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5 Secrets to Being Confident and Earning People’s Respect

5 Secrets to Being Confident and Earning People’s Respect

It’s hard to wake up enthusiastic, or even indifferent, in the morning when you feel mistreated by people in your office, or by your friends or family. You need to understand that some people don’t know that they are hurting your feelings until you notify them they are doing so; just a small percentage of people are actually self-aware and empathetic enough to notice.

The secret lying behind positive relationships with people is in your attitude – the way you treat yourself and the way you treat those around you. By introducing the following changes in your life, you’ll be able to improve the quality of your life.

Take Good Care of Yourself

If you mistreat yourself physically by not taking proper care of your body – which is often very obvious – you’re giving everyone around you a good reason to disrespect you. If you don’t feel like you yourself are worthy of nourishment and attention, why should anyone else feel any different?

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Therefore, start by changing yourself. First of all, you need to establish a hygiene routine – and this one is a must – so you make yourself presentable. This can be interesting, because you have a chance to reinvent your style; you should explore different hairstyles, nurturing products for your skin, discover various new scents, and learn about ways to stop sweating if you have problems in that area.

This process can be frustrating, but if you look at this transition with positivity and enthusiasm to become a better person, you’ll be able to find out many new useful things and learn a lot about yourself.

Try to Be Genuinely Attentive

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    People are not divided into good and evil – we all have light and darkness in ourselves. Therefore, you shouldn’t be ashamed when you feel envy or anger, but you should strive towards recognizing those emotions, so you can find its roots and eventually exterminate them.

    So, when you’re communicating with someone, try to do it without having secret agendas, or don’t communicate at all. When you’re talking to someone, try to actually listen to what they have to say, and if you’re not in a position to help because a certain situation isn’t in your control, be a good listener and that will be enough. People are able to recognize insincerity, even if they are unable to put a finger on it, and this is something you should steer clear of.

    Work on Your Confidence

    Although we’re the most evolved species in the world, we function based on our primal instincts, and this is something you need to have in mind. One of those instincts is establishing dominance in your surroundings – I’m sure you’re familiar with at least one alpha specimen in your daily life.

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    Not everyone is a born leader, and if that’s not your cup of tea, you shouldn’t force yourself to be someone you’re not. However, you can be above this animalistic order if you work on your confidence by getting to know your skills and your capabilities. The feeling of self-worth is exactly the thing someone’s confidence is based on, and if you’re in constant self-development your self-esteem can only go up.

    Kindness and Manners

      Our modern lifestyle often doesn’t leave much time for small pleasures and commodities such as politeness. I believe this is quite unfortunate, because people forget to be nice to each other’s and that’s a real shame. You’d be surprised at what kind of feedback you can receive if you become sincerely kind – saying thank you and really meaning it is enriching, and I’m absolutely positive you’ll make someone’s day by doing so.

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      Don’t Allow People to Walk Over You

      Being good to people around you is one thing, but you mustn’t allow anyone to push you around. Offering your help to someone needs to be deserved, and you shouldn’t do anyone’s bidding if you don’t want to. Your free time is at your disposal and you need to spend it well; this is just another way to establish respect toward yourself, and everyone around you will follow your example.

      All these changes are a matter of mindset; in order to introduce them to your life, it’s quite necessary for you to be persistent and disciplined. No one said this is an easy transition, but if you do make it, you’ll develop strong will along the way, and you’ll wake up in the morning ready for all the challenges that may come your way.

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      Last Updated on September 12, 2019

      12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

      12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

      Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

      While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

      What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

      Here are 12 things to remember:

      1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

      The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

      However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

      We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

      Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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      2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

      You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

      Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

      Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

      3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

      Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

      Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

      4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

      Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

      No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

      5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

      Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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      Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

      6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

      Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

      Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

      Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

      7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

      Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

      Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

      And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

      8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

      When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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      Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

      9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

      Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

      Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

      Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

      10. Journal During This Time

      Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

      This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

      11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

      It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

      The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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      Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

      12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

      The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

      Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

      When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

      Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

      Final Thoughts

      Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

      Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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