Advertising
Advertising

The One Thing You Should Spend Your Money On

The One Thing You Should Spend Your Money On

I’d always saved up every penny I earned.

For several reasons:

  1. My parents are both hardcore savers who taught me to stash my paychecks for the bigger things in the future.
  2. I started building my career 3 years ago and haven’t made much.
  3. I happen live in one of the most expensive places in America — Silicon Valley.

Because of this, I became more frugal with money and would only buy what I needed, which was groceries, gas, and utility bills. Everything else? Straight into my savings.

counting_money

    Of course there were times when my friends would ask me to eat lunch or dinner with them, and I’d get very tempted. But instead of spending $20+ on a meal (and possibly a drink afterwards?), I’d suggest coffee. I figured it was a good middle ground to satisfy both our interests. They’d have a companion to eat with. I’d have extra money in my pocket.

    Now I knew saving money was a good habit, but what was I saving for?

    A home? A car? My wedding?

    Advertising

    Everyone aims for those achievements nowadays. And the thought of spending decades of my life working for things that are now considered “standard” by today’s expectations no longer inspires me to work (as) hard.

    Not to mention, our value of these things drop every passing year. Just think, are you going to be raving about your new home or car in the next 5, 10 years?

    Probably not.

    The thing is, too many of us in our 20s-30s focus too much on working and saving up every dollar that we forget how precious our youth is. We exhaust our minds. We sacrifice our health. We succumb to what everyone wants, simply because we believe that’s what makes life fulfilling.

    Only to realize, it’s not.

    Luckily, I’d found one thing that has made my life more meaningful and keeps me hard at work. And the best part is, it’s realistic with my budget and gives me a much longer payoff than the most expensive thing you can find on the market.

    Advertising

    Travelling.

    Jeshoots_travel

      At first, I was shocked to see $4,500 on my bank statement. I mean I wasn’t there to splurge for fun, but mainly to work for my startup.

      But as soon as I thought about all the things I’d learned from my trip in the last 3 months, it made every dollar seem well spent.

      My experiences in a nutshell

      I learned how to protect my valuables from pickpocketers
      From what people told me, I had to be extra careful around the places I stayed: Kuala Lumpur (Malaysia), Bangkok (Thailand), and Ho Chi Minh City (Vietnam).

      I learned that Southeast Asia has a ridiculous number of coffeeshops and cafes, almost one on every corner. AND they offer free wifi! Surprisingly, many restaurants offer free wifi too (super convenient if you want to eat and work in one place).

      Luka
        One of my favorite coffeeshops in Thailand: Luka.

        I learned Uber is the cheaper ride option, but Grabtaxi has more reliable drivers.

        Advertising

        I learned Cheapflights offer the cheapest flight deals.
        My cheapest trip was $63 from Thailand to Vietnam.

        I learned how to take the subway train and Skytrain without getting lost (after the 8th time).

        thai_skytrain
          The BTS “Skytrain” in Bangkok, Thailand.

          I learned to trust my gut more than the mouths of locals. 
          Usually, they’d lead me towards the wrong direction when I asked where [restaurant/coffeeshop/train stop] was or show me the wrong item in the store. And that’s because we had a huge language barrier, so most things I’d say would be misinterpreted.

          I learned over 50% of Malaysians are Muslim.
          That explains why a lot of Malaysian restaurants displayed signs with “pork-free!”

          malaysia_cafe
            Locals enjoying a midnight snack at a cafe in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.

            I learned that Thai people are some of the nicest, most laid-back people you’ll ever meet in the world. They don’t judge you based on your ethnicity or your beliefs. In fact, they thought I was one of them (even though I’m Chinese). :)

            bulan_me
              My Thai BFF and Airbnb host—one of the coolest people I’ve ever met.

              I learned you can negotiate 20–30% less from the original price in Thailand. And that walking away isn’t an effective strategy to help you seal the deal.

              Advertising

              I learned theft is more common in Vietnam. If I walked into a supermarket, an employee would fasten a cable tie on my backpack zippers and cut it when I got to the register. That was to prevent stealing.

              vietnam_theft
                How Vietnamese prevent shoplifters in supermarkets.

