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5 Steps to Take The Day You Get Into a New Relationship

5 Steps to Take The Day You Get Into a New Relationship

Few things in life are as exciting and exhilarating as the first few weeks of a new relationship. There is something electrifying about learning to get to know someone and the unknown that often accompanies that process.

That being said, a large majority of relationships end much sooner than they would have if their participants had better nurtured them. Often it is not because those involved in the relationship were incompatible, but simply because one or both of them made a few basic mistakes. If those mistakes had been avoided, a flourishing relationship could have been created.

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Here are 4 things that every couple should do as soon as they start a new relationship in order to ensure its success.

Talk About Sexual Boundaries

There is a wide variety of viewpoints on sexual relations in a relationship, and it is virtually guaranteed that you and your new partner will have somewhat differing views on what those relations should be and when the different steps should be taken. Some people do not believe in sexual relations outside of marriage, while others prefer to wait until a certain number of dates. Even if you are both open to sexual relations, there are still boundaries to discuss. If you are frank and open, you will find that your partner appreciates your honesty and willingness to hold to whatever boundaries the two of you set.

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If you or your partner has been sexually active previous to your current relationship, then it is likely a good idea for you both to get some STD testing done. STDs often show up years later, and some of them can ruin lives.

Learn “Love Languages”

Everyone has a love language. For some people their love language is giving things to others. Other people prefer physical touch, yet still others prefer to spend time with those they love in order to express their feelings.

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The point is that we all have different love languages, and it is important to know what your partner’s is. You may discover that they are showing you love and you are not even realizing it. It is also important to know how to show love to those you are in a relationship with.

Identify Barriers To A Successful Relationship

Every relationship has barriers that you must overcome. The relationships that last find ways to overcome those barriers. It is important to be able to establish and identify barriers that may arise early in the relationship so that you can plan to overcome them.

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Some common barriers include the partner having an issue with family, ex-partners that keep popping into the relationship, friends, roommates, and more.

As you consider what barriers your relationship may face, try to consider what you are willing to do to overcome those barriers. Maybe you need to spend a little less time at work, or playing video games with your friends. Establish priorities and then stick to your guns.

Prioritize

This was mentioned briefly in the previous point, but it is extremely important to prioritize items in your relationship. That is not to say that your relationship needs to be your number one priority, especially at the beginning. Still, it is important to understand where your relationship lies in relation to other items in your life. Understanding this will be helpful when something that could potentially cause a relationship problem comes up; if you’ve prioritized prior to that moment, you will know what to do. Your priorities have already been set.

These four tips should always be taken into account at the start of a relationship. There are plenty of other important things, such as good communication, or showing your love, but these are a good start and can help build a good foundation for any relationship.

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Last Updated on March 5, 2021

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

“It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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