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5 Secrets to Being Confident and Earning People’s Respect

5 Secrets to Being Confident and Earning People’s Respect

It’s hard to wake up enthusiastic, or even indifferent, in the morning when you feel mistreated by people in your office, or by your friends or family. You need to understand that some people don’t know that they are hurting your feelings until you notify them they are doing so; just a small percentage of people are actually self-aware and empathetic enough to notice.

The secret lying behind positive relationships with people is in your attitude – the way you treat yourself and the way you treat those around you. By introducing the following changes in your life, you’ll be able to improve the quality of your life.

Take Good Care of Yourself

If you mistreat yourself physically by not taking proper care of your body – which is often very obvious – you’re giving everyone around you a good reason to disrespect you. If you don’t feel like you yourself are worthy of nourishment and attention, why should anyone else feel any different?

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Therefore, start by changing yourself. First of all, you need to establish a hygiene routine – and this one is a must – so you make yourself presentable. This can be interesting, because you have a chance to reinvent your style; you should explore different hairstyles, nurturing products for your skin, discover various new scents, and learn about ways to stop sweating if you have problems in that area.

This process can be frustrating, but if you look at this transition with positivity and enthusiasm to become a better person, you’ll be able to find out many new useful things and learn a lot about yourself.

Try to Be Genuinely Attentive

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    People are not divided into good and evil – we all have light and darkness in ourselves. Therefore, you shouldn’t be ashamed when you feel envy or anger, but you should strive towards recognizing those emotions, so you can find its roots and eventually exterminate them.

    So, when you’re communicating with someone, try to do it without having secret agendas, or don’t communicate at all. When you’re talking to someone, try to actually listen to what they have to say, and if you’re not in a position to help because a certain situation isn’t in your control, be a good listener and that will be enough. People are able to recognize insincerity, even if they are unable to put a finger on it, and this is something you should steer clear of.

    Work on Your Confidence

    Although we’re the most evolved species in the world, we function based on our primal instincts, and this is something you need to have in mind. One of those instincts is establishing dominance in your surroundings – I’m sure you’re familiar with at least one alpha specimen in your daily life.

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    Not everyone is a born leader, and if that’s not your cup of tea, you shouldn’t force yourself to be someone you’re not. However, you can be above this animalistic order if you work on your confidence by getting to know your skills and your capabilities. The feeling of self-worth is exactly the thing someone’s confidence is based on, and if you’re in constant self-development your self-esteem can only go up.

    Kindness and Manners

      Our modern lifestyle often doesn’t leave much time for small pleasures and commodities such as politeness. I believe this is quite unfortunate, because people forget to be nice to each other’s and that’s a real shame. You’d be surprised at what kind of feedback you can receive if you become sincerely kind – saying thank you and really meaning it is enriching, and I’m absolutely positive you’ll make someone’s day by doing so.

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      Don’t Allow People to Walk Over You

      Being good to people around you is one thing, but you mustn’t allow anyone to push you around. Offering your help to someone needs to be deserved, and you shouldn’t do anyone’s bidding if you don’t want to. Your free time is at your disposal and you need to spend it well; this is just another way to establish respect toward yourself, and everyone around you will follow your example.

      All these changes are a matter of mindset; in order to introduce them to your life, it’s quite necessary for you to be persistent and disciplined. No one said this is an easy transition, but if you do make it, you’ll develop strong will along the way, and you’ll wake up in the morning ready for all the challenges that may come your way.

      Featured photo credit: http://stokpic.com/project/woman-standing-on-red-rocks-celebrating-success/ via pexels.com

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      Last Updated on September 17, 2018

      7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

      7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

      Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

      Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

      When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

      Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

      1. You’re depressed about your home life.

      No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

      However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

      If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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      When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

      You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

      2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

      Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

      If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

      You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

      If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

      3. You can’t stop snooping.

      Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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      I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

      Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

      So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

      It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

      If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

      4. You’re afraid of commitment.

      If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

      Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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      No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

      If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

      Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

      5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

      If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

      Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

      Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

      Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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      If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

      6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

      When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

      When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

      If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

      7. You chase past feelings.

      It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

      You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

      When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

      Final thoughts

      If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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