epic time-suck, but that doesn’t mean you should criticize yourself every time you log-on to your feed. Beating yourself up will make you feel bad about yourself, which will ironically cause you to be even more tempted.

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Self-loathing can only lead to failure. You might end up deciding it’s hopeless because you are “too lazy.”  If you want to break your addiction for good, then you need to be self-compassionate.

5. Replace the Addiction With a Positive Alternative

It’s a lot easier to eliminate a bad habit when you decide on a good habit that you would like to replace it with. I applied this idea by choosing to pick up a book every time I was tempted to check my feed.

The result blew my mind. I read over a hundred pages in the first day! Trust me when I say those “few minutes of down-time” can add up to an obscene amount of waste.

Having a specific metric to track is important. If you want to stay encouraged, you need to have compelling evidence that your time would be better spent elsewhere.

For example, download an app to help you determine exactly how much time is spent on Facebook so you know how much of your life you’re losing to it. Then, when you find a healthy alternative, you can feel good about all the time you’re giving to it!

Final Thoughts

Facebook addictions aren’t uncommon in today’s technologically dependent world. In the pursuit of human connection, we’ve mistakenly taken our interactions online, thinking it would be an easier alternative. Unfortunately, this is no replacement for genuine, face-to-face interaction in real life.

If you think you have a problem, there are things you can do to tackle it. Get started today and improve your overall well-being.

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