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5 Secrets to Being Confident and Earning People’s Respect

5 Secrets to Being Confident and Earning People’s Respect

It’s hard to wake up enthusiastic, or even indifferent, in the morning when you feel mistreated by people in your office, or by your friends or family. You need to understand that some people don’t know that they are hurting your feelings until you notify them they are doing so; just a small percentage of people are actually self-aware and empathetic enough to notice.

The secret lying behind positive relationships with people is in your attitude – the way you treat yourself and the way you treat those around you. By introducing the following changes in your life, you’ll be able to improve the quality of your life.

Take Good Care of Yourself

If you mistreat yourself physically by not taking proper care of your body – which is often very obvious – you’re giving everyone around you a good reason to disrespect you. If you don’t feel like you yourself are worthy of nourishment and attention, why should anyone else feel any different?

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Therefore, start by changing yourself. First of all, you need to establish a hygiene routine – and this one is a must – so you make yourself presentable. This can be interesting, because you have a chance to reinvent your style; you should explore different hairstyles, nurturing products for your skin, discover various new scents, and learn about ways to stop sweating if you have problems in that area.

This process can be frustrating, but if you look at this transition with positivity and enthusiasm to become a better person, you’ll be able to find out many new useful things and learn a lot about yourself.

Try to Be Genuinely Attentive

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    People are not divided into good and evil – we all have light and darkness in ourselves. Therefore, you shouldn’t be ashamed when you feel envy or anger, but you should strive towards recognizing those emotions, so you can find its roots and eventually exterminate them.

    So, when you’re communicating with someone, try to do it without having secret agendas, or don’t communicate at all. When you’re talking to someone, try to actually listen to what they have to say, and if you’re not in a position to help because a certain situation isn’t in your control, be a good listener and that will be enough. People are able to recognize insincerity, even if they are unable to put a finger on it, and this is something you should steer clear of.

    Work on Your Confidence

    Although we’re the most evolved species in the world, we function based on our primal instincts, and this is something you need to have in mind. One of those instincts is establishing dominance in your surroundings – I’m sure you’re familiar with at least one alpha specimen in your daily life.

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    Not everyone is a born leader, and if that’s not your cup of tea, you shouldn’t force yourself to be someone you’re not. However, you can be above this animalistic order if you work on your confidence by getting to know your skills and your capabilities. The feeling of self-worth is exactly the thing someone’s confidence is based on, and if you’re in constant self-development your self-esteem can only go up.

    Kindness and Manners

      Our modern lifestyle often doesn’t leave much time for small pleasures and commodities such as politeness. I believe this is quite unfortunate, because people forget to be nice to each other’s and that’s a real shame. You’d be surprised at what kind of feedback you can receive if you become sincerely kind – saying thank you and really meaning it is enriching, and I’m absolutely positive you’ll make someone’s day by doing so.

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      Don’t Allow People to Walk Over You

      Being good to people around you is one thing, but you mustn’t allow anyone to push you around. Offering your help to someone needs to be deserved, and you shouldn’t do anyone’s bidding if you don’t want to. Your free time is at your disposal and you need to spend it well; this is just another way to establish respect toward yourself, and everyone around you will follow your example.

      All these changes are a matter of mindset; in order to introduce them to your life, it’s quite necessary for you to be persistent and disciplined. No one said this is an easy transition, but if you do make it, you’ll develop strong will along the way, and you’ll wake up in the morning ready for all the challenges that may come your way.

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      Last Updated on November 5, 2018

      8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

      8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

      We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

      Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

      Read on to learn the secret.

      1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

      To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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      Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

      Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

      2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

      You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

      However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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      3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

      It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

      To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

      4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

      Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

      This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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      5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

      In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

      Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

      However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

      6. There might just be a misunderstanding

      Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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      Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

      7. You learn to appreciate love as well

      A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

      However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

      8. Do you really need the hate?

      The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

      Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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