Dating is fun, isn’t it? We all have been indulged into dating at some point in time. Whether you are dating multiple partners or a single person, the cringe and nervousness that you feel when you meet someone on an official date for the first time is memorable.
These pangs of nervousness are common and timeless. They restrain us from giving our best impression ultimately leading to a chaotic experience. Here are several ‘don’t(s)’ that you’d better avoid on your first date.
1. Talking about your ex
No matter how much are you missing your ex, no matter how boring your first date with the new person is, no matter how emotional you are, just do NOT puke everything out about your ex. This night should wholly and solely belong to you and your date.
Experts say the individual growth that leads to healthy, stable relationships begins with heartbreaks. One of the best ways to turn past disappointments into future relationship successes is to share these experiences with your friends. Not necessarily with your new date.
2. Talking about future
Okay, relax! You have met him or her for the first time and you need to calm down. It is okay to chalk down your potential future with your date in your mind. Do not intimidate the person by telling them how serious you are. Your feelings might be genuine but take it slow, give your date time to settle their thoughts too.
3. Get Drunk
Each one of us is aware of our own capacity of drinking and yet sometimes we let loose. Boozing on a first date is a fun idea but hey, who is going to like someone who seems like a drunk, or becomes inebriated? This is certainly a good way to spoil the date and bid farewell to the person forever.
4. Become a victim
Perhaps you are facing all the difficulties of the world and it is heart wrenching, however, do not bore your first date with your problems. We all go through certain downfalls in life and not everybody is interested in listening to it. You can, however, wait for the comfort zone to get established in the following dates and then brick by brick break the walls. But, when it comes to the first impression, please avoid.
5. Show timeliness
Be on time, even if it seems silly. Coming on time sets a good impression. If you have an ingrained habit of coming late then start getting ready earlier and leave early to avoid delay caused by unforeseen incidents like traffic.
6. Tireless attempts to impress
You must relax first. Be confident and do not over do things. If you wish to compliment your date, do it subtly. Keep the manners up and show that you care but do not do things that appear desperate. There is a thin line between being excited and desperate, keep an eye on that line.
Meeting and dating someone for the first time can be confusing but you need to take it slow. The chances are that the two of you are in for a good run. There isn’t a person in this world that doesn’t have an annoying, irritating, downright bizarre quirk or two. Being with someone whose chinks and cracks you find endearing is an added bonus that not a lot of people get to enjoy. Pay attention to your date’s body language, pay attention to what they talk about, pay attention to their likes and dislikes. Your basic aim should not be to impress them, but for you both to decide if you’d like to see each other again.