                Travelling gives you more stories to tell, more friends to connect with, and experiences no one else could have.

                Isabella_Bruce

                  If I could go back, I’d have travelled earlier (in my early 20s). There’s just so much you learn as you walk down the streets, hop on the bus, eat at a cafe, and watch how people interact. Not many people in this world can afford this kind of luxury. So if you have the opportunity and money to, take it from me and book that trip you’ve been dying to go to.

                  After all, you only have one life to make the most out of yourself!

                  One Last Thing…

                  Mind if you do me a sweet favor, and share this article if you enjoyed it? It’d mean the world to me.

                  Featured photo credit: Ashley Schweitzer via minimography.com

                  More by this author

                  Tiffany Sun

                  Aspiring Writer

                  rediscovering_myself Rediscovering the person I could’ve been 10 years ago 10 Little Habits That Make You More Attractive (and I’m Not Talking About Looks) How to Unleash Your Best Ideas and (Possibly) Turn Them Into a New Business money_falling_from_jar The One Thing You Should Spend Your Money On

                  Trending in Lifestyle

                  1 Why Am I So Tired Even After Rest? 2 How To Be Successful In Life? 13 Tips From The Most Successful People 3 How to Invest in Yourself: 3 Valuable Ways to Change Your Life 4 What Is Passion and What It Means To Have Passion 5 Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Your Fatigue Symptom (& How to Boost Energy)

                  Read Next

                  Advertising
                  Advertising
                  Advertising

                  Last Updated on October 15, 2019

                  How To Be Successful In Life? 13 Tips From The Most Successful People

                  How To Be Successful In Life? 13 Tips From The Most Successful People

                  What is success to you? How to be successful in life?

                  To some, when they think of success, they imagine wealth; others want power; some just want to make a positive impact on the world.

                  All of these are perfectly valid, indeed success is a concept that means different things to different people. Though no matter what success is to you, it almost certainly isn’t something will come easily.

                  There are countless guides and books to being successful, however, as success is personal and unique to each individual. The advice contained in these books can often not be relevant. Therefore following the advice of a single individual can often be unhelpful.

                  With this in mind, considering the advice of a great many people, people whose ideas of success were different both to each other, and quite possibly, to you can be a good alternative.

                  What follows is a list of thirteen of the best pieces of advice from some of the most successful people who have ever lived. If you want to learn how to be successful, these 13 tips are essential:

                  1. Think Big

                    From Michelangelo Buonarroti, Great Renaissance Artist:

                    “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.”

                    There are few artists as influential as Michaelangelo. Today centuries after his death, his work still inspires and connects to people. His work is world famous, just think of his statue of David, or the Mural in the Sistine Chapel in the Vatican.

                    Imagine then, if he decided not to work as an artist.

                    Being a successful artist has always been extremely difficult, imagine if he decided to give up this ambition in favour of something easier?

                    Oftentimes, people often decided to put their dreams aside for something more “realistic”. To give up their dream for something easier. This quote teaches us the danger of such a point of view.
                    Instead be ambitious.

                    2. Find What You Love to Do and Do It

                      From Oprah Winfrey, Media Mogul:

                      “You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job and not be paid for it.”

                      This is a good quote to remember and think about when you’re at work.

                      Imagine being as successful as possible in your current job. Ultimately you’ll probably find yourself working extremely hard and this it will take up much of your time.

                      If it’s a job you hate, then being successful at it might only mean filling your life with something you hate to do. What’s the sense in this?

                      Instead, why not focus on doing something you love? When you’ve found what you’re passionate about, you get the motivation to keep you moving. Success at this means the fulfilment of your dreams.

                      Not sure what your passion is yet? You should learn about this Motivation Engine first.

                      Even if you’re not successful, you still filled your time with something you love to do. Many successful musicians spent years of their lives doing unpaid performances, the only reason they kept playing was because they loved to perform.

