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5 Secrets to Being Confident and Earning People’s Respect

5 Secrets to Being Confident and Earning People’s Respect

It’s hard to wake up enthusiastic, or even indifferent, in the morning when you feel mistreated by people in your office, or by your friends or family. You need to understand that some people don’t know that they are hurting your feelings until you notify them they are doing so; just a small percentage of people are actually self-aware and empathetic enough to notice.

The secret lying behind positive relationships with people is in your attitude – the way you treat yourself and the way you treat those around you. By introducing the following changes in your life, you’ll be able to improve the quality of your life.

Take Good Care of Yourself

If you mistreat yourself physically by not taking proper care of your body – which is often very obvious – you’re giving everyone around you a good reason to disrespect you. If you don’t feel like you yourself are worthy of nourishment and attention, why should anyone else feel any different?

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Therefore, start by changing yourself. First of all, you need to establish a hygiene routine – and this one is a must – so you make yourself presentable. This can be interesting, because you have a chance to reinvent your style; you should explore different hairstyles, nurturing products for your skin, discover various new scents, and learn about ways to stop sweating if you have problems in that area.

This process can be frustrating, but if you look at this transition with positivity and enthusiasm to become a better person, you’ll be able to find out many new useful things and learn a lot about yourself.

Try to Be Genuinely Attentive

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    People are not divided into good and evil – we all have light and darkness in ourselves. Therefore, you shouldn’t be ashamed when you feel envy or anger, but you should strive towards recognizing those emotions, so you can find its roots and eventually exterminate them.

    So, when you’re communicating with someone, try to do it without having secret agendas, or don’t communicate at all. When you’re talking to someone, try to actually listen to what they have to say, and if you’re not in a position to help because a certain situation isn’t in your control, be a good listener and that will be enough. People are able to recognize insincerity, even if they are unable to put a finger on it, and this is something you should steer clear of.

    Work on Your Confidence

    Although we’re the most evolved species in the world, we function based on our primal instincts, and this is something you need to have in mind. One of those instincts is establishing dominance in your surroundings – I’m sure you’re familiar with at least one alpha specimen in your daily life.

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    Not everyone is a born leader, and if that’s not your cup of tea, you shouldn’t force yourself to be someone you’re not. However, you can be above this animalistic order if you work on your confidence by getting to know your skills and your capabilities. The feeling of self-worth is exactly the thing someone’s confidence is based on, and if you’re in constant self-development your self-esteem can only go up.

    Kindness and Manners

      Our modern lifestyle often doesn’t leave much time for small pleasures and commodities such as politeness. I believe this is quite unfortunate, because people forget to be nice to each other’s and that’s a real shame. You’d be surprised at what kind of feedback you can receive if you become sincerely kind – saying thank you and really meaning it is enriching, and I’m absolutely positive you’ll make someone’s day by doing so.

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      Don’t Allow People to Walk Over You

      Being good to people around you is one thing, but you mustn’t allow anyone to push you around. Offering your help to someone needs to be deserved, and you shouldn’t do anyone’s bidding if you don’t want to. Your free time is at your disposal and you need to spend it well; this is just another way to establish respect toward yourself, and everyone around you will follow your example.

      All these changes are a matter of mindset; in order to introduce them to your life, it’s quite necessary for you to be persistent and disciplined. No one said this is an easy transition, but if you do make it, you’ll develop strong will along the way, and you’ll wake up in the morning ready for all the challenges that may come your way.

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      Nemanja Manojlovic

      Editor at MyCity Web

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      Last Updated on January 21, 2020

      How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

      How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

      If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

      Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

      So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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      1. Listen

      Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

      2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

      Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

      “Why do you want to do that?”

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      “What makes you so excited about it?”

      “How long has that been your dream?”

      You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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      3. Encourage

      This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

      4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

      After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

      5. Dream

      This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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      6. Ask How You Can Help

      Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

      7. Follow Up

      Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

      Final Thoughts

      By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

      Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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