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How On-Demand TV Changed The Way I Watch Television

How On-Demand TV Changed The Way I Watch Television

Here we go again. Another late night coming home from work. It seems like I never have any free time. Let alone time for watching television. Let’s face it, who has the luxury of a nine to five career? In fact, I often bring work home. When I do get time off to be with friends, they are always discussing the latest trends, shows and movies. I have no idea what they are talking about and it makes me feel disconnected.

On the rare occasion I get to watch television, the only thing trending is CNN. I can’t take it anymore – the news is driving me crazy! Hearing another Donald Trump Twitter rant makes me want to pull my hair out. It’s not like I can relax and watch the latest episodes of Better Call Saul. These shows air during prime time.

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For the longest time, I did not even watch television. I was tired of showing an interest in a series only to be held in suspense for weeks (or months) at a time. Instead, I would curl up with a good book and never finish it. That eventually got boring and I attempted to explore other avenues.

I tried crochet. It enhanced my creative side, but made me feel old. I now have about fifty granny squares lying around the house. None of them are connected either.

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Next was a short stint with dubbed anime. As it turns out, I am not alone on this one. According to Techwack, adults watch dubbed anime because they get to relive their childhood. That explains a lot. I am the biggest kid. It was not all that bad. Anime helped me secure a friendship with Jeanne, the “computer geek girl” whose office is plastered with hundreds of creepy dark dolls. Hey, it’s always a good thing to have a friend in the IT department when you need stuff done. Besides, dark dolls are kind of awesome and so is anime. Secretly, I am starting my own collection.

Then, came on-demand television and changed the way I watch TV. Binge watching on Netflix is my new late night ritual, mostly because Orange Is The New Black and House of Cards are exclusive to it.

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I am not much of a movie fan. I can barely last 45 minutes watching anything without falling asleep. Binge watching just makes life simpler for me, because I can schedule shows to meet my active lifestyle, I can fast forward to current episodes if I just want to catch up and it costs roughly ten dollars a month. With hundreds if not thousands of shows to watch, you cannot beat that.

Contrary to popular belief, I do not always watch the entire season. I sometimes just watch a few shows to get the gist of things. If I am not able to watch the entire series, at least I have an idea of what’s going on.

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For the first time in a long time I feel a connection to everyone else and I don’t have to avoid social media.

Yes, I would avoid Facebook so I did not have to deal with spoiler alerts and reading posts that made no sense to me. Now, I can actively engage in conversations about things other than the size of Trump’s ego. I no longer feel a disconnect with my colleagues who talk incessantly about the latest episodes. I am certain that the stupid smile on my face as I nod in agreement doesn’t escape them. I don’t want to be the weird old lady in room 222, I want to be the go to gal.

People do not realize how isolated you can feel when you are not up to date with current trends. On-demand TV is helping me fill this gap. At least for now. Hopefully, Jeanne will update me on the next big breakthrough in technology.

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Last Updated on December 18, 2018

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Are you one of those people who are always suffering setbacks? Does little ever seem to go right for you? Do you sometimes feel that the universe is out to get you? Do you wonder:

Why do I have bad luck? Is bad luck real?

A couple of months ago, I met up with an old friend of mine who I hadn’t seen since last year. Over lunch, we talked about all kinds of things, including our careers, relationships and hobbies.

My friend told me his job had become dull and uninteresting to him, and despite applying for promotion – he’d been turned down. His personal life wasn’t great either, as he told me that he’d recently separated from his long-term girlfriend.

When I asked him why things had seemingly gone wrong at home and work, he paused for a moment, and then replied:

“I’m having a run of bad luck.”

I was surprised by his response as I’d never thought of him as someone who thought that luck controlled his life. He always appeared to be someone who knew what he wanted – and went after it with gusto.

He told me he did believe in bad luck because of everything happened to me.

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It was at this point, that I shared my opinion on luck and destiny:

While chance events certainly occur, they are purely random in nature. In other words, good luck and bad luck don’t exist in the way that people believe. And more importantly, even if random negative events do come along, our perspective and reaction can turn them into positive things.

Your luck is no worse—and no better—than anyone else’s. It just feels that way. Better still, there are two simple things you can do which will reverse your feelings of being unlucky and change your luck.

1. Stop believing that what happens in life is out of your control.

Stop believing that what happens in your life is down to the vagaries of luck, destiny, supernatural forces, malevolent other people, or anything else outside yourself.

Psychologists call this “external locus of control.” It’s a kind of fatalism, where people believe that they can do little or nothing personally to change their lives.

Because of this, they either merely hope for the best, focus on trying to change their luck by various kinds of superstition, or submit passively to whatever comes—while complaining that it doesn’t match their hopes.

Most successful people take the opposite view. They have “internal locus of control.” They believe that what happens in their life is nearly all down to them; and that even when chance events occur, what is important is not the event itself, but how you respond to it.

This makes them pro-active, engaged, ready to try new things, and keen to find the means to change whatever in their lives they don’t like.

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They aren’t fatalistic and they don’t blame bad luck for what isn’t right in their world. They look for a way to make things better.

Are they luckier than the others? Of course not.

Luck is random—that’s what chance means—so they are just as likely to suffer setbacks as anyone else.

What’s different is their response. When things go wrong, they quickly look for ways to put them right. They don’t whine, pity themselves, or complain about “bad luck.” They try to learn from what happened to avoid or correct it next time and get on with living their life as best they can. They have this Motivation Engine, which most people lack, to keep them going.

No one is habitually luckier or unluckier than anyone else. It may seem so, over the short term (Random events often come in groups, just as random numbers often lie close together for several instances—which is why gamblers tend to see patterns where none exist).

When you take a longer perspective, random chance is just . . . random. Yet those who feel that they are less lucky, typically pay far more attention to short-term instances of bad luck, convincing themselves of the correctness of their belief.

Your locus of control isn’t genetic. You learned it somehow. If it isn’t working for you, change it.

2. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.

If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent.

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In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.

Not long ago, a reader (I’ll call her Kelly) has shared with me about how frustrated she felt and how unlucky she was. Kelly’s an aspiring entrepreneur. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors. And at her most stressful time, her boyfriend broke up with her. And the day after her breakup, she missed an important opportunity to meet an interested investor. She was about to give up because she felt that she’d not be lucky enough to build her business successfully.

It definitely wasn’t an easy time for her. She was stressful and tired. But it wasn’t bad luck that was playing the role.

Fatalism feeds on itself until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success.

They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.

Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.

I explained to Kelly that to improve her fortune and have “good luck”, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to her; then try to focus on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff.

Then Kelly tried to review her current situation objectively. She realized that she only needed a short break for herself — from work and her just broken-up relationship. She really needed some time to clear up her mind before moving on with her work and life. When she got her emotions settled down from her heartbreak, she started to work on improving her business’ selling points and looked for new investors that are more suitable.

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A few months later, she told me that she finally found two investors who were really interested in her project and would like to work with her to grow the business. I was really glad that she could take back control of her destiny and achieved what she wanted.

Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage or just complain about them?

What’s Next?

Now that you’ve learned the 2 simple things you can do to take control of your fate and create your own luck. But this isn’t it! These simple techniques you’ve learned here are just part of the essential 7 Cornerstone Skills — a skillset that will give you the power to create permanent solutions to big problems in life — any problem in any area of your life!

If you think you’re “suffering from bad luck”, you can really change things up and start life over with these 7 Cornerstone Skills. It may even be a lot easier than you thought:

How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

Thomas Jefferson is said to have used these words:

“I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

Your luck, in the end, is pretty much what you choose it to be.

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