                      3. Learn How to Balance Life

                      Advertising

                        From Phil Knight, CEO of Nike Inc.:

                        “There is an immutable conflict at work in life and in business, a constant battle between peace and chaos. Neither can be mastered, but both can be influenced. How you go about that is the key to success.”

                        All too often, people think that to be successful, they need to make the object of their success their life.

                        If a person thinks their job will lead them to success, then they may spend countless hours per day, and well into the evening working hard.

                        However this comes at the cost of rest, your health and having an enjoyable life. Ultimately they may burn out and cease to be successful at their job anyway.

                        If success comes from having a strong social life and a good group of friends, their job may suffer; meaning that they may lose their job, and then be unable to afford going out with friends.

                        In these ways, success, as Phil Knight says above, is helped by balance. Think of it as a balance between rest and work, or work and play.

                        To achieve that balance, this Ultimate Guide to Prioritizing Your Work And Life can help you.

                        4. Do Not Be Afraid of Failure

                          From Henry Ford, Founder of Ford Motors:

                          “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”

                          There is a story, it’s unconfirmed whether it actually happened, yet the message within is none the less true:

                          Thomas Edison inventing the lightbulb was the result of several hundred failed attempts. In an interview, he was asked “How do you feel after all of your failed attempts?”

                          His response was great, “I didn’t fail, I learned hundreds of ways not to invent the lightbulb”

                          He saw each “failure” as a lesson. From that lesson he learned what won’t work, and also might work instead.

                          Each failed attempt, each rejection, were key steps on his path to success. It is easy to feel like you should give up after a failure. But perhaps in that failure is a lesson.

                          Pay attention to your failures, study them. Perhaps then you’ll learn how to succeed.

                          If you find it difficult to fight your fear of failure, here’s a guide for you: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It Step-By-Step)

                          5. Have an Unwavering Resolution to Succeed

                            From Colonel Sanders, Founder of KFC:

                            “I made a resolve then that I was going to amount to something if I could. And no hours, nor amount of labor, nor amount of money would deter me from giving the best that there was in me. And I have done that ever since, and I win by it. I know.”

                            This, in many ways relates to the above quote about learning from your failures.

                            It’s the easiest thing in the world to give up from a failure. The only way to push on is if you have the true burning desire to succeed, to not be moved or dissuaded from your goals.

                            Advertising

                            If you are not truly dedicated towards success, then each failure will hurt more, each set back will slow you down.

                            Success is hard; without the unwavering desire to succeed, this difficulty may seem insurmountable. With the desire, it is merely an obstacle to go through.

                            6. Be a Person of Action

                              From Leonardo da Vinci, Renaissance Genius:

                              “It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”

                              Though it was said hundreds of years ago, it works just as much today as it ever had. It applies to literally any successful person.

                              Think about it, picture someone like William Shakespeare:

                              When we think of the time he lived in, we think of the time in a way shaped by him. When we think of Renaissance era Italy, we think of Michelangelo and Leonardo Da Vinci. Or think about the present day, Bill Gates or Steve Jobs. Our current way of life would simply be incomparably different if they didn’t accomplish what they did.

                              You’re probably reading this article on a device by a company that they either founded or companies influenced by them.

                              All these figures were proactive, they saw ways to do things differently and did them. If they let the world shape them, then they’d simply fit into the background. Instead they shaped the world.

                              Applying this to you?

                              Don’t be afraid of going outside the norm. If you can think of a better way to do something, do it that way. If you fail, try again.

                              7. Cultivate Positive Relationships

                                From Theodore Roosevelt, 26th President of America: “

                                The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”

                                The best leaders and some of the most influential people (and Theodore Roosevelt is one of the best leaders and one of the most influential people to have lived) were not those who caused commotions, who fought with people or disregarded people; but were people who were friendly to those around them.

                                People liked them. They wanted them to do well.

                                This is key to good leadership.

                                It’s logical. If someone likes you, they want to help you; if you give them a suggestion, they’ll gladly follow through with it.

                                But if someone doesn’t like you, they may either refuse to help or actively get in your way.

                                What’s more, it’s always a good idea to cultivate good relationships. You can never tell who will prove to become someone who’ll be able to help you in a big way, or even be a good and supportive friend.

                                As such, help people and they may help you; and be good to people, and they my be good to you.

                                8. Don’t Be Afraid of Introducing New Ideas

                                Advertising

                                  From Mark Twain, Famed Author:

                                  “A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”

                                  It is an unfortunate truth that those with the boldest ideas are often disregarded.

                                  Most of us are taught from an early age to think and do things similarly to everyone else. This can be great to fill an existing role. But to truly do things differently (and all successful people did things differently), you need to think differently.

                                  If you have a new idea, don’t throw it away because it’s new and different; instead, celebrate it. Your strange new idea might one day be the one that leads you to success.

                                  9. Believe in Your Capacity to Succeed

                                    From Walter Disney, Founder of Walt Disney Company:

                                    “If you can dream it, you can do it.”

                                    Success has to be something you can imagine yourself achieving.

                                    It is possible that you will come across those who doubt you and your ability to succeed. You must not become one of these people because the moment you cease believing and dreaming is the moment these dreams fall away.

                                    Keep dreaming!

                                    10. Always Maintain a Positive Mental Attitude

                                      From Thomas Jefferson, 3rd President of America:

                                      “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”

                                      Like the above quote says, you need to trust in your ability to succeed. This is the only way to cultivate the right mindset.

                                      Replace negative thoughts with the positive ones. You need to approach problems, not as obstacles stopping you, but merely tasks that need to be completed for you to keep going.

                                      If you stay positive and think like this, setbacks won’t affect you so much, people’s doubts won’t impact you and even the biggest obstacles will seem like minor problems.

                                      However with the wrong mindset of doubt, you’ll be much easier to stop.

                                      11. Don’t Let Discouragement Stop You from Pressing On

                                        From Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of America:

                                        “Let no feeling of discouragement prey upon you, and in the end you are sure to succeed.”

                                        It is an unfortunate fact of human nature — all of us in some way, doubt ourselves. This can be made far worse if others doubt us too.

                                        When surrounded by doubts, giving up can actually seem like a good idea.

                                        Advertising

                                        Don’t pay attention to the doubts. If you are discouraged, ignore it.

                                        If this discouragement moves into your mind and you begin to doubt yourself. It is important to ignore this too.

                                        This is How Self Doubt Keeps You Stuck and How to Overcome It

                                        12. Be Willing to Work Hard

                                          From JC Penny, Founder of JC Penney Inc.:

                                          “Unless you are willing to drench yourself in your work beyond the capacity of the average man, you are just not cut out for positions at the top.”

                                          You might have heard the quote that “success is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration” or you may have heard about the 10,000 hours idea.

                                          Whichever way you frame it, they say one thing:

                                          True success comes from work.

                                          You’ll never become successful if you don’t work towards your goal in life and keep working towards it.

                                          Check out this article and you’ll understand Why Hard Work Beats Talent.

                                          13. Be Brave Enough to Follow Your Intuition

                                            From Steve Jobs, Co-founder of Apple Inc.:

                                            “Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

                                            In ancient Greece, there was a group of Oracles who lived in Delphi. Everyone who needed advice or to know their future visited them, from the poorest of society to kings. Above the doorway of the temple were the words “know thyself”.

                                            If you strongly believe and desire something, chances are that you already have an idea how to get there. If not, you may naturally know what things will help you and what things will slow you down.

                                            It’s like how your body can detect danger even when things seem safe.

                                            Ultimately then, you need to trust your own instincts.

                                            Final Thoughts

                                            What you might have noticed is that many of the above lessons are similar — most are about developing the right state of mind. This clearly suggests that the key to achieving success, in whatever you wish, comes down to the way you approach it mentally.

                                            Moreover, no matter what stage of life you’re at now, you can still make a difference and pursue success. You can make resetting your life possible when you do this: How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

                                            More to Help You Succeed in Life

                                            Featured photo credit: Ryan Wong via unsplash.com

                                            Read